The biggest problem between Somalis is that there is no understanding between men and women

[Xaruun]

Lol it’s both ways, Somali guys are awkward asf! Sometimes they lack subtlety or finesse. They either flirt so openly it’s kinda gross or they act really awkward. It’s like they lack that easy casual “let’s built rapport before I ask you out” vibe. For ex, few days ago I was jogging at river nearby. I sat down at a bench to feed the ducks. A mixed Persian guy sat down some distance and then at some point walked over and striked a conversation about the ducks. Then he casually moved on to the history of the state and the river. Then reveled his ancestry, asked about mine. He says he loves Somali food... etc. Before I know it’s been an hour and we covered so many topics. He then casually invites me to Persian cultural event and asked for my number. It happened so casually, it felt normal. A faraax could never pull that off in a million years lol.

Aren’t you married?

 

[durwa]

I feel like Somali women are the weakest link. When somali women marry out, the divorce rate is still astronomical unlike when somali men marry out. Somali men are too chill and can’t be bothered to divorce most of the time.

You're onto something

 

[Lostbox]

Lol it’s both ways, Somali guys are awkward asf! Sometimes they lack subtlety or finesse. They either flirt so openly it’s kinda gross or they act really awkward. It’s like they lack that easy casual “let’s built rapport before I ask you out” vibe. For ex, few days ago I was jogging at river nearby. I sat down at a bench to feed the ducks. A mixed Persian guy sat down some distance and then at some point walked over and striked a conversation about the ducks. Then he casually moved on to the history of the state and the river. Then reveled his ancestry, asked about mine. He says he loves Somali food... etc. Before I know it’s been an hour and we covered so many topics. He then casually invites me to Persian cultural event and asked for my number. It happened so casually, it felt normal. A faraax could never pull that off in a million years lol.

You lucky to meet a great conversationalist. Should have befriended him. It rare to randomly meet one

 

[Amirah]

Aren’t you married?

Just cuz I have one husband doesn’t mean I can’t have 3 more....

 

[Xaruun]

Fineness

Just cuz I have one husband doesn’t mean I can’t have 3 more....

I feel sorry for him.

 

[Amirah]

You lucky to meet a great conversationalist. Should have befriended him. It rare to randomly meet one

Actually that was the point I was trying to make...this happens to me all the time with non Somali men(with exception of American madow), most have this similar style of approaching women. They hook you with great convo, chill attitude and then sneak in when you least expect it to get your number or ask you out. I told the story so you faraaxs can learn something from it but it went over your head...lol

 

[Lostbox]

Actually that was the point I was trying to make...this happens to me all the time with non Somali men(with exception of American madow), most have this similar style of approaching women. They hook you with great convo, chill attitude and then sneak in when you least expect it to get your number or ask you out. I told the story so you faraaxs can learn something from it but it went over your head...lol

At one point you need to create a thread to help all the Abdis

 

[Onyxbrainster]

Lol it’s both ways, Somali guys are awkward asf! Sometimes they lack subtlety or finesse. They either flirt so openly it’s kinda gross or they act really awkward. It’s like they lack that easy casual “let’s built rapport before I ask you out” vibe. For ex, few days ago I was jogging at river nearby. I sat down at a bench to feed the ducks. A mixed Persian guy sat down some distance and then at some point walked over and striked a conversation about the ducks. Then he casually moved on to the history of the state and the river. Then reveled his ancestry, asked about mine. He says he loves Somali food... etc. Before I know it’s been an hour and we covered so many topics. He then casually invites me to Persian cultural event and asked for my number. It happened so casually, it felt normal. A faraax could never pull that off in a million years lol.

That is so cute. Something like that would make my day lol. I never come across Somali men that would do that.

 

[Spartan]

@Amirah is a scorned habar, ignore her.

 

[Mozart]

Actually that was the point I was trying to make...this happens to me all the time with non Somali men(with exception of American madow), most have this similar style of approaching women. They hook you with great convo, chill attitude and then sneak in when you least expect it to get your number or ask you out. I told the story so you faraaxs can learn something from it but it went over your head...lol

Asking about a woman’s background/culture is what every guy who meets a girl from a different ethnicity uses lol if she’s Somali there really isn’t much you can say, unless you have a similar hobby. I just avoid Somali girls cause it’s too much work and also very uncomfortable for both people.

 

[Mercury]

Here's a few reasons in my opinion

- people aren't completely honest when they talk to the opposite gender about their views and values than when they live together they reveal their true self

- clear communication

'look this is what I expect in our marriage' 'this is what I need help with'
both need to communicate about everything to each other

And the last one is comparing your marriage to your parents just cause you saw hooyo looking after 10 kids on her own you can't expect that from your wife you need to realize the girl she doesn't know marriage life either she's never been married you can't expect her to come in and know everything your both new to this and need to support each other and have each others back at every stage

 

[Sonder]

Here's a few reasons in my opinion

- people aren't completely honest when they talk to the opposite gender about their views and values than when they live together they reveal their true self

I really don’t get what the point of this is. Just be honest and you can prevent a lot of heartbreak and fights in the future. It’s such a childish mindset: you’rr just playing with your partner’s time (disrespectful) and your own.

 

[Hali]

I think we have a great understanding...we leave each other alone.

 

[KobeBryant]

All types of ladies bro don’t limit you’re self to one ethnicity

 

[greyhound stone]

All types of ladies bro don’t limit you’re self to one ethnicity

 

[Mercury]

I really don’t get what the point of this is. Just be honest and you can prevent a lot of heartbreak and fights in the future. It’s such a childish mindset: you’rr just playing with your partner’s time (disrespectful) and your own.

I think its because they would rather lie than tell the truth and get rejected for example guys who want many wives instead of looking for girls that are ok with polygamy they knowingly marry a girl thats against it and later marry behind her back

 

[Sonder]

I think its because they would rather lie than tell the truth and get rejected for example guys who want many wives instead of looking for girls that are ok with polygamy they knowingly marry a girl thats against it and later marry behind her back

When it comes to polygamy I think it might be because a big majority (may) not like it at all so it realky hard to find. What is meant here is more like their past/political views/true personality/ how they treat others, etc.

 

[SadioMane]

Our teeth sometimes bite our tongue.

They are useless when separated and compliment each other when in harmony.

Same thing goes for men and women.

 

[Chase]

Actually that was the point I was trying to make...this happens to me all the time with non Somali men(with exception of American madow), most have this similar style of approaching women. They hook you with great convo, chill attitude and then sneak in when you least expect it to get your number or ask you out. I told the story so you faraaxs can learn something from it but it went over your head...lol

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[elite1337]

That’s because in real life they don’t interact beyond surface level. No one debates or brings up ugly topics. Even among women you can not discuss whatever we discuss here without being attacked. Somali people hate deep, raw truthful conversations. They also misconstrue constructive criticisms as insults. We are a group of people addicted to ammaan, all we wanna hear is how amazing we are...so of course these type of convos are avoided irl. Everything is swept under the rug quite often. Which is why most couples and friendships have shallow bonds in our community. You truly never know where the other person stands even politically.

youre kinda true I dont think I ever saw my parents even talk to eachother no lie
they ended up divorcing eventually