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I'm talking about marriage. And I've just seen it worse in somali men. I know a couple of girls who preferred another somali, but it didn't turn out that way, they just took who approached themYou don't have permission to view the spoiler content. Log in or register now.
We all have large families, probability means we will know a few.Every family has at least a couple mixed cousins/nephews and neices, ive seen a noticeable increase in the last 5 years.
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@Bari you're fighting a lost battle pal. You haven't seen anything yet
The second generation with two Somali born parents can barely speak Somali, the third generation with diaspora parents won't know any Somali and the fourth and fifth generation will be fully assimilated into their host countries.
What most people don't know is that knowing the Somali language and culture is the biggest way to preserve your childrens identity. However, if your future generations can not speak or understand Somali then what is stopping them from marrying ajnabis? Why would they care about marrying a Somali? Already the second/third generation of Somalis(unless they spent a lot of time back home) are total foreigners when they visit back home, most cant speak or understand the culture and people there.
The western multicultural system is designed to be a melting pot mixing everything together until there is nothing distinguishable left.....
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@Kun_Ciil compatibility is very important for marriages and raising healthy (trauma free) awlaad. I would say they should get another diaspora from a different part of the world who is close enough to the dhaqan but you can both get each other. Like the Somalis from carabaha.
I'm gonna have to disagree with you fully there. You're stereotyping all of the women from qurbaha. Many have that mindset back home believe it or both. It's not a geographical thing. It's a mentality. As long as she's a women of faith and wishes to be in her feminine (sometimes people don't choose to be masculine), she can get along with a man who wants to lead according to Islam. I wouldn't recommend a man from back home personally as they seem like players. Too much idle time to do shukaansi.True tho I was mainly speaking to the brothers, and mainly those who speak good Somali and have visited back home a lot. For a sister that grew up in the west there will be compatability issues no doubt...a man back home has that traditional/conservative mindset and well gabarta qurbaha ku kortay ini taliso bii rabta ina loo taliyo ma rabto kkkk
Getting married with caraba diaspora is a good shout. They are kinda miskiin like western kids. Plus I've seen those from Syria/Gulf/Yemen and mashallah their Somali on the whole is on point.
Another option for both guys and girls is Kenya. A lot are educated and speak good English...so more compatible than someone back home.
I'm gonna have to disagree with you fully there. You're stereotyping all of the women from qurbaha. Many have that mindset back home believe it or both. It's not a geographical thing. It's a mentality. As long as she's a women of faith and wishes to be in her feminine (sometimes people don't choose to be masculine), she can get along with a man who wants to lead according to Islam. I wouldn't recommend a man from back home personally as they seem like players. Too much idle time to do shukaansi.
and anotha thing seeing how foolish quraxjoog act on tt both genders I believe there's a lack of good decorum happening amongst them. Waxa xishoodka ka qaaday ma aqaan but people back home seem to look up to these influencers who don't promote anything good. So be very weary when choosing a spouse from back home is my only talo to the guys.
Again it's a comparability thing not geographically. Modern minded women are everywhere nowadays.You're right it depends on the individual. You can find a good girl in the west, and a gabar dhaqan xun in Somalia. Tbh it was just a bit of kaftan, but I think it's easier personally for a guy to get married back home in the traditional home system than a girl imo. I've seen some girls in the west who think it's male patriarchy to whip up your husband a good breakfast of canjeero and suqaar because well the man has hands and cook for himself or ina ninkaada saxan bariis ina u gurtid oo ka farxisid waa wax isaga ku kibriyo...that kind of dhaqan difference a Somali man back home wouldn't be able to comprehend.
Shukansi isn't the word, polygamy dheh lol. Somali man back home if he has excess money and has the chance will very likely marry a second/third wife. Another incompatibility for western gabdho(the ones back home don't like it either, no woman does, but it's more acceptable.)
Again it's a comparability thing not geographically. Modern minded women are everywhere nowadays.
Those guys raganimo ayee wax qalad ka fahmeen. They are emotionally and mentally underdeveloped so they care a lot about ego and impressing nimanka kale. When they don't give their first xaas and children their full xuquuq. And ini dumar ku ciyaarin and be manipulative (both sides) is seen more casually there. A lot of disrespectful behavior is tolerated on both sides there. They need those Malaysian pre-marriage courses there!
In Malaysia, prospective Muslim couples are required to attend a mandatory two-day pre-marriage course organized by the Department of Islamic Development Malaysia (JAKIM) to understand the fundamentals of marriage and family life in Islam.
Here's a more detailed breakdown:
- Mandatory Requirement:
For Muslim couples intending to marry in Malaysia, attending a pre-marriage course is a mandatory requirement since the 1990s.
- Course Organizer:
The Department of Islamic Development Malaysia (JAKIM) organizes these pre-marriage courses.
- Course Duration:
The course typically spans two days, covering 16 hours of combined presentations, psycho-education, role-plays, and practical skills training.
- Course Content:
The course aims to equip couples with knowledge and skills to understand the fundamental practices and general principles of marriage and building a family in Islam.
- Course Purpose:
The pre-marriage course is designed to help couples build strong foundations for their future together and to address issues related to marriage, such as high divorce rates and domestic violence.
A lot of it comes down to dhaqanka baadiyo . The men would herd their camels and livestock, leave in the morning and return at sunset and go on long journeys, leaving the brunt of the household work and child-rearing to the mother. The same goes with pride in having a lot of children(boys).
A lot of men are still living with that mentality in 2025, back home and the west. Wixi guriga ku saabsan iyo ilmaha, inta badan dumarka aa loo daafa...just doesn't cut it in the times we are living in.
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Didn't know about the Malaysian thing...interesting
South East Asian Muslims waa wax kaleA lot of it comes down to dhaqanka baadiyo . The men would herd their camels and livestock, leave in the morning and return at sunset and go on long journeys, leaving the brunt of the household work and child-rearing to the mother. The same goes with pride in having a lot of children(boys).
A lot of men are still living with that mentality in 2025, back home and the west. Wixi guriga ku saabsan iyo ilmaha, inta badan dumarka aa loo daafa...just doesn't cut it in the times we are living in.
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Didn't know about the Malaysian thing...interesting