Should I marry a rape victim, or nah? (need advice come in plz)

[BebsiBolice]

Ewww that is disgusting what is wrong with the men in that city. uff, what are they being taught about women sick psychopaths. Looks like the women in that city need to have some kind of feminist revolution.


doesnt it suck that if it was the otherway around no one would object and would even help, but a fair fight between somalia and ethiopia, ethiopia would have mama U.N. and papa A.U. to back them up any day

well there's a reason for it currently. They hide behind the jewish and christian tag. Once we actually rebuild our country and start tapping into our natural resources everyone will be bowing to us.

 

[Somali psycho]

She is a damaged goods, I will pass. You sound very inexperienced and naive kid. what happened to her is horrible, but Marriage shouldn't be based on charity.

 

[HalyeeyQaran]

We will simply take theirs as they have taken ours.

That must be some fire kush you're smoking to say some laughable shit like that.

 

[Canuck]

She is a damaged goods, I will pass. You sound very inexperienced and naive kid. what happened to her is horrible, but Marriage shouldn't be based on charity.

When men are raped in prisons, are they demaged goods? Or reformed man and married easy. The term demaged good is very harsh. I agree with you on marriage is not charity but he seems to love her.

 

[Reign]

I do like her tbh and made my mind up before knowing this, and my position didnt really change after finding out. Im not exaggerating when I say shes beautiful, and Im not marrying her out of pity, I asked her to marry me before all of this anyway..

Today she wanted me to walk by her window so she could see me, so I did and it was good to see her happy, Im just disturbed that predatory rapists casually walk around while the victim lives in hell, Im waiting for when I move to hargeisa and bring her there with me, the ties my pops has with the police commisioner and the army will then prove useful.

Just yesterday I was chewing (I dont chew all the time, just socially/occasionaly) with a group of youths. I took them to a spot outside of the town and bought their jaad for them, after we hit the mellow mirqaan one of them was telling me how he and another guy lured a girl to this very spot and raped her along with 10 other guys, after she phoned her brother, who works in a near by farm, he rushes to the scene and they beat him up too, they were laughing as they were telling me this. Then they said they need to look for another virgin to rape, I sat there thinking what the f*ck, Im at the point where now I only want to communicate with the other qurbajoogs here.

What the actual fxck?

 

[The Cushitic One]

in hargeisa if you report rape the offenders can get 7 years, but in a small community like arabsiyo the family of the victim fear of slander and their daughter's reputation being ruined forever, so they keep it hidden, she asked me while she was crying if she should report it, i told her leave it for later my father has ties to the army here and he can get them arrested so no need to rush...

I wanted to marry her before I knew of this, and I still want to marry her now because I don't do zina, and I am now 21.

Marry her, it wasn't her fault she got raped and she will find a way to move on and live with it.

I think it will bring closure to her, if you can get the rapists arrested it would be a great gesture and would mean so much to her to know they will pay for what they have done.

Allah crossed your path with hers for a reason.

 

[Mudug-Madman]

Wow, this whole thing is messed up. I never experienced anything like this when I went to Somalia, but some of the things I heard made me realize how commonplace rape is over there. It's truly horrifying. What's even worse is how the women are treated afterward, like it's their fault or that they did something wrong, while the men get to walk free. It's truly sick wallahi.

Also, it's amazing to see @waraabe behaving like a normal person with empathy in this thread. What happened, did he get bored and just start trolling 24/7? I gained a lot of respect for him regardless.

 

[BrightEyes]

This kinda shit is so common in Somaliland. It's one of the reasons why I would never move there. Gang rape is so normal over there. f*ck that!

 

[Mohamud]

This kinda shit is so common in Somaliland. It's one of the reasons why I would never move there. Gang rape is so normal over there. f*ck that!

 

[BrightEyes]

What? It's true.

 

[Mercury]

This kinda shit is so common in Somaliland. It's one of the reasons why I would never move there. Gang rape is so normal over there. f*ck that!

Common kulaha

Why u trynna make it sound like its a daily occurance

 

[Inactive]

Rape is common in the Somali regions.

Even Menace is involved in those rapes when hes back home.

 

[dhegdheer]

Wtfff at men luring these poor girls out just to rape them. That's horrifying!

I wouldn't even be surprised if it was a common occurrence, these guys are obviously not punished so they think they can get away with it.
They'll just blame it all on the poor girl, it's disgusting

This kinda shit is so common in Somaliland. It's one of the reasons why I would never move there. Gang rape is so normal over there. f*ck that!

Not being able to go out at night by yourself sounds depressing and stiffing. I wouldn't want to live in a place that restrictive

 

[Warsame Ali]

I can even marry drunk Xaliimo from clubs. is not a big deal

 

[VixR]

Ditto, Dhegdheer. To borrow a phrase from CogDis, "Motherfuck" these third-world bankrupt in-every-way countries. You couldn't pay me to live there.

 

[ace mooha]

5th month running since I left the UK for the motherland, tbh, nothing really surprised me as much as the frequency of rape. Here in Arabsiyo, I know nearly most of the dhalinyaro (youth), and I only found out recently that the majority of them are rapists who spend time planning on how to get such and such a girl out of her house at night and to gang rape her.

This girl I've been talking to for a month or so, let's say her name is Xalimo, Xalimo is 18, she's pretty, young, and has a bubbly personality, I always went past her front door but never really paid any attention until one day her younger brothers were yelling my name, and as I walked by she said "Play with the children, xaasidyahow". I responded with " They are not my brothers!". She laughed and said " Labadiinu, waan is raacindoona", "Halkee?" I said, "Meelkasta". So I went off and thought, ok, probably should get her number some other day and proceed with this.

