Ranking The Value of Relationships (TIER LIST)

[Keep it a boqol]

Relationships are a fundamental part of life—they shape who we are, influence our happiness, and impact our personal growth. Like anything valuable, relationships require time and energy, but when invested wisely, they offer the greatest returns in fulfillment, stability, and success.

Not all relationships hold the same weight. Some deserve your unconditional love and commitment, while others should be kept at a distance or cut off entirely. This tier list serves as a guide to help you prioritize the right connections, ensuring that your energy is spent on people who truly matter and contribute positively to your life.


S-Tier (Divine & Unconditional Bonds)


Allah

The only One who deserves your absolute trust, vulnerability, and submission. Allah never lets you down, never betrays you, and always has your best interests in mind. Surah Al-Baqarah (2:216) reminds us:

“Perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you, and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you.”

Turn to Allah with your struggles, your gratitude, and your hopes—because no human relationship compares.


Your Children

The only unconditional love after Allah. Your child’s first experience of love and security comes from you—how you treat them will shape them for life. Time is always running out, but time spent with them is never wasted.


Your Parents (Especially Your Mother)

Despite their flaws, they raised you and sacrificed for you. Your mother’s love is the purest human love you will ever receive. Even if your relationship is complicated, respect and care for them—it speaks to your character.


A-Tier (Strong Bonds & Life Partners)


Your Loyal Friends (The Solid Homies)

Real friends are rare. A solid homie is someone who is loyal, trustworthy, and reliable. They keep your secrets, have your back, and won’t let you fall without warning you. If you have these, hold onto them. And always return the loyalty.


Your Wife

Your wife is not just a partner, she is a responsibility. The love for a wife includes patience, mercy, and sabr. She should be someone who qualifies in your eyes, respects you, and supports your vision. In return, you provide, protect, and lead. If she’s good to you, don’t take her for granted.


B-Tier (Good to Have, but Keep Boundaries)


Acquaintances & Networking Connections

Not everyone is a close friend, but that doesn’t mean they’re useless. Acquaintances can lead to opportunities. Some may help you in unexpected ways. Keep it professional and don’t overshare, but don’t burn bridges unnecessarily.


C-Tier (Keep Distance, Stay Cautious)


Co-Workers

Be respectful, but not naive. In corporate or competitive fields, many will throw you under the bus to get ahead. Don’t mistake them for friends—they are colleagues, not your people. Keep your business to yourself and stay sharp.


D-Tier (Toxic & Hindering—Cut Them Off)


Fake Friends & Haters

These people secretly want to see you fail. They watch you struggle, but won’t give you real advice because they want to stay ahead of you. They smile in your face but would rather see you below them than help you rise. Cut them off immediately.


Exes

If they’re still in your orbit, watching your stories, or reaching out, they’re holding you back. Maybe you dumped them, maybe they dumped you, maybe you liked them more than they liked you—but the relationship is done. Stop looking back. If they truly valued you, they wouldn’t have fumbled you. Delete and move on.

Summary

• Prioritize the right relationships. Give time and energy to those who genuinely matter.

• Don’t mistake proximity for loyalty. Just because someone is around you doesn’t mean they are for you.

• Cut off what hinders your growth. No room for people who slow you down or don’t reciprocate respect.

This is your life, and your energy is valuable. Move accordingly.

 

[The truth seeker]

It’s easy to spot a fake friend never returns a favor , is never around when you need help ,and is the first to leave you if you get involved in a scandal

Never trust an Indian or a Chinese at work they’ll steal your idea just so they can get a pay raise

 

[Keep it a boqol]

It’s easy to spot a fake friend never returns a favor , is never around when you need help ,and is the first to leave you if you get involved in a scandal

Never trust an Indian or a Chinese at work they’ll steal your idea just so they can get a pay raise

fake friends are the worst

 

[gasara]

It’s easy to spot a fake friend never returns a favor , is never around when you need help ,and is the first to leave you if you get involved in a scandal

Never trust an Indian or a Chinese at work they’ll steal your idea just so they can get a pay raise

Had some brown dude who was apart of my friends friend group sabotage my project in the lab room and he did something that got me yelled at by the TA. Wallahi ever since then I have learned from. He then tried talking to me all nice??? I never cared about him before but ever since then I've avoided that individual. Stem really got the most evilest people I just keep my head down and lie about what I do.

