Somali Single Mothers

[Gambar]

pakis barely have multi marriages. I’ve never seen anyone other than Somalis (and Gaalo Africans) marrying 2-4 women in one ceremony.

Why do you think it’s unreasonable to think these women have other goals jumping to marry together? I’ve heard of Somali women committing suicide when their husband take second wives.

Baroof cadeyn keen naa heedhe.

 

[Kamma]

Getting rude to other mothers is like bashing your own mother.
I remember a girl I used to play with was killed with her mother by the dad. It was a shocking incident the dad used to be a good guy but was taking drugs and he had withdrawal. So he had a machete and slaughtered them.

 

[Pioneer]

There a lot of Somali women who married outside who have successful marriages. And NO! Somali women are good wives from what I’ve seen. They are naturally seen as submissive and traditionalists, they have no problem serving a man if he’s acting right!!

There a lot of Somali women who married outside who have successful marriages. And NO! Somali women are good wives from what I’ve seen. They are naturally seen as submissive and traditionalists, they have no problem serving a man if he’s acting right!!

it’s also not obligatory and it’s very haram for women to be living in the same accommodation. The entire concept of this new polygamous marriage is similar to those documentaries of whites in poly relationships. Nothing about it is Islamic.

Each wife should have their own separate mehr and nikkah. Seperate accommodations and I’m very sure there’s nothing in Islam saying that a man is allowed to marry 2/3 wives on the same day. That’s bizarre and disturbing. It’s only saqanjanimo as to why anyone would support this ridiculousness.

Notice no other muslims are doing this madness.
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Hurdada ka kaac. Somali women almost never get along. They have very fraught relationships with each other. These women are feeding each other cake iyo balaayo.

All these stories involve girlfriends who picked the guy to get married to. The guy is just a cover. They refused separate weddings and houses. Something Somali women dream of from childhood. They are lesbians!

Not all polygamous marriages are a cover but the ones with the two women choosing the man are very very obvious. Lol
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Hi sis, I think you have very good points except the one that they are L.............s
that's big Haram in Islam.
But i do i agree that, this trend is going around is UN-Somali and UN-Islamic
for many reasons.

I believe this is sign of End of Times, people are following what they see on Social Media.
I saw this on facebook one or two times, they were young Arab guys both times and did not like
it because its a show off and saqajaanimo marrying 2-4 women at the same-time so that the whole
world can see. And now people are copying it in Somalia.

How in the world are Somali Parents and the Culamaa allowing this Show off Marriages.
its degrading to women and its haram in Islam to degrade Muslim Women.

I hope this stops ASAP.

 

[Pioneer]

it’s also not obligatory and it’s very haram for women to be living in the same accommodation. The entire concept of this new polygamous marriage is similar to those documentaries of whites in poly relationships. Nothing about it is Islamic.

Each wife should have their own separate mehr and nikkah. Seperate accommodations and I’m very sure there’s nothing in Islam saying that a man is allowed to marry 2/3 wives on the same day. That’s bizarre and disturbing. It’s only saqanjanimo as to why anyone would support this ridiculousness.

Notice no other muslims are doing this madness.

Polygamy is Halaal only when certain conditions are met.

 

[Jiron]

There's nothing wrong with single moms, they are the backbone of the family and a mothers love for her children can never be replaced or duplicated. God bless Somali moms who are raising kids on their own because life is not easy. Sometimes as Somali men we forget the hardship of raising kids and leave that their mother only stepping in when absolutely needed but we have to be there all the time emotionally and physically, so that they can grow up to be responsible adults

 

[bluebird]

both, you have men who are lazy and don't have the strength to deal with any marriage with the slightest inconvience to them (which is all marriages lol) and then there are somali women who suffer from too much naag nool nonsense and dont know when to chill and just let things take their natural course, you combine these two toxic personalities and you get a divorce

 

[Pioneer]

both, you have men who are lazy and don't have the strength to deal with any marriage with the slightest inconvience to them (which is all marriages lol) and then there are somali women who suffer from too much naag nool nonsense and dont know when to chill and just let things take their natural course, you combine these two toxic personalities and you get a divorce

May Allah sxw give more sabur to both Somali Men and Women.

