Tales of the first wife.
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Gibiin-Udug
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Is it only being fed up that prompts a man to marry the second or third time?
I think guys can find satisfaction with one woman as his wife as in most cases, I think it is a myth about men not feeling happy or satisfied with one woman. Islam allows a man to keep more than one wife... true but the responsibility doubles and the husband is supposed to support the wife and kids as before, how many men can do that?
The question is why does a woman stay with her husband? Lack of choices? or doesn't care as long as her needs are met?
Why pretend? you'd still be against it even if he did it the right way. Honestly there's nothing in our diin that asks women to be in favor or tolerate polygamy it's all about the individual choice. You only have to recognize its halal and not ruin the chances of less fortunate women to be married and have kids
Don't talk to me about halal and haram when the marriage is done in secret and hidden from the world.
"It's all about individual choice" you say but I guess that only applies to men, eh? You act like women don't have a choice in the matter. They do and they have every right to not want to be a participant in such an arrangement. A woman can even prevent her husband from seeking another wife explicitly in her marriage contract.
I'm all for charity and helping the less fortunate, that's why I volunteer at a soup kitchen during the Christmas holidays, but f*ck I look like sharing my husband? If she wants kids or a man, she can go adopt kids or pursue the other 3.5 billion men in the world.
Its exactly what i said nothing in our diin force women to tolerate or accept polygamy it's her choice. Read before you post
Don't talk to me about halal and haram when the marriage is done in secret and hidden from the world.
"It's all about individual choice" you say but I guess that only applies to men, eh? You act like women don't have a choice in the matter. They do and they have every right to not want to be a participant in such an arrangement. A woman can even prevent her husband from seeking another wife explicitly in her marriage contract.
I'm all for charity and helping the less fortunate, that's why I volunteer at a soup kitchen during the Christmas holidays, but f*ck I look like sharing my husband? If she wants kids or a man, she can go adopt kids or pursue the other 3.5 billion men in the world.
Okay, so what's the point of your post then? I pointed out a very troubling issue with many polygamous Somali relationships that questions the very validity of these secret marriages. I've even heard of men denying women they've married to their first wife and only admitting it after the marriage contract was shown to them. These are serious issues and must be addressed.
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The man doesn't have to inform his first wife. I don't see the reason not to inform the first wife though, unless the man is hiding something. Nonetheless, there's no shari' evidence to support the claim that the first wife must be informed. The woman can negotiate with her suitor before the marriage is consummated and prevent them from seeking a second wife as part of the marriage contract, that part is correct.Don't talk to me about halal and haram when the marriage is done in secret and hidden from the world.
"It's all about individual choice" you say but I guess that only applies to men, eh? You act like women don't have a choice in the matter. They do and they have every right to not want to be a participant in such an arrangement. A woman can even prevent her husband from seeking another wife explicitly in her marriage contract.
I'm all for charity and helping the less fortunate, that's why I volunteer at a soup kitchen during the Christmas holidays, but f*ck I look like sharing my husband? If she wants kids or a man, she can go adopt kids or pursue the other 3.5 billion men in the world.
Anyway, stop being selfish. There are more women in the world than men. Think about the amount of men die in wars, reach old age and most importantly, men that are too poor and cannot afford to get married. A female can get married easily though, as it's not required of her to be the bread winner and provider for the family, women have no financial restraints.
The thought of agreeing with a marriage contract that prevents you from seeking a second wife...
Whether it's secret or not you'd still be against it. majority of women don't want to share their husbands and it's perfectly halal and within her rights. The reason why I said that because I see alot of men use the diin to bully their wife to accept him pursuing another .
The relationship breakdown is the responsibility of the man.
Also somali men are taking up extra wives just because they can, I was watching some somali 'sheikh' complaining about somali women being selfish with their incomes and its 'dhambi' not to helping their family. He was practically screaming saying it's unfair that woman are not contributing. Wallahi shameless. This is a 'sheikh'.
The modern Somali man couldn't give a toss about following sharia, unless it's for their disgusting shaxarinimo. Uff.
Also somali men are taking up extra wives just because they can, I was watching some somali 'sheikh' complaining about somali women being selfish with their incomes and its 'dhambi' not to helping their family. He was practically screaming saying it's unfair that woman are not contributing. Wallahi shameless. This is a 'sheikh'.
The modern Somali man couldn't give a toss about following sharia, unless it's for their disgusting shaxarinimo. Uff.
what an idiotic statement, do you know how hard women especially somali women are to deal with, women will throw tantrums as if they are children with no explanation.
And how is it disgusting, i could see it being disgusting if he cheated outside of marriage, but this is halal as ordained by Allah and his perfect religion, dont like it, simple dont marry a muslim man.
Takes two to tango, lets not lay the bucket solely at the mans feet.I agree women are passive in a perfect world it's the man who start and end the relationship
Four wives is our right as Muslim men, alhamdulillah.
You keep repeating that as though it means something.It's like me saying it's my right to be a trillionnaire, sure you can have four wives but will you get four wives?
It's like me saying it's my right to be a trillionnaire, sure you can have four wives but will you get four wives?
Women are simple creatures just pretend to care about their bullshit and they get attached. Ofcourse it helps being 6 foot and well endowed
Sometimes I wonder about the women who are deceived like that don't they have brothers cousins to protect them?
I usually ask my self this because I grew up in predominantly female household. I had to look after my sisters and my female cousin since I was 12 y/o. That recently made me realize the disadvantages women are facing in this world esbacially somali women. So from now whenever I think of similar issues I ask myself would i want this to happen on family be it sister or cousin the answer is no. That gave me alot of clarity and I hope it does for others.
I usually ask my self this because I grew up in predominantly female household. I had to look after my sisters and my female cousin since I was 12 y/o. That recently made me realize the disadvantages women are facing in this world esbacially somali women. So from now whenever I think of similar issues I ask myself would i want this to happen on family be it sister or cousin the answer is no. That gave me alot of clarity and I hope it does for others.
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Gibiin-Udug
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You're disgusting.
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