Survey: Cultural and Religious Compatibility in Somali Diaspora Marriage Partner Selection

[Jirde]

Dear Somali Spot Community Members,

We're from the community and conducting research to improve online partner-finding for marriage within the Somali diaspora. Your responses will help us understand the role of cultural and religious compatibility in this process. This survey should take about 10-15 minutes to complete. All responses are anonymous and confidential.

Thank you for your participation! Your insights will help improve online partner-finding services for the Somali diaspora community.

Survey: Cultural and Religious Compatibility in Somali Diaspora Marriage Partner Selection

 

[The alchemist]

I don't think people should fill in ethnic surveys without knowing who organizes these data systems and for what reasons. Demographic information is extremely valuable and should not be taken lightly.

This can, for example, be used to represent a specific dataset analysis outcome later from skewed data point gathering to misrepresenting Somalis. On top of that, there are no selection controls for who is Somali or not on this, to my knowledge. The other issue is that Somalis on this forum are not representative of the average person.

If this is for a specific company, I suggest you write down what it is and who you are. You delivered no transparency other than claiming this vague "community" statement. Many people here live in disparate diaspora communities that have different contexts within host nations that differ markedly.

 

[Jirde]

I don't think people should fill in ethnic surveys without knowing who organizes these data systems and for what reasons. Demographic information is extremely valuable and should not be taken lightly.

This can, for example, be used to represent a specific dataset analysis outcome later from skewed data point gathering to misrepresenting Somalis. On top of that, there are no selection controls for who is Somali or not on this, to my knowledge. The other issue is that Somalis on this forum are not representative of the average person.

If this is for a specific company, I suggest you write down what it is and who you are. You delivered no transparency other than claiming this vague "community" statement. Many people here live in disparate diaspora communities that have different contexts within host nations that differ markedly.

Ah, I didn’t realize we had a Chief Statistician of Somali Affairs!

Your passion for protecting our community's data is commendable, but let’s not dismiss every survey as a conspiracy.

Sure, data can be misused, but it can also help us understand our youth's struggles in finding partners. Instead of shutting down surveys, how about we focus on educating our community about data literacy?

And while transparency is important, demanding a full corporate background check for every survey might be a bit much. A polite request for more information could go a long way.

In the end, we’re all navigating this diaspora life together. Some of us just prefer to do it with a bit less suspicion and a bit more humor. I'll be over here filling out surveys and hoping for more Zambusa shops!

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

If you want to make a match-making service, you need to charge people and run background checks on them, in terms of their criminal background, and educational attainment, in addition, to finding out if they are legally married/islamically married.

The real issue, is that there are too many frauds online, mostly men, who have successfully chased women away from online match-making platforms/apps.

The challenge is to find a way to get your candidates pre-approved. Especially the men, from what I already hear about.

If you can figure out how to vet candidates, you have cracked the code.

 

[Jirde]

If you want to make a match-making service, you need to charge people and run background checks on them, in terms of their criminal background, and educational attainment, in addition, to finding out if they are legally married/islamically married.

The real issue, is that there are too many frauds online, mostly men, who have successfully chased women away from online match-making platforms/apps.

The challenge is to find a way to get your candidates pre-approved. Especially the men, from what I already hear about.

If you can figure out how to vet candidates, you have cracked the code.

Thank you for your valuable insights on the importance of vetting candidates and ensuring safety in a match-making service; your suggestions are greatly appreciated!

 

[El Nino]

The whole survey is a sham and despicable. Its evident from the get go.


Question number 4a is ”how important are shared religious beliefs”. Are we muslims or not? You have seemed to miss that. In fact, this question being the 2nd proper question is deliberate. Very deliberate.

Next question is ”how important it is for your partner to come from a similar cultural backround”. Who are you marketing this app towards? Is it not clear that all somalis from a diaspora have a similar cultural backround? Who does not fit into this?

Whoever you are, do better.

 

[The alchemist]

Ah, I didn’t realize we had a Chief Statistician of Somali Affairs!

Your passion for protecting our community's data is commendable, but let’s not dismiss every survey as a conspiracy.

Sure, data can be misused, but it can also help us understand our youth's struggles in finding partners. Instead of shutting down surveys, how about we focus on educating our community about data literacy?

And while transparency is important, demanding a full corporate background check for every survey might be a bit much. A polite request for more information could go a long way.

