Somali Girls and Dating

[Forfon]

There is no marriage list in London- only one Mosque in the UK does that and it serves the entire Muslim community - I think it's in the Midlands somewhere.

There is one in north london, i think.

 

[Forfon]

Firstly, it is evident still till this day dating will always be "hush-hush'. When you think of dating, the first thing you think of is Sex.
sex=shame thus online dating = shame. thats why people are worried they are being spied on and looked at differently.

 

[Solid]

Firstly, it is evident still till this day dating will always be "hush-hush'. When you think of dating, the first thing you think of is Sex.
sex=shame thus online dating = shame. thats why people are worried they are being spied on and looked at differently.

Well said.

 

[Geeljire]

Even if you believe the cheap and clean rumor...you guys should not be using it to describe Somali women.

i didn't believe in it initially , thats why i was asking shamis about it..... after seeing all of those ''Stop interracial'' videos on youtube & facebook made by Reer UK and the stories being told. i started to question the legitimacy of the fact that somali women in the uk go on a rampage of marrying jamaicans & cadaans etc. ofc i would never even dream of describing somali women with that term. I was just curious and wanted to get the record straight since hear soo much shit about UK somalis. Just curiousity my friend.

Just forget i ever brought it up!

 

[Shamis]

There is one in north london, i think.

There are dozens of mosques in North london.
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[Forfon]

There are dozens of mosques in North london.
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Yes, but i meant there is a mosque in N.london which deals with the marriage services. Ive been informed that a particular mosque will put a persons name on a data base with their info such as personality traits and characteristics, etc.

then they would find someone who may be compatible.

 

[Shamis]

That mosque is in the Midlands and they don't even have a computer database - just a book with pictures and basic information. They offer a service to non religious Muslims who just want to marry Muslims, which makes them a normal Mosque. The rest is just urban legend.

 

[John Michael]

That mosque is in the Midlands and they don't even have a computer database - just a book with pictures and basic information. They offer a service to non religious Muslims who just want to marry Muslims, which makes them a normal Mosque. The rest is just urban legend.

That makes sense, the stories I heard out of the uk were too outrageous. Leave it to somalis to exaggerate stuff.

 

[Sophisticate]

Forget about dating, rather take a look at Somali male and female interactions (in Canada).

Even during events Somali girls and guys are polarized on opposite sides of the venue. The brothers never approach unless they know you or your friend. The FOBs are normally bolder and don't need a middleman for an introduction. There are also occasional wild ones (qaac Somalis) that you wish to repel with zamsam water, in the hopes they will be compelled to act caadi. Ottawa guys are timid compared to Toronto brothers, they normally try to ask your friend about you instead of being bold enough to say hello themselves.

 

[kernel_init]

Forget about dating, rather take a look at Somali male and female interactions (in Canada).

Even during events Somali girls and guys are polarized on opposite sides of the venue. The brothers never approach unless they know you or your friend. /QUOTE]

But you have to concede it is a very awkward situation for the brothers. I very rarely attend Somali functions but the few times I did go I noticed the "anthrax in the building" behaviour as well. I remember thinking about talking to one of the girls, but the problem was she was surrounded by many other girls and I'd be the only guy in the vicinity and they'd all listen in to our conversation.

I think the problem is definitely a cultural one, speaking and freely conversing with the opposite gender is still considered ceeb among many Somali's.

 

[HOW CAN SHE SLAP?!?]

f*ck somali girls walahi

 

[T1a]

Cross the road as soon as I see one.

 

[SomaliSpotter]

f*ck somali girls walahi

Literally or?

 

[Abdalla]

Thr blonde one intrigues me. I feel like shes holding back.

 

[Wazir]

Forget about dating, rather take a look at Somali male and female interactions (in Canada).

Even during events Somali girls and guys are polarized on opposite sides of the venue. The brothers never approach unless they know you or your friend. The FOBs are normally bolder and don't need a middleman for an introduction. There are also occasional wild ones (qaac Somalis) that you wish to repel with zamsam water, in the hopes they will be compelled to act caadi. Ottawa guys are timid compared to Toronto brothers, they normally try to ask your friend about you instead of being bold enough to say hello themselves.

Most Somali guys especially in the western world lack confidence, this lack of confidence could be the results of many factors such as, unemployment, poor educational background, poor upbringing etc. Somali men traditionally were alpha males and they never used to show any fear, let alone fear of approaching the opposite sex.

I also noticed most of the younger generation expect to get married with unrealistic expectations and also without actively pursuing marriage and hoping Mr and Mrs right just falls from the sky. If one genuinely wants to get married he/she shouldn’t be shy and should pursue marriage actively by engaging family and friends first before broadening the net wider. Also Somali parent should play matchmakers more often and should try to hook up their children if they come across suitable candidates, because most of the time they are sabotaging their children marriage, however if they are involved in the process from the beginning the negative elements will be reduced and the chances of their offspring's having successful marriage is enhanced.

 

[Sophisticate]

But you have to concede it is a very awkward situation for the brothers. I very rarely attend Somali functions but the few times I did go I noticed the "anthrax in the building" behaviour as well. I remember thinking about talking to one of the girls, but the problem was she was surrounded by many other girls and I'd be the only guy in the vicinity and they'd all listen in to our conversation.

I think the problem is definitely a cultural one, speaking and freely conversing with the opposite gender is still considered ceeb among many Somali's.

If she goes to the ladies room unaccompanied follow her like a felon. Patiently wait outside and chat her up in the corridor. This could be a prelude to a budding relationship or marriage, you never know. More power to you if you meet her like that. I would just be too embarrassed to tell my friends that I met some dude near the washroom of a riwayaad/wedding and locked him down. It's very off-putting. I understand where you're coming from.

 

[kernel_init]

If she goes to the ladies room unaccompanied follow her like a felon. Patiently wait outside and chat her up in the corridor.

Way too awkward. I like to (or at least pretend to) be spontaneous, waiting to ambush her at a location is way too predetermined and just kills the entire "go with the flow" ebb. Worse yet, she may get creeped out or isn't feeling me and she'd tell her friends what just happened.....which is the worse case scenario.

 

[Sophisticate]

Way too awkward. I like to (or at least pretend to) be spontaneous, waiting to ambush her at a location is way too predetermined and just kills the entire "go with the flow" ebb. Worse yet, she may get creeped out or isn't feeling me and she'd tell her friends what just happened.....which is the worse case scenario.

Dude I've been embarrassed so many times in my life, that it gave me some character. You might look at my forum handle - Sophisticate and think, "damn she has it together" but you know I trip on escalators too. And I suppose a Xalimo isn't as perfectly primped as she was before she got ready, she's not perfect and has likely faced rejection in certain spheres of her life, like all people. You should humanize her a bit more. If she laughs or her friends do who cares, they will move on to something else. Don't be afraid to do something foolish at times, provided it's worth it. Events are meant to be enjoyed without feeling like there's "anthrax in the room".