Shout out all my single mothers

[Cyrus]

Tbh a lot of the fathers fail to keep in contact with their kids. Very rarely do you see Somali single mothers discourage the kids from seeing their father.

Its far too common and id say more prevalent in the somali community. Now im not making excuses for deadbeat dads(they get scrutiny 24/7) but not all single motjers are angels either. Many carry on their hate for the father and instill into their kids at young. Indoctrination of that sort is hard to undo.

 

[Jungle]

Its far too common and id say more prevalent in the somali community. Now im not making excuses for deadbeat dads(they get scrutiny 24/7) but not all single motjers are angels either. Many carry on their hate for the father and instill into their kids at young. Indoctrination of that sort is hard to undo.

What a load of shit. Black women make their men go through hell much worse then somalis, way more petty. White people involve the government and all sorts of shit like contact centres, supervised visits and you wanna talk about somali women? f*ck outta here.

 

[Mozart]

Its far too common and id say more prevalent in the somali community. Now im not making excuses for deadbeat dads(they get scrutiny 24/7) but not all single motjers are angels either. Many carry on their hate for the father and instill into their kids at young. Indoctrination of that sort is hard to undo.

Yes, women may react emotionally and not seperate their hatred for the father from giving their children the best upbringing. But, a high proportion of Somali fathers don't help themselves - if you are the best father you can be, the kids will reach a point where they realise what the mother is saying is BS.

 

[Mozart]

What a load of shit. Black women make their men go through hell much worse then somalis, way more petty. White people involve the government and all sorts of shit like contact centres, supervised visits and you wanna talk about somali women? f*ck outta here.

Agreed, Somali single mothers are way more easier to deal with for men than women from other communities. They don't ask for ridiculous amounts of child support, they don't falsely accuse the father of crazy crimes and they don't move their kids away to isolate them. Men fail to play their role imo

 

[Gambar]

Somali fathers tend to avoid any conflict and give women too much lee ways. You will see fathers sleep in their friends house just to ensure the children dont see the tha their is dyfunction/conflict in the household.

Also, women tend to badmouth the father so that the children grow up hating him and when they meet him- its hard to clear up all those misconeptions you heard about him. Its indoctrination ad nauseum on the part of the mother who is usually scorned and has some irrational hatred for the father. It may seem like fathers dont want to be involved in their childrens lives but thats not the case, even those who try cant do much when the kids have heard 'aabaha loser waaye' 'Abaaha oo kala ha noqon' all their lives. Its hard to turn their feelings around so many just dont bother.

Doesn’t mean they shouldn’t fight to see their kids. I just don’t think it’s normal. There’s some parents who are physically present but not mentally there. They don’t know their children’s grades at school, their favourite teachers, their favourite subjects or even sit down to check their homework with them. Waa yaab. My father used to sit down with me every night and help me with my homework, would usually be the one to go to parent teacher interviews, and basically there was nothing I could hide from him. Lakiin he tried his best. That is the problem, if you don’t try you can’t complain later. You can try and say the mother turned the kids against the father but the children will hold a grudge against him because he didn’t even try to reach out. Another problem is Somali parents lack affection towards their children.

Anyway islamically your children have rights over you. If you don’t fulfill your obligation as a parent (no excuses) you will have to answer to Allah swt so good luck with bs excuses.

 

[Gambar]

Agreed, Somali single mothers are way more easier to deal with for men than women from other communities. They don't ask for ridiculous amounts of child support, they don't falsely accuse the father of crazy crimes and they don't move their kids away to isolate them. Men fail to play their role imo

Somalis prefer to handle stuff our own way and it works out better. No need for buuq iyo qeylo with maxkamad. Just because your marriage didn’t work out doesn’t mean your children have to suffer.

 

[Mad-MullaH]

famous Somali single phrase is "THIS IS AMERICA" walahi im sure lots of these women wont ruin their marriage if they are not backed by welfare and the child support

Ofcourse some faraxs are fucked up ..but its better if the father there ...than not to exist

 

[Guardafui]

Both Somali women and men lack emotional intelligence and it’s difficult for them accept they’re not always right. The women mostly tend to have anger issues that would destroy marriages for no reason and the men seem to be inattentive and have their minds in politics and Somalia. Raising a family in the West is very different to raising one back home. The man and the woman need each other a lot more there’s no village raising the children with you here. We need a big change and I think pre counselling marriages for young couples would help a lot. Present every question and possible scenarios to each other before even marrying and be real from the beginning. Marriage is a hard work.