One and Done?

[Bernie Madoff]

Yea I know like two Somali kids who are only child. One thing they both said to me is how lonely they get about not having siblings cause to me that sounded bizzare cause I rather be the only child

 

[bluebird]

Yea I know like two Somali kids who are only child. One thing they both said to me is how lonely they get about not having siblings cause to me that sounded bizzare cause I rather be the only child

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[Material]

it would be so depressing to be an only child, sitting in your room, the only person to talk to is your parents

that would be amazing. no brothers or sisters to annoy u

 

[Halimo-2018]

I Grew up with 11 siblings each with a different character and looks. The more kids in the house the more interesting the house will be and your children won’t end up being xaasid because they constantly have to share things. You’ll make that child’s life depressing if you left him with no siblings. If his parents die he will no longer have any family.

One of the most xaasid people I've seen are people that grew up with 9 plus siblings.

 

[Halimo-2018]

Yes, me. ..I use to say 3 I think I'll stop at 1.

 

[digaagjecel]

One of the most xaasid people I've seen are people that grew up with 9 plus siblings.

I mean the opposite could happen because they might get that every man for himself mentality but it’s unlikely.

 

[Desert Flower]

I mean the opposite could happen because they might get that every man for himself mentality but it’s unlikely.

I agree with Halimo. I've seen families with multiple kids have such a mentality of xaasidniimo.

 

[digaagjecel]

I agree with Halimo. I've seen families with multiple kids have such a mentality of xaasidniimo.

I believe it’s very unlikely how can you be a xaasid when you share a room with 3 people, share 1 bathroom,share food, and grow up to be a xaasid later on. It’s way more logically to believe a kid who got everything he wanted would end up xaasid.

 

[Nafiso Qalanjo]

Only child's dont understand how lucky they got it.

 

[Sol]

I used to think I only want 1 child or 2 max. But when my mum got ill/passed away AUN, I realised how important having a large family was. I cannot imagine if I had to deal with all that on my own or have only 1 person to help out.

But I wouldn’t want a massive family like my parents either.

I think 3-5 is the perfect amount for that reason

 

[Desert Flower]

I believe it’s very unlikely how can you be a xaasid when you share a room with 3 people, share 1 bathroom,share food, and grow up to be a xaasid later on. It’s way more logically to believe a kid who got everything he wanted would end up xaasid.

People are different. Some may be resentful because they had to share everything, and did not get attention that they needed/craved. Some with many siblings act so selfish, it makes you wonder whether they are, in fact, only children.

 

[Amirah]

I Grew up with 11 siblings each with a different character and looks. The more kids in the house the more interesting the house will be and your children won’t end up being xaasid because they constantly have to share things. You’ll make that child’s life depressing if you left him with no siblings. If his parents die he will no longer have any family.

I beg to differ! I know plenty of ppl from large families that xasiid numero uno! Some so selfish even if their parents are hospitalized won’t even bother to stop by.

 

[Amirah]

A lot of Somalis (younger generation) are having smaller families. My friends/cousins with families mostly have 2-3 children .

If you live in the West it makes sense . The house will not feel overcrowded, you will have more time to spend with each child and you have more money to do things such as going on holidays and extracurricular activities.

Yeah I think the average is like 4 with educated crowd and around 6 with the rest.

 

[Desert Flower]

Also, remember that many of us are speaking from our own experiences. TBH, I haven't seen much cohesiveness among large families (6+ children) and I do wonder if things are different if there are only a few children around. I continuously make dua that Allah grants me children who love one another, and have each other's backs always. Many have alot of siblings, but still feel so alone. It is the worst feeling.

 

[Desert Flower]

Yeah I think the average is like 4 with educated crowd and around 6 with the rest.

Exactly. The younger generations (Say Wallahi's for example) are having max 3 children.

 

[Amirah]

Exactly. The younger generations (Say Wallahi's for example) are having max 3 children.

Personally I would like 4 iA. One of my distant aunts has one kid, she’s 19 and omg the poor girl! Her mom is thoroughly obsessed with her. She made the girl her hobby in life lol, always naaging. If she disappears into her room for 15 minutess, she’ll drag her out. She does everything for her, so this kid at 19 is like a 10yr old. She’ll even force her to the bathroom to shower lol.

 

[AbdiS]

Only lamaa ooyaan langaabs do that.
I am a part of beesha welfare check, alx. I keep landheernimo status even in the west

 

[Desert Flower]

Personally I would like 4 iA. One of my distant aunts has one kid, she’s 19 and omg the poor girl! Her mom is thoroughly obsessed with her. She made the girl her hobby in life lol, always naaging. If she disappears into her room for 15 minutess, she’ll drag her out. She does everything for her, so this kid at 19 is like a 10yr old. She’ll even force her to the bathroom to shower lol.

Parents do that regardless abayo. I do not think the number of kids is relevant.