Spilling the Shaah

[Sophisticate]

So I was catching up with my cousin after not seeing her for an infinite length of time. As you can guess the subject eventually turned to marriage. Since, she has been married for some time and has a kid, so she felt the need to provide unsolicited advice. I was inclined to tell her to stop right there, but I wanted a little entertainment so I let her continue. She went on about how I'm not getting any younger. What I found most intriguing was that she encouraged me to marry a man from my tribe. And she said you'll avoid tribal politics and want not. She then went on about if I intended on repatriating back home that it would make life a lot easier. In any case, what do you folks think?

P.S my cousin is not even the same clan or tribe as me, which is why I found it all too funny. She's actually half.

Disclaimer: Don't try to mud sling tribes in this thread.

Thank you kindly.

 

[ded]

i hope this doesnt come across as rude but if you want children, the earlier the better

 

[SuldaanSeven]

@sophisticate
You had one chance woman, one good chance wasted. You can count me out of being your knight in shining armour

 

[Inactive]

If the clans live in the same region, it shouldn't matter if you're moving back home one day

 

[Sophisticate]

i hope this doesnt come across as rude but if you want children, the earlier the better

Nah, to each his own. It was not in my plans (when I was younger) to marry and have children asap, but that came to fruition b/c of God.

 

[TekNiKo]

Lol @ the nimco dareen gif being superimposed into a tumblr meme, Somali girls never cease to amaze me

 

[Sophisticate]

If the clans live in the same region, it shouldn't matter if you're moving back home one day

Define region sxb?

 

[Sophisticate]

Lol @ the nimco dareen gif being superimposed into a tumblr meme, Somali girls never cease to amaze me

Yes; it was a mere microexpression that made that gif what it was. I'm glad you like it TekNiko.

 

[TekNiKo]

Definitely my fav song of hers

 

[Sophisticate]

@sophisticate
You had one chance woman, one good chance wasted. You can count me out of being your knight in shining armour

 

[Inactive]

Define region sxb?

Well there's Habar Awal and Isa and Tumaal that live in Awdal.

And Ogaden and H.A and Isa and a bunch of other clans that live in Jigjiga.

I meant to say city/town/province.

Even Hargeisa which is multi clan shouldn't be an issue if you plan to live there one day.

It would be hypocritical for me to say to you to marry from any clan though since I asked my mother to find me a woman from my own subclan and also because my mother isn't part of my own sub clan. But I only asked that because my dads family is from the bush and I plan on going back home one day. I don't want issues with my wife and kids. People are very vicious in the bush

 

[Queen Carawelo]

Arghhhhhh why does every plain Jane who gets married feel the need to give advice on marriage. Half of these women don't know the meaning love or calaaf because their no good of a husband is too busy still chasing skirts around town.


No offense to your cousin @sophisticate I was talking about in general.

 

[John Michael]

Lol soph, youre a young lady abaayo. Don't let people guilt and pressure you into thinking there's a time limit on life.

I think if you choose someone who shares the same values and has a modicum of decency, tribal skirmishes that happen in the miyi shouldn't affect you're marriage. I might be naive though.

Are you planning to move back home? if you are I would say it might be isolating to have someone who doesn't share your sense of humour or relate to things in the same way as you. Who knows though. Your Prince Charming could be in awdal right now.

 

[Sophisticate]

Well there's Habar Awal and Isa and Tumaal that live in Awdal.

And Ogaden and H.A and Isa and a bunch of other clans that live in Jigjiga.

I meant to say city/town/province.

Even Hargeisa which is multi clan shouldn't be an issue if you plan to live there one day.

It would be hypocritical for me to say to you to marry from any clan though since I asked my mother to find me a woman from my own subclan and also because my mother isn't part of my own sub clan. But I only asked that because my dads family is from the bush and I plan on going back home one day.

Awdal its majority Gadabursi (Makahil) and Issa. Few HA live there, they live close by in neighbouring areas of Wooqyi Galbeed. You'll find many tribes that aren't from there originally locals are quite mellow and easy to live around. Hargeysa is also very cosmopolitan also since it's a major city, but there is still majority numbers wise - Habar Awal and Garxaji.

I'm generally neutral when it comes to the subject matter. I just thought it was an interesting perspective. I would have never guessed AJ was culturally conservative.

 

[Inactive]

Awdal its majority Gadabursi (Makahil) and Issa. Few HA live there, they live close by in neighbouring areas of Wooqyi Galbeed. You'll find many tribes that aren't from there originally locals are quite mellow and easy to live around. Hargeysa is also very cosmopolitan also since it's a major city, but there is still majority numbers wise - Habar Awal and Garxaji.

I'm generally neutral when it comes to the subject matter. I just thought it was an interesting perspective. I would have never guessed AJ was culturally conservative.

I'm not but I have to do as the Romans (geeljire) do when I go to their land (miyii visits)

 

[Reddington]

I just have one question, why can't we marry the people we love?

 

[Sophisticate]

Arghhhhhh why does every plain Jane who gets married feel the need to give advice on marriage. Half of these women don't know the meaning love or calaaf because their no good of a husband is too busy still chasing skirts around town.


No offense to your cousin @sophisticate I was talking about in general.

Idol, you make me laugh wallahi. You reminded me of Menace (at least with the chasing skirts).

Lol soph, youre a young lady abaayo. Don't let people guilt and pressure you into thinking there's a time limit on life.

I think if you choose someone who shares the same values and has a modicum of decency, tribal skirmishes that happen in the miyi shouldn't affect you're marriage. I might be naive though.

Are you planning to move back home? if you are I would say it might be isolating to have someone who doesn't share your sense of humour or relate to things in the same way as you. Who knows though. Your Prince Charming could be in awdal right now.

Don't get me wrong Miski, I'm no AJ. Dudes there have only one thing in mind - Bassabort. There was this one dude I knew that endlessly followed my trail (relentlessly) from age 17 to 28, until he found his Djiboutian cash cow. I always put him in the walaal zone. Plus, they require more of an investment and have differing values/compatibility and no guarantees of monogamy or return on investment.

 

[Sophisticate]

I'm not but I have to do as the Romans (geeljire) do when I go to their land (miyii visits)

I see you're conforming. I wonder if you'll try to scoop up that organic xalimo with the nice teeth that @menace was fawning over. *Ahem*.

I just have one question, why can't we marry the people we love?

"Love is too abstract". I prefer the term accustomed.

 

[ded]

i dont really believe in love, rather compatibility

 

[Reddington]

A rose by any other name would smell as sweet.