Those of you who practice weaponised incompetence. Are you aware that you are headed to a dangerous path?

In Islam, selfishness is definitely seen as a sin, especially when it harms others or stops someone from fulfilling their responsibilities. If someone deliberately withholds their strength, skills, or knowledge to avoid responsibility or burden others unfairly, that goes against Islamic teachings. The Prophet ο·Ί said, β€œThe best of people are those who are most beneficial to others,” which makes it clear that refusing to help when you’re capable is wrong.

The Quran also emphasises generosity and warns against being selfish. Even withholding resources when others need them is condemnedβ€”like when the Prophet ο·Ί said that whoever withholds excess water will be withheld from Allah’s mercy. Islam encourages balance, but intentionally practicing incompetence or avoiding duties is dishonest and harmful, making it a betrayal of both people and faith.

So, if you are laying around at home, whilst your female relatives slave in the kitchen, what Islam are you practising? Isku xishood, even if you are inherently lazy and selfish, at least save yourself from eternal torment. Unless you have a disability, there is no excuse, orad wax qabo.

Also, those of you who are married and you notice your wife is less affectionate or too tired for you, newsflash: women are not attracted to men who behave like babies or are selfish. You are creating a mother-baby dynamic in your own marriage.
 
Easiest way to get some ajaar during Ramadan is simply helping out at home. It's not even that deep/hard. :manny:

The easiest and best way to be a good Muslim.

The Prophet ο·Ί said, β€œThe best of you are those who are best to their families, and I am the best to my family.” (Tirmidhi 3895)


I really think some people think all they have to do is pray, read qur'aan and they're going to heaven. Meanwhile, they are sitting like princesses as their hooyo and sisters slave in the house. Probably lifting up a leg as someone hoovers. Walahi, waa yaaba marmar. Thankfully in my home, there was no gendered labour growing up and nobody was allowed to get away with nonsense.
 
I find it shocking that someone can watch their family slave away as they do nothing. Xishood ma jirto? I wonder if it's pathological and shows that someone is a narcissist or even worse/psycho or sociopathic. I inherently don't trust selfish people and wouldn't leave anyone around them who may need help. Imagine what they would do if a baby had a full diaper, or an invalid in the house needed something. Waa dad khatar leh.
 
Somali girls when their mom makes them fold sambuus all day while their brother plays PS5

This is reinforced by parents. Mine never permitted sexist labour division as both genders had to do labour in the house. I hope people learn to raise their children to be good, selfless people. Or they are setting them up for failure in this life and the next. Selfish people have way less opportunities to collect good deeds, and in this life, can't form good relationships.
 
I find it shocking that someone can watch their family slave away as they do nothing. Xishood ma jirto? I wonder if it's pathological and shows that someone is a narcissist or even worse/psycho or sociopathic. I inherently don't trust selfish people and wouldn't leave anyone around them who may need help. Imagine what they would do if a baby had a full diaper, or an invalid in the house needed something. Waa dad khatar leh.
They will leave you for dead when you are struggling. These people love to take and never give. Then when you survived and are doing well they want to waltz back into your life and joke around with you. I hate people like this the most. I just keep it cordial.
 

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It’s selfishness on the highest level. If you are an able-bodied human and your excuse for not doing chores or cooking is β€œI’m a man” you are despicable. There’s no excuse for not cleaning, it’s not rocket science. There’s also no excuse for not cooking. You can learn or take a β€œsous chef” role, where you take care of all the prep so everything is easier for the main cook. Btw this isn’t even limited to ramadan I’m talking in general.
 
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