Should promiscuous Somali girls be given a second chance by Somali males?

[Kaafiye]

Let's be honest, those who commit zina---do they REALLY regret what they've done in the past? I mean really?

Part of repentance includes sincerely regretting your sin, being remorseful of it, hiding the fact that you committed zina, and resolving never to go back to it again. But I know many Somalis who claim they regret what they've done yet they are so casual about it. They even brag about it. And this goes for both Somali guys and Somali girls. How many Somali girls claim to be remorseful of their fornication yet they still keep regular contact with their exes? How many of them maintain friendships with fellow Somali girls who still regularly engage in zina?

Part of repentance also includes a complete lifestyle change. Yet these Somalis continue to behave in the same manner as they did before they made their "repentance". And that's an undeniable fact.

 

[Cognitivedissonance]

I'd sell her.

 

[angrycat]

Most of the posters think not being a virgin = being promiscuous.

Imho, promiscuity is a personality trait. They should only date/marry other promiscuous individuals because I don't believe they can change or become suitable spouses. A non-virgin with standards who made tawbah is different and deserving of a second chance.

Some of them also thing being divorced with half not somali kids is promiscuous

 

[Hubble]

I'd sell her.

Come again

 

[Kaafiye]

Some of them also thing being divorced with half not somali kids is promiscuous

You cannot shame someone into doing something that they don't want to do. As sad as it is, most Somali guys do NOT want to marry a Somali woman who's been divorced by an Ajnaabi, especially if she also has half-Somali children from this marriage.

I've always told people that if you aren't 100% sure you wanna marry this person, and if you have deep lingering issues regarding marrying them, that you shouldn't do it. It would be better for the divorced Somali woman to be married to a man who actually WANTS to be with her.

 

[Hubble]

I think it's generous of Somali women to marry men with predictably failed liaisons with cadaan women. I can't count the number of times I heard "beri hore naag cadaan buu qabay oo caruur u dhashay". Its usually a shockingly traditional Somali man too.

 

[Cognitivedissonance]

Come again

Did I stutter?

 

[Cognitivedissonance]

Now that FGM has gone down promiscuity is on the rise I heard an old woman say lol

 

[Hubble]

You're all the creepy rolled into one

 

[Cognitivedissonance]

You're all the creepy rolled into one

Thank you. You're far too kind & your words are humbling.

 

[SomaliSteel]

You marry a hoe, you deserve what you get.

 

[angrycat]

You cannot shame someone into doing something that they don't want to do. As sad as it is, most Somali guys do NOT want to marry a Somali woman who's been divorced by an Ajnaabi, especially if she also has half-Somali children from this marriage.

I've always told people that if you aren't 100% sure you wanna marry this person, and if you have deep lingering issues regarding marrying them, that you shouldn't do it. It would be better for the divorced Somali woman to be married to a man who actually WANTS to be with her.

Im not shaming anyone, i'm saying it doesn't make her promiscuous. Sometimes marriages work out sometimes they don't regardless of whether it was mixed culture or not. If you dont want to marry someone, fine, but don't degrade her either.

 

[Sufiyan]

Let's be honest, those who commit zina---do they REALLY regret what they've done in the past? I mean really?

Part of repentance includes sincerely regretting your sin, being remorseful of it, hiding the fact that you committed zina, and resolving never to go back to it again. But I know many Somalis who claim they regret what they've done yet they are so casual about it. They even brag about it. And this goes for both Somali guys and Somali girls. How many Somali girls claim to be remorseful of their fornication yet they still keep regular contact with their exes? How many of them maintain friendships with fellow Somali girls who still regularly engage in zina?

Part of repentance also includes a complete lifestyle change. Yet these Somalis continue to behave in the same manner as they did before they made their "repentance". And that's an undeniable fact.

I think this is unfair and your generalizing the good Somali bros and sisters who were guided back to the straight path and away from a life of fahisha. I know many and they are mashallah and do not brag or even bring up theyr sinful pasts other then to warn away the youth from it.

 

[Kaafiye]

I think this is unfair and your generalizing the good Somali bros and sisters who were guided back to the straight path and away from a life of fahisha. I know many and they are mashallah and do not brag or even bring up theyr sinful pasts other then to warn away the youth from it.

I'm not generalizing anyone. I've lived amongst Somalis for years and I know how our people operate. Are there some Somalis who genuinely regret their bad actions and made a lifestyle change? Of course there are.

But I also know many Somalis who say they've repented while their behavior hasn't changed much at all. Some Somali girls claim to regret their past actions of Zina yet their close friends still regularly commit the sin and they even speak about it when amongst each other. The same goes for Somali men. Some of them even still have contact with their exes! And you want to call that a repentance?!!

If you genuinely regret something, then you'll do everything you can to make a complete lifestyle change and separate yourself from your past life. Malcolm X was a perfect example of this. When he changed, it's not like he maintained his past relationships and friendships from his old life. In fact, Malcolm was completely unrecognizable and he is the best example of someone who changed for the sake of Allah.

Just because you say you've repented doesn't mean shit. Actions speak louder than words, and the actions of these Somalis speak for themselves.