Should you marry a mommy's boy? - ladies come on in

[Yaraye]

When I say mama's boy, I don't mean men who respect their mother and show filial piety. Filial piety is a must in islam for all children toward's their parents especially their mother. I'm talking about the boy that looks for his mother for every little answer. Tells his mother everything about the marriage, and gives no privacy. His mother is too involved and he only listens to her, and rarely his wife. He lets his mother bully his wife, and prioritizes his mother over you. He shields this as filial piety and tells you to endure it. Every time you guys have an issue, he says, "she's my mother, endure it", "She's your MIL, you should be filial to her" or "she's my mother, she's right." Or he even tries or she tries to live with you guys.

Ladies what do you say about this?

 

[Qeelbax]

absolutely not.

 

[Ahmed123-]

and prioritizes his mother over you.

Hooyo > Random Xalimo, who has given me kids.

 

[SociallyAwkwardFarax]

if you’re not looking for a mamas boy you’re going to have to marry older men (25+), every younger guy is a mamas boy since that’s who had control over our lives since we were babies.

 

[jemappelle]

every younger guy is a mamas boy since that’s who had control over our lives since we were babies.

Your projecting yourself now, most men are not mummas boys.

 

[Yaraye]

Hooyo > Random Xalimo, who has given me kids.

this is the mentality that made me create this thread. Its normal to have filial piety for one's mother, but its not normal to put one's mother above their spouse all the time

 

[SociallyAwkwardFarax]

You’re projecting yourself now, most men are not mummas boys.

If most men aren’t mamas boy then why is this even a topic at all, just simply ignore the mamas boys then

 

[jemappelle]

If most men aren’t mamas boy then why is this even a topic at all, just simply ignore the mamas boys then

Because certain men are mommas boys, specifically in certain cultures they are.

 

[SociallyAwkwardFarax]

Because certain men are mommas boys, specifically in certain cultures they are.

Are you implying there’s a high precedence of mamas boys in our culture?

if so, blame the mothers for raising their sons to be excessively dependent on them and encourage any future sons you may have into learning to be more independent from ‘mama’

 

[jemappelle]

Are you implying there’s a high precedence of mamas boys in our culture?

if so, blame the mothers for raising their sons to be excessively dependent on them and encourage any future sons you may have into learning to be more independent from ‘mama’

this topic is not about blaming anyone its if you should consider marrying a mommas boy

 

[SociallyAwkwardFarax]

this topic is not about blaming anyone its if you should consider marrying a mommas boy

Simply ignore them

 

[Yaraye]

Are you implying there’s a high precedence of mamas boys in our culture?

if so, blame the mothers for raising their sons to be excessively dependent on them and encourage any future sons you may have into learning to be more independent from ‘mama’

there is. how many times have we seen marriages broken by MIL or the relatives for interfering?

 

[SociallyAwkwardFarax]

there is. how many times have we seen marriages broken by MIL or the relatives for interfering?

If the MIL or relatives intervened then it most likely would have been a failed or miserable marriage anyways, couples are less likely to see their partner in an objective light so any glaring problems would have likely gone under the radar.

 

[garangar]

this seems like a straw man...these men exist but you're just describing obvious maladjustment. Usually things are more complicated IRL

 

[notinuse.]

DONT ! Some of these hooyo's are mentally ill and view their sons as their ideal partner, you'll just have too constantly fight with some old lady for her son. I've heard and experienced to many horor stories where the mom would go apeshit because she thinks that the girl will be stealing her man a.k.a her son.

 

[notinuse.]

if you’re not looking for a mamas boy you’re going to have to marry older men (25+), every younger guy is a mamas boy since that’s who had control over our lives since we were babies.

Unfortunately I've seen mama boys older than that, it's a pandemic especially in the somali community. Just because a guy is older doesn't mean he's more mature, some of them losers who are nearly 30 years old try to go for younger girls because they find it difficult to get woman their own age.

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

Mama's sons are good, not Mama's boys.

A man who honours and loves the women in his family is a good man. That's something to watch out for btw, how he treats his hooyo, sisters etc. However, a man who looks to his hooyo for every decision and has a meddling hooyo, is a disaster.

 

[Yaraye]

DONT ! Some of these hooyo's are mentally ill and view their sons as their ideal partner, you'll just have too constantly fight with some old lady for her son. I've heard and experienced to many horor stories where the mom would go apeshit because she thinks that the girl will be stealing her man a.k.a her son.

Many MIL abuse their DIL. They think their son is too worthy and their DIL isn't enough. Thy become picky and scold about the tiniest things to the point that DIL just gets tired and leaves.

 

[Yaraye]

Mama's sons are good, not Mama's boys.

A man who honours and loves the women in his family is a good man. That's something to watch out for btw, how he treats his hooyo, sisters etc. However, a man who looks to his hooyo for every decision and has a meddling hooyo, is a disaster.

son's who are filial to their mothers is good, but ones who still have their umbilical cord attached..... gotta run from those

 

[hinters]

This reminds me of that one viral post on I think it was Twitter. Would you rather put your wife or your mother in the front seat?


(The answer is your wife)