In the end, we’re all navigating this diaspora life together. Some of us just prefer to do it with a bit less suspicion and a bit more humor. I'll be over here filling out surveys and hoping for more Zambusa shops!

It inspires trust when people ask you for basic best practice credentials to qualify standards and showcase basic skin in the game to reassure the people you so desperately want to participate for their information that their data will be funneled rightly without shady purposes.

You especially showed professionalism in meeting expected inquiry by trivializing data gathering, reinforcing your principled stance on data use.

You must be wet behind the ears by the way you cannot even present the name of the business you represent. Learn the concept of public relations/people management and have a sense of the weight of what you're operating in, as you show a lack of data-use awareness, overall reflecting poorly in your commitment to standards, or care for people's data.

And just as personal advice, remove the dorky, low-self-awareness comedy. It's really below-the-foot activities when people expect you to be professional. There is a time and place for everything. It's not a good look that I have to tell you to straighten up.

Also, 'character' is a good measure of intent and handling standards; sadly, you show low promise there. Learn to be upright and apply some ethics to your ways before delving into business if you want to be met with good reception.

I don't want to go back and forth and beat the dead horse beyond this. People were warned sufficiently; and you, although will most likely not heed anything, have been properly talked to. If you're Somali, which you probably are not (not that it matters much at this point), I expect you to improve your ways.

Evasiveness is a marker of a lowlife.

 

[Kisame]

If you want to make a match-making service, you need to charge people and run background checks on them, in terms of their criminal background, and educational attainment, in addition, to finding out if they are legally married/islamically married.

The real issue, is that there are too many frauds online, mostly men, who have successfully chased women away from online match-making platforms/apps.

The challenge is to find a way to get your candidates pre-approved. Especially the men, from what I already hear about.

If you can figure out how to vet candidates, you have cracked the code.

Do the matchmaking services constantly fail?? I've been seeing a new one pop up every year

 

[Nin123]

Dear Somali Spot Community Members,

We're from the community and conducting research to improve online partner-finding for marriage within the Somali diaspora. Your responses will help us understand the role of cultural and religious compatibility in this process. This survey should take about 10-15 minutes to complete. All responses are anonymous and confidential.

Thank you for your participation! Your insights will help improve online partner-finding services for the Somali diaspora community.

Survey: Cultural and Religious Compatibility in Somali Diaspora Marriage Partner Selection

Sign me in bro

 

[Jirde]

The whole survey is a sham and despicable. Its evident from the get go.


Question number 4a is ”how important are shared religious beliefs”. Are we muslims or not? You have seemed to miss that. In fact, this question being the 2nd proper question is deliberate. Very deliberate.

Next question is ”how important it is for your partner to come from a similar cultural backround”. Who are you marketing this app towards? Is it not clear that all somalis from a diaspora have a similar cultural backround? Who does not fit into this?

Whoever you are, do better.

I see your point. Your critique of the survey raises some valid concerns that I may have overlooked initially. Let's break this down:

1. Religious beliefs question:
   You're right to point out the oddity of asking about shared religious beliefs when addressing a predominantly Muslim community. This could indeed be seen as a red flag, suggesting the survey might not be as tailored to the Somali community as it claims to be.
2. Cultural background question:
   Again, you make a good observation. If this survey is truly aimed at Somalis in the diaspora, then asking about similar cultural backgrounds does seem redundant and potentially suspicious.
3. Overall intent:
   Your skepticism about the survey's true purpose and target audience is warranted. It's possible that this survey is either poorly designed or, as you suggest, has motives that aren't transparent.
4. Call for improvement:
   Your demand for the survey creators to "do better" is justified. Any research or data collection aimed at the Somali community should demonstrate a clear understanding of our cultural and religious context.

Thank you for bringing these specific issues to light. It's crucial that we critically examine such surveys and question their intent and design. Your detailed critique serves as a reminder that we must remain vigilant about how our community is represented and studied. Perhaps this discussion will lead to more thoughtful and culturally sensitive approaches to research within our community in the future.

 

[Jirde]

It inspires trust when people ask you for basic best practice credentials to qualify standards and showcase basic skin in the game to reassure the people you so desperately want to participate for their information that their data will be funneled rightly without shady purposes.

You especially showed professionalism in meeting expected inquiry by trivializing data gathering, reinforcing your principled stance on data use.