One of the youths that I know came up to me that night and said " Waryaa, ma dhilada ayey maanta kula hadashey?", I was surprised and asked him why would he call her that, he then says that she's a hoe and that I will ruin my family name if I was seen with her.

Next day I walk past her and she calls out to me and says kaalay, I stand infront of her and she asks why was I intentionally ignoring her, I said (paraphrasing), "after hearing things about you, I don't understand what film your playing at me, but the truth is, I don't want to risk ruining my family name". She says "ok" and goes into her house,

Fast forward a few days a friend of mine who's friends with her brother, and who often goes in and out of their house comes up to me at duhr while I was resting under the shade, and says " I've never known someone she wants as much as you breh, she was blaming me for making you hate her. Dude, she wrote the initial 'N' on her hand, she told me that the day you rejected her, she slept and skipped all of her meals, she wants you breh, just give her your number"

I was like... ok, so I gave her my number, and we began talking over the phone, one of my cousins who I spend most of my time with saw her name on my phonebook and began yellin' " Are you crazy!? do you think your family will accept a hoe!? the f*ck is wrong with you" I went off thinking the entire day, "they are probably right she's probably playing me for that qurbajoog money"..

So I rejected her calls and the next morning decided to pick up and yelled at her " Hadaad Ilaahi garanaysid, aniga iyo telefoonkaygi amaan ii sii, halis wayn baad ii galisay, naga tag". I then went on to behave as if I never knew her, but I heard disturbing reports of self-harm on that same day, of her drinking something, and cutting her hand.

So I spoke to one of my cousins who came from London and is in hargeisa, who's a female, for some advice, she convinced me that she wasn't a hoe and maybe is called one for being seen talking to guys outside her doorstep.

I thought, well I was wrong for yelling at her after being influenced by the views by X,Y and Z.. so I called her and comforted her, and asked her if she drank anything dangerous... she said it's all lies but she cut her palm with a knife, I was very disturbed by this tbh..

For the next couple of days I kept our relationship under the rug, knowing that the society here is fucking outrageous with gossip, until one day, my cousin who told me that she was a hoe saw her number calling me, I was absent bear in mind. When I came in he said, " Didn't I tell you she was a hoe?" "Nine guys went into her, she's a " I told him who told him that? He said "Do you want me to call 7 out of 9 of the guys?" This is when I thought, hold up, this chick was raped by nine guys, and this is the reason why she's labelled a hoe..

At first I was confused and angry, the way my cousin put it, I had thoughts of her intentionally going into that, but after being alone for 48 hours and thinking, and at night praying to God for a clarification in this situation, I spoke to my female cousin who flew in from London. She as a girl said that she doesn't think for the slightest that any girl would get into that, so I then went to my uncles wife who knows the girl and she said that nine guys raped her, and that the guy who lured her went to her house at 8 PM and said " saxibadaada bey ku dooneysa tukaan bey joogta" so she got dressed and as she was going to the shop he then said she's on the main road , when she went there the other 8 were there and they formed a circle and took her to the doox (dry river bed) at night and raped her there, she said she was puking for 2 days and doesn't feel safe to leave home since...

When I heard this I thought should I just leave her and don't talk to her, or should I come clean with my thoughts... So I called her last night at 10 PM, after rejected her calls for 2 days, and when she picked up the phone she said why was I blanking her, "waad ii nacday, iska tag.." etc.. I said "I've been thinking for the last 48 hours about what I was told..." and she said "what?" and I said "you know that thing that happened to you that ruined your name and rep" she said "maxaad ka hadlaysa?" and then I said "I'm shocked at the culture here, and furious at it, youths go around destroying the lives of young women and their families, while they have nothing to fear of, I was told 9 men raped you.. I was told this because it was meant to convince me that you are a hoe, but this only made me more angry, how could I make sense of this? How is it that you have to suffer this while they go and plan to do the same to another girl, do they not see you women as human beings, what girl would ask for a crime like that to be done to her?

As I was talking I could hear her crying as she was saying " haa" after every statement I made, this absolutely closed the case for me that she was gang raped, I changed the convo thereafter, and we spoke for a good 40 mins, me telling her that I'm moving to hargeisa and that I will contact her there, and that hopefully this relationship will end up being marriage because tbh, I did like her before I knew this, and I even brought her to my uncle's restauarant and bought her supper, but after hearing this, I only think of myself as being as bad as them rapists if I were to leave her because of the fact that she was 'raped', like as if it was her fault.


So should I marry her or nah?

(P.S, It happened in March, when I took her out for supper she was wearing a slim fit dress and there was no sign of pregnancy, and she doesn't look ill at all, but I will get her tested for HIV, but insha Allah she doesn't have it)

So, I've been working on my marksmanship lately and I think I can pull this off.
I might come to hargeisa next year, you find me a nice sniper rifle and I will send those mofo to the grave one by one.
Nobody has to know. Just hit me up if the popos don't do their job.

Good luck tho.

 

[dhegdheer]

@Freebandz sounds like a rapist.

Also f*ck ppl in this thread pushing their twisted logic, a women going out at night doesn't make her a . You're the problem

Ditto, Dhegdheer. To borrow a phrase from CogDis, "Motherfuck" these third-world bankrupt in-every-way countries. You couldn't pay me to live there.

If these ppl had their way we would be staying indoors 24/7

 

[TekNiKo]

This story literally made me shed a tear, poor girl didnt deserve such a horrifying dreadful experience. Bruh, if you love her marry her, if you dont Im willing to marry her give me her number I am in Somalia

 

[ace mooha]

This story literally made me shed a tear, poor girl didnt deserve such a horrifying dreadful experience. Bruh, if you love her marry her, if you dont Im willing to marry her give me her number I am in Somalia

Somebody come get this thirsty nigga some water.

 

[Prince of Lasanod]

Sad, but you shouldn't marry someone because you feel sorry for them.