 

[Duchess]

We need to do better as a community, because for some odd reason the divorce rate is through the roof.

The reason you have so many young Somali youths failing in life and resorting to gangs, drugs, and other crimes is because they come from broken families.
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What I can't figure out is why divorce rate is high knowing Somali people are pious Muslims yet this still transpires? #blacklove

People raised in single parent households don’t view marriage in the same way that people who were raised in a two parent household do. You can blame the civil war for our dysfunctional community.

 

[Mad-MullaH]

majority of single mothers become drug and alcohol addicts...and f*ck every thing that walks on 2...may Allah make my marriage for ever i dont want to cause a case of dick hungry single mother .

 

[Dino]

marriages break down when women do not show their husbands respect or husbands do not show enough love to their wives.

thats it

 

[Maverick 2.0]

The question is really open ended, and there are a ton of other factors.

Not all Somali dudes are dead beats and not all Somali women are narcs. Some may be but not the majority.

I never understood the big deal of this. Divorce isn’t an issue for the community to tackle, it’s between the parties involved

If I had a gun to my head and had to answer, I’d say not enough people being clear with their intentions. For the young people at least, I’d have no idea for the older ones.

I agree with a lot of the things you said, but I've noticed other Muslims groups don't divorce as much. Most Somali marriages don't last long, and the men usually go to Africa to find another wife and have more kids. I think it's a disaster that's inadvertently effecting our community.

 

[Maverick 2.0]

Because people don’t really need each other and living together and raising kids is hard job. Most people can’t be bothered and it’s not like the child will starve if the parents ain’t together

The chances of you ending up dead or in prison increases if you come from a broken home. I'm not making this up, look at the statistics if you don't believe me.

 

[Maverick 2.0]

This is not only a Somali issue.. The divorce rate is very high in western countries.

Are you sure?

 

[Maverick 2.0]

From what I’ve seen the women who are narcissistic are still married, I wouldn’t say happily married but still married, whilst the men are suffering. Divorce rate is high because usually it’s the men’s fault... they have issues. One time, I saw this single mother who had one daughter she had the most brightest personalities and she was beautiful but a bit overweight when she had her one daughter. I’m thinking why the hell did she get divorced? She literally is maskin. She looked like she was the type to serve a man breakfast, lunch, dinner and cater to his needs. Then she said to me ‘you know how Somali men are’ and I’m like trust me I know.

So you believe it's the men's fault for the divorce? Do you know the reason she was divorced? Even if the relationship doesn't workout, the father should still be involved in the child's life. But... sometimes the women prevent that from happening, because they have a sense of resentment for the ex husband due to the marriage ending. In others words, (women are bitter)

 

[Maverick 2.0]

View attachment 100104majority of single mothers become drug and alcohol addicts...and f*ck every thing that walks on 2...may Allah make my marriage for ever i dont want to cause a case of **** hungry single mother .

LOL, come on bro we are talking about Somali single mothers here.

Somali mothers are religious women. What Somali mom ends up that way?

 

[Mad-MullaH]

LOL, come on bro we are talking about Somali single mothers here.

Somali mothers are religious women. What Somali mom ends up that way?

You got to be truck driver to see wild single mothers..it epidemic bro

 

[Maverick 2.0]

3 guys they all left the kids. The mum was white gaalo and took the kids

That's a crazy story.
Was the woman he had kids with attractive?

 

[Jaydaan]

That's a crazy story.
Was the woman he had kids with attractive?

3 different guys who had a single child with 3 different girls. Left them all and abandon them. 3 oops babies

 

[0117]

People marry too quickly that's why

 

[Halimo-2018]

Its not the divorce its bad parenting style on bith sides. People can divorce ans still work towards best interest of their kids. Relationships are hard regardless however keeping drama out of your kids life isn't that hard.