You must be wet behind the ears by the way you cannot even present the name of the business you represent. Learn the concept of public relations/people management and have a sense of the weight of what you're operating in, as you show a lack of data-use awareness, overall reflecting poorly in your commitment to standards, or care for people's data.

And just as personal advice, remove the dorky, low-self-awareness comedy. It's really below-the-foot activities when people expect you to be professional. There is a time and place for everything. It's not a good look that I have to tell you to straighten up.

Also, 'character' is a good measure of intent and handling standards; sadly, you show low promise there. Learn to be upright and apply some ethics to your ways before delving into business if you want to be met with good reception.

I don't want to go back and forth and beat the dead horse beyond this. People were warned sufficiently; and you, although will most likely not heed anything, have been properly talked to. If you're Somali, which you probably are not (not that it matters much at this point), I expect you to improve your ways.

Evasiveness is a marker of a lowlife.

Oh waaaaw, I see. You've written me a thoughtful, multi-paragraph, high-velocity feedback monologue—one that combines the eloquence of a Shakespearean tragedy with the charm of a corporate audit. Impressive! And here I was, thinking I might just get a couple of bullet points or, at best, a mildly condescending emoji. But you really went all in.

Let me start by saying I appreciate your concern for my "wet behind the ears" status, though I’m confident I’ll dry off soon. I’ll also try to remember to straighten up—wouldn't want to come across as "dorky" or risk being mistaken for someone who's enjoying life while working. I'll also keep in mind that the real work involves sucking the life out of all humor and really pushing that “professionalism” button. Maybe I’ll even start practicing my best serious face in the mirror.

As for your generous advice about ethics and data use, I’ll admit, I’m still trying to work out how best to avoid becoming an “evasive lowlife.” But I’m sure I’ll figure it out once I re-learn how to manage my lack of “standards” and “character” and come to terms with the fact that, apparently, I’ve fallen short of your bar for reception.

In the meantime, don’t worry—I’ll work on straightening up my ways. And as for the business name, it seems that’s a detail I’ll need to brush up on as well. Thanks for pointing that out!

You've definitely given me a lot to think about. If nothing else, I’ll consider this a masterclass in delivering critiques. Perhaps I should also take a few classes to improve my Somali so I can express myself better, Hoyadaa digaagada ka was.

 

[The alchemist]

Oh waaaaw, I see. You've written me a thoughtful, multi-paragraph, high-velocity feedback monologue—one that combines the eloquence of a Shakespearean tragedy with the charm of a corporate audit. Impressive! And here I was, thinking I might just get a couple of bullet points or, at best, a mildly condescending emoji. But you really went all in.

Let me start by saying I appreciate your concern for my "wet behind the ears" status, though I’m confident I’ll dry off soon. I’ll also try to remember to straighten up—wouldn't want to come across as "dorky" or risk being mistaken for someone who's enjoying life while working. I'll also keep in mind that the real work involves sucking the life out of all humor and really pushing that “professionalism” button. Maybe I’ll even start practicing my best serious face in the mirror.

As for your generous advice about ethics and data use, I’ll admit, I’m still trying to work out how best to avoid becoming an “evasive lowlife.” But I’m sure I’ll figure it out once I re-learn how to manage my lack of “standards” and “character” and come to terms with the fact that, apparently, I’ve fallen short of your bar for reception.

In the meantime, don’t worry—I’ll work on straightening up my ways. And as for the business name, it seems that’s a detail I’ll need to brush up on as well. Thanks for pointing that out!

You've definitely given me a lot to think about. If nothing else, I’ll consider this a masterclass in delivering critiques. Perhaps I should also take a few classes to improve my Somali so I can express myself better, Hoyadaa digaagada ka was.

Learn the concept of representing when requiring information from people, clown. The fact that you don't understand this simple principle exposes your utter inadequacy.


Other than that, spare me the evasive sissy language. Everyone knows you're a limpwristed behind that keybord. You did everything but to acknowledge your errors with those made paragprahs.

We already know you're not representing anything credible from the way you entered this topic, on top of your unprofessional social stupidity. But that goes at the heart of the issue of me exposing your fradulent ways; namely, you have nothing credible to represent. If you did, you'd say what company and for what purpose you were asking people for this survey.

Yo, notice this clown. Instead of adressing the points and the facts, he made comment about tonality, temperament and style of my writing like a woman. Let me not pimp slap you, nayaa.