 

[Keep it a boqol]

Had some brown dude who was apart of my friends friend group sabotage my project in the lab room and he did something that got me yelled at by the TA. Wallahi ever since then I have learned from. He then tried talking to me all nice??? I never cared about him before but ever since then I've avoided that individual. Stem really got the most evilest people I just keep my head down and lie about what I do.

Science majors are the worst people ever. Everyone’s xasid and gunning for graduate acceptance and willingly to backstage you and hide information and game from you to get ahead.

Engineering students, Arts and other faculties and programs even compsci has a lot of comradery. These guys are mostly type A and delusional and will most likely be stuck in research

 

[kamek]

Wife/husband should be higher imo, why are they in the same tier as your friends? Other than that the list is good.

 

[gasara]

Science majors are the worst people ever. Everyone’s xasid and gunning for graduate acceptance and willingly to backstage you and hide information and game from you to get ahead.

Engineering students, Arts and other faculties and programs even compsci has a lot of comradery. These guys are mostly type A and delusional and will most likely be stuck in research

Nah this lab was for Eng and CS kids. Idk what happened but first and second year they are miskeen then full on xaasidnimo in third year and up. It’s cuz they don’t want people to get higher grades than them. Now I learned I have to downplay so they aren’t evil.

 

[Keep it a boqol]

Nah this lab was for Eng and CS kids. Idk what happened but first and second year they are miskeen then full on xaasidnimo in third year and up. It’s cuz they don’t want people to get higher grades than them. Now I learned I have to downplay so they aren’t evil.

What’s the point? Grades arnt as important for those majors unless you’re trying to get into grade school. That’s insanity

 

[gasara]

What’s the point? Grades arnt as important for those majors unless you’re trying to get into grade school. That’s insanity

I just lie about my grade so I can still get the notes and details they know. Cuz once they know you get a grade point higher than them all the networks collapse. Also, at my school the higher your gpa is the more of a chance you get to work at the school and with a prof which they want. So these kids are competing with one another so they become xaasid.

 

[Keep it a boqol]

Wife/husband should be higher imo, why are they in the same tier as your friends? Other than that the list is good.

I’m single so this list is biased. I’m lucky to have solid bros as well as i’m not focused on getting married rn.

If i was married i’d still put Spouse as A tho. People can switch up and marriage is conditional with alot of mercy and second chances. If a husband and wife is constantly disrespecting you, not changing, or not giving you want you need in a relationship, you should leave. That’s why it’s not unconditional like loving your child.

 

[kamek]

I’m single so this list is biased. I’m lucky to have solid bros as well as i’m not focused on getting married rn.

If i was married i’d still put Spouse as A tho. People can switch up and marriage is conditional with alot of mercy and second chances. If a husband and wife is constantly disrespecting you, not changing, or not giving you want you need in a relationship, you should leave. That’s why it’s not unconditional like loving your child.

i don’t think you’re being fair tbh, that same logic applies to any type of relationship ,if anyone is being disrespectful, not giving you what you deserve, and refusing to change you should leave them, the only difference is you’re more likely to give your child more chances than your spouse , but that doesn’t matter because i never stated your spouse should be on the same tier as your child, I just don’t believe they should be on the same tier as your friends let alone below them, furthermore I can promise you’re more likely to give your wife more chances than your friends.

if someone truly finds the love of their life, and has a healthy relationship then yes I believe they are above your friends ( but still below parent/child), you also islamicallly have more of a responsibility to your spouse than your friends, at least put your spouse at higher A.