Men with wives that have struggled with them still go down the polygamous route. I know Habayars who were with their men when they were dirt poor and even sold their gold to help their men become a bit of a success and be still married again. Thinking that a lot of men will be loyal because their wives saw them at their worst is fantasy that a lot of women fall into.True, but waiting for a man at the finish line also means he’ll be excepting you to be okay with a polygamous marriage, since he’s already able to provide for you and other women, or he’s going to be exceptionally more picky/choosy by which point most women don’t have a chance.
He isn’t right. He’s ignoring statistical trend and subverting reality. White and Asian women more than any other demographic tend to be married to or in relationships with breadwinner men. The PEW statistical center illustrates this.There’s never any solutions but concessions, pick what works for you.
Ultimately the dr Umar guy is right but speaking in a highly exaggerated tone. More stable communities have women who are more willing to invest in men they think will do well or decent while struggling communities will have women jump at the chance of finding a man who’s higher status than them. This obviously somewhat correlates with black vs white women in America.
Black women even in relationships tend to be the breadwinner or earning around the same. They’re already doing what you’re advocating, yet white women are being praised for doing what black women do even though white women tend to go for providers so much more than their black female counterparts.
All stable communities have women that are mostly/more likely to be with breadwinners. I don’t want to insult groups, but I really do see it as the height of emasculation to also expect your women to continuously lower their standards and provide for their men. This mentality is a sickness.