My Somali Friend's Aabo hit on me

[Zuleikha]

I know it's gross. I heard of so much stories but this is the first time it eve happened to me. I wasn't even at a somali party. I never go to stuff like that or the shisha spots Somali parents go to. He came to a place I was working at (I can't say where for security purposes) and I saw him so I approached him to see if he needed help. We chatted for a little bit. Then he started giving me advice so I thought nothing of it..typical adeers you know giving advice. Then he said that women should start thinking of marriage after a certain age, once they finish their university and that marriage will help us "mature''. He kept making stupid somali proverb comments about marriage and laughing at his own jokes and proceeded to touch my shoulder as he laughed. For a moment my brain didn't process that. I actually thought I must have imagined it or it was nothing. Then we sat by my desk and I helped him try to fill out a form and he touched my thigh. I felt so uncomfortable, I got up and moved over to the other side of my desk. Then he actually had the audacity to ask me if we should continue our "sheeko" another time and recommend that I take his number and reach out to him if I ever needed anything. What could I possibly need from an aging old aabo?

That's sexual assault not flirting sis. You should have threaten him he is probably a child molester.

 

[John Michael]

He probably watched you grow up, there's nothing more demoralizing, I would just ghost the entire family. An old man that can't keep his perv in check to that extent is very telling. There are skeletons in the family's closet.

Yes he has extremely bad impulse control. Usually these types molest their own kids as well or at the very least he's done it to other friends of his daughters.

This isn't just a simple case of an older guy going after a younger woman. It's a lot more predatory.

 

[MY.Brawler]

That's sexual assault not flirting sis. You should have threaten him he is probably a child molester.

Cmon now

 

[VixR]

Yes he has extremely bad impulse control. Usually these types molest their own kids as well or at the very least he's done it to other friends of his daughters.

This isn't just a simple case of an older guy going after a younger woman. It's a lot more predatory.

Exactly. A normal perv has boundaries, even if he has the thoughts, there's a sense of control and containment about them, the forethought of outside release. This guy, he's perving within his family's inner circle with impunity, he has no control and is beyond a sense of shame. And guaranteed he's done it before, and his family's probably aware.

 

[Luna]

I know it's gross. I heard of so much stories but this is the first time it eve happened to me. I wasn't even at a somali party. I never go to stuff like that or the shisha spots Somali parents go to. He came to a place I was working at (I can't say where for security purposes) and I saw him so I approached him to see if he needed help. We chatted for a little bit. Then he started giving me advice so I thought nothing of it..typical adeers you know giving advice. Then he said that women should start thinking of marriage after a certain age, once they finish their university and that marriage will help us "mature''. He kept making stupid somali proverb comments about marriage and laughing at his own jokes and proceeded to touch my shoulder as he laughed. For a moment my brain didn't process that. I actually thought I must have imagined it or it was nothing. Then we sat by my desk and I helped him try to fill out a form and he touched my thigh. I felt so uncomfortable, I got up and moved over to the other side of my desk. Then he actually had the audacity to ask me if we should continue our "sheeko" another time and recommend that I take his number and reach out to him if I ever needed anything. What could I possibly need from an aging old aabo?

Woah!!! That guy is seriously messed up. Stay away, as far as you possibly can tbh. Who knows what he will try to pull next time. Also, idk if telling your friend will do any good.

 

[dhegdheer]

Disgusting tell him to have some xisood or you'll snitch to his entire family

Why were you alone with him long enough for him to try and flirt with you?


You can't control the fact there are pervs out there but what you can control is who you are alone with.

LOOOL some odeys have no shame tho, I've been cornered loads of times on the bus They think having a conversations with them out of politeness is green light for flirting

 

[Gambar]

Disgusting tell him to have some xisood or you'll snitch to his entire family



LOOOL some odeys have no shame tho, I've been cornered loads of times on the bus They think having a conversations with them out of politeness is green light for flirting

You can't even say iska waran while smiling they'll think you're game for a third wife slot and a portion of his disability check.

