The biggest problem between Somalis is that there is no understanding between men and women

[Wervelwind]

I'm talking about this generation and previous generations. No wonder divorce rates are so high if faraxs and xalimos live in different worlds separated
What do you think?

 

[Baarisiyomoos]

I agree to an extent. I think the conversations that go on on this site between men and women are very exaggerated and aren’t how we interact in real life.

 

[Xaruun]

I feel like Somali women are the weakest link. When somali women marry out, the divorce rate is still astronomical unlike when somali men marry out. Somali men are too chill and can’t be bothered to divorce most of the time.

 

[Hue_Man]

wallahi this is true lol.......

 

[Anisah The Serpent]

 

[inflorescence]

I feel like Somali women are the weakest link. When somali women marry out, the divorce rate is still astronomical unlike when somali men marry out. Somali men are too chill and can’t be bothered to divorce most of the time.

man you’re always on the go

 

[Naacasfrompunt]

man you’re always on the go

He’s not wrong tho Somali guys just want benefit

This is my adeer and he married a madow just to get a green card
his kids are in Kenya and are Muslim alhamdullillah

 

[Amirah]

I agree to an extent. I think the conversations that go on on this site between men and women are very exaggerated and aren’t how we interact in real life.

That’s because in real life they don’t interact beyond surface level. No one debates or brings up ugly topics. Even among women you can not discuss whatever we discuss here without being attacked. Somali people hate deep, raw truthful conversations. They also misconstrue constructive criticisms as insults. We are a group of people addicted to ammaan, all we wanna hear is how amazing we are...so of course these type of convos are avoided irl. Everything is swept under the rug quite often. Which is why most couples and friendships have shallow bonds in our community. You truly never know where the other person stands even politically.

 

[Villainess]

The somali male and female connect and bond sooo easily. Look at indian couples vs us. Somalis are naturally flirty and we become united over women/men. I disagree

 

[KingSomali999]

It’s only in the west. Most somali women subscribe to feminist ideas and try to equal to men which goes directly against islam and somali men aren’t like cuckold cadaans so there is tension.

 

[Lostbox]

When I meet a random Somali women not in my social circle. Something about this awkwardness in the air by default. Plus, London Somali women don't like a random Abdis talking to them and some don't hide that they look down at us. Personally, I don't bother talking to them.

I've always had a easily time with none Somali women.

I remember once trying to casual chat with this somali woman. She completely ignored me my existence and all signs where indicating that she wanted nothing to do with me. It was at a gathering of my friends. She was somebody co worker or something so they invited her. I didn't bother her after that.

But while chilling with my friends, at the side of my eye I can see her glaring at me giving me stink eye

@Wervelwind

Seriously, I don't get some of these women

 

[Celery]

You forgot we’re technically black men and you know how their divorce rates are. It’s a genetic thing.
Hey hey hey!

 

[Celery]

Also most marriages are still arranged, meaning the man and the woman don’t know each other very well until year 3, when everything has gone to hell.

 

[Mozart]

Somali men and women in the west are just not compatible. Nothing more awkward than talking to a Somali girl

 

[Distant1]

Maybe the culture is outdated?

 

[greyhound stone]

Somali men and women in the west are just not compatible. Nothing more awkward than talking to a Somali girl

Your possibily right

 

[Hue_Man]

That’s because in real life they don’t interact beyond surface level. No one debates or brings up ugly topics. Even among women you can not discuss whatever we discuss here without being attacked. Somali people hate deep, raw truthful conversations. They also misconstrue constructive criticisms as insults. We are a group of people addicted to ammaan, all we wanna hear is how amazing we are...so of course these type of convos are avoided irl. Everything is swept under the rug quite often. Which is why most couples and friendships have shallow bonds in our community. You truly never know where the other person stands even politically.

Lmao so true Amira. Could be a diaspora thing , who knows. I just went outside to buy my groceries I’m becoming an independent farax thanks to yall threads bashing Somali men , it has motivated me to prove you wackos wrong hhhh you gonna hear about me in the news soon

 

[AbdiS]

Both men and women are incompatible in the west.

I'm starting to believe that Somalis are, by birth, dowladiid inkaars wherever they go.

These MFs cannot even share anything together, be it Tribal lines or, in this case, gender.

 

[Amirah]

Lmao so true Amira. Could be a diaspora thing , who knows. I just went outside to buy my groceries I’m becoming an independent farax thanks to yall threads bashing Somali men , it has motivated me to prove you wackos wrong hhhh you gonna hear about me in the news soon

Now you bought the groceries, so what are you cooking? Or you’re just gonna leave them on the counter? Lol

 

[Amirah]

When I meet a random Somali women not in my social circle. Something about this awkwardness in the air by default. Plus, London Somali women don't like a random Abdis talking to them and some don't hide that they look down at us. Personally, I don't bother talking to them.

I've always had a easily time with none Somali women.

I remember once trying to casual chat with this somali woman. She completely ignored me my existence and all signs where indicating that she wanted nothing to do with me. It was at a gathering of my friends. She was somebody co worker or something so they invited her. I didn't bother her after that.

But while chilling with my friends, at the side of my eye I can see her glaring at me giving me stink eye

@Wervelwind

Seriously, I don't get some of these women

Lol it’s both ways, Somali guys are awkward asf! Sometimes they lack subtlety or finesse. They either flirt so openly it’s kinda gross or they act really awkward. It’s like they lack that easy casual “let’s built rapport before I ask you out” vibe. For ex, few days ago I was jogging at river nearby. I sat down at a bench to feed the ducks. A mixed Persian guy sat down some distance and then at some point walked over and striked a conversation about the ducks. Then he casually moved on to the history of the state and the river. Then reveled his ancestry, asked about mine. He says he loves Somali food... etc. Before I know it’s been an hour and we covered so many topics. He then casually invites me to Persian cultural event and asked for my number. It happened so casually, it felt normal. A faraax could never pull that off in a million years lol.