 

[dhegdheer]

You can't even say iska waran while smiling they'll think you're game for a third wife slot and a portion of his disability check.

So true! I look very smiley and approachable 90% of the time so they take that as encouragement. I wish I had my sisters no nonsense face She'll stop these old adheers dead in their tracks with just one glance lmao

I talk to much wallahi I always end up answering their 99 questions before i clock that they're trying to shukanshi. Sometimes I even lie about where I live and get off a stop earlier if they're from the same neighborhood as me

 

[Gambar]

So true! I look very smiley and approachable 90% of the time so they take that as encouragement. I wish I had my sisters no nonsense face She'll stop these old adheers dead in their tracks with just one glance lmao

I talk to much wallahi I always end up answering their 99 questions before i clock that they're trying to shukanshi. Sometimes I even lie about where I live and get off a stop earlier if they're from the same neighborhood as me

Wallahi you have to be a and threaten them. Somalis don't get offended by much so they won't even care.

 

[Dire Dewa's son]

You're probably being dramatic like every other post you have..what the man asked you how you were doing and now you're here blowing it up.@Angela Davis

I need more proof and details until then

 

[Lucifer]

Yeah him touching your thigh just like that is sexual assualt.

 

[Mohamud]

"My Boyfriend is gay and flirts with my brother!"

I swear this site is turning into Maury. Or was it always this ratched?

this site is where human decency comes to die, sxb

ironically this thread is ample fanfic material for AJs next fucked up thread

 

[Abdalla]

It's not more perverted than my friend's hooyo hitting on me.

 

[Jjero]

so what?
he didn't do anything inappropriate, he didn't touch you
don't make fuss about it

 

[Angela Davis]

OMG really? I never suspected hooyos to be like that.

It's not more perverted than my friend's hooyo hitting on me.

 

[Lone Wanderer]

What the f*ck is this thread?

 

[gurey]

I know it's gross. I heard of so much stories but this is the first time it eve happened to me. I wasn't even at a somali party. I never go to stuff like that or the shisha spots Somali parents go to. He came to a place I was working at (I can't say where for security purposes) and I saw him so I approached him to see if he needed help. We chatted for a little bit. Then he started giving me advice so I thought nothing of it..typical adeers you know giving advice. Then he said that women should start thinking of marriage after a certain age, once they finish their university and that marriage will help us "mature''. He kept making stupid somali proverb comments about marriage and laughing at his own jokes and proceeded to touch my shoulder as he laughed. For a moment my brain didn't process that. I actually thought I must have imagined it or it was nothing. Then we sat by my desk and I helped him try to fill out a form and he touched my thigh. I felt so uncomfortable, I got up and moved over to the other side of my desk. Then he actually had the audacity to ask me if we should continue our "sheeko" another time and recommend that I take his number and reach out to him if I ever needed anything. What could I possibly need from an aging old aabo?

You know I thought at first you was being over dramatic loud mouth feminist, you know the usual types that make a big deal out of odeyyasha saying hii. But and its a big BUT.


He went too far iskooriska xun. He should be glad you didnt get police involved. Lets hope he doesnt try his this shit again

 

[Angela Davis]

I'm hardly dramatic or a loud mouth so your definition of a feminist is off.

You know I thought at first you was being over dramatic loud mouth feminist, you know the usual types that make a big deal out of odeyyasha saying hii. But and its a big BUT.


He went too far iskooriska xun. He should be glad you didnt get police involved. Lets hope he doesnt try his this shit again

 

[Angela Davis]

I know sis...it's so gross. I guess that's one less house I can go to.

This is really awkward. I wouldn't go anywhere near their house. I don't know how you can keep this friendship he will always be in her life.

 

[Angela Davis]

Some people say it's sexual assault and others are saying I'm being dramatic. Never been more confused.

You're probably being dramatic like every other post you have..what the man asked you how you were doing and now you're here blowing it up.@Angela Davis

I need more proof and details until then