The rise of Hijabis becoming non hijabis

[Yeri]

So I decided to log back onto my insta after 4 years of being inactive. And I followed many girls I knew from primary and secondary school. I went to schools in an area that was Muslim majority so most of these girls were Muslim and wore hijabs. You can imagine my shock when I saw that the overwhelming majority of them no longer wore hijab and had very revealing outfits, now if I had not known these girls that well then I wouldn't be too concerned. But I was completely shocked by a girl that I have known since I was 5, my hooyo used to go on about how I should be more like her, and she would tell me that she wished that Turks (she was Turkish) would be more serious about Islam. I literally had to check our chat logs to make sure that it was really her, back when I would secretly take my hijab off behind my parents she would always I advise me and now she is posting bikini pics. Now I see how easy it is for someone to lose their iman.

 

[ditto]

Spoiler

You don't have permission to view the spoiler content. Log in or register now.

 

[Yeri]

Spoiler

You don't have permission to view the spoiler content. Log in or register now.

Spoiler

You don't have permission to view the spoiler content. Log in or register now.

 

[ditto]

Spoiler

You don't have permission to view the spoiler content. Log in or register now.

Spoiler

You don't have permission to view the spoiler content. Log in or register now.

 

[gasara]

Most of the people who started wearing it in middle school stopped wearing it from what I seen. Both the kids that were my age and older yeah (Somali and Arab/South Asians). What I notice is they lose their iman, go party and stuff but then when they reach mid to late 20s they become disillusioned and return back to Islam. But not with hijab part. The only thing that bothers me is that when some of them comeback to the fold they are very judgemental. Based on your history you should not be judging people (both the men and women do it). It’s not only a Muslim thing you can see it in the conservatives in our countries. Very liberal youth to ultra conservative judgmental person when they’re older. It’s annoying. Like why do I have to hear about disparaging comments about a women when 1. You are a women 2. You have done it too.

 

[Qeelbax]

I’m astonished by the number of xalimos wearing fake timo

 

[Aurelian]

I’m astonished by the number of xalimos wearing fake timo

society pressure to have certain hair type.

 

[gasara]

I’m astonished by the number of xalimos wearing fake timo

It’s their real hair just silk pressed.

 

[Yeri]

I’m astonished by the number of xalimos wearing fake timo

Literally the other day I saw a somali girl wearing a wig and I don’t know if it was her head shape but despite the wig being laid properly that shit looked like a helmet. I just don’t think they suit us.

 

[Yeri]

Most of the people who started wearing it in middle school stopped wearing it from what I seen. Both the kids that were my age and older yeah (Somali and Arab/South Asians). What I notice is they lose their iman, go party and stuff but then when they reach mid to late 20s they become disillusioned and return back to Islam. But not with hijab part. The only thing that bothers me is that when some of them comeback to the fold they are very judgemental. Based on your history you should not be judging people (both the men and women do it). It’s not only a Muslim thing you can see it in the conservatives in our countries. Very liberal youth to ultra conservative judgmental person when they’re older. It’s annoying. Like why do I have to hear about disparaging comments about a women when 1. You are a women 2. You have done it too.

This might sound wrong but I believe that some women only start practicing so that have a better chance of finding a husband because most muslim men won’t marry them if they stay the way they are. And you mentioning them becoming judgmental after a past is so real, there was this girl that I met in sixth form in year 12 during independent study, who got knocked up by her boyfriend in year 13. A couple months ago one of my friends shows me insta post of hers, she now is a niqabi and was talking about how women are the majority in hell. We were just so baffled.

 

[Einar68]

I’m astonished by the number of xalimos wearing fake timo

Afro hair is not liked by wider society outside of "woke" circles. Somalis have a wide variety of curl patterns and many women just like the men have afro textured hair. I ain't gonna pretend I know the most about how women's hair works cuz I grew up with all brothers but I can say for myself that growing a large afro is hard to manage, and sometimes these girls wear wigs to compensate for that, because cutting their hair short isn;t really seen as a womenly thing if that makes sense.

 

[Sophisticate]

These girls have always been around. I doubt they are increasing. I suppose I have more perspective because I'm an oldtimer that's seen it all.

I am a non-hijabi. Always have been.

They fall into two main types:

(1) classy and conservative
(2) bolder in their attire

Among the bolder non-hijabis from the start, they are better at managing themselves even if they are more exploratory. The ex-hijabis, on the other hand, tend to have fewer qualms about going overboard. Especially those caught up in a cycle of rebellion. I have noticed that those who are non-hijabis from the start when they put on the hijab, do not usually flip-flop. They often stay the course, from what I've seen. I can’t speak for those who wore the hijab early and later removed it, but their reasons are likely complex and personal. Some may be influenced by changes in their religiosity or external pressures.

 

[idc]

Afro hair is not liked by wider society outside of "woke" circles. Somalis have a wide variety of curl patterns and many women just like the men have afro textured hair. I ain't gonna pretend I know the most about how women's hair works cuz I grew up with all brothers but I can say for myself that growing a large afro is hard to manage, and sometimes these girls wear wigs to compensate for that, because cutting their hair short isn;t really seen as a womenly thing if that makes sense.

it's really not that deep. it's easier to wear a straight weave than to blow dry and straighten hair for 2-3 hours.

 

[Tiyeglow]

For a man to allow his wife/sisters/mother to step outside without a Hijab and he has absolutely no issue as a Muslim, then there is something fundamentally wrong.

 

[Sophisticate]

it's really not that deep. it's easier to wear a straight weave than to blow dry and straighten hair for 2-3 hours.

I've never worn anything but my hair, but whatever women wear is a stylistic choice and up to them. Many cadaan women wear extensions for greater volume. It's not like it matters.

 

[Yeri]

For a man to allow his wife/sisters/mother to step outside without a Hijab and he has absolutely no issue as a Muslim, then there is something fundamentally wrong.

I mean I don’t know their circumstances for all we know their families could be against it. However, for the girl I mentioned her father was extremely abusive and she stopped seeing him. Her mother is hijabi but really chill.

 

[Qeelbax]

It’s their real hair just silk pressed.

No there are xalimos who were wigs, even some that I know

 

[chaehyun]

I am a non-hijabi and have been for over a decade now. It was a personal choice for me to stop wearing the hijab since it was also forced on me as a child. My parents have since accepted that I am non-hijabi. I only get the occasional, "when will you start wearing hijab?" questions from my mom, but that's about it.

I am someone that has strong opinions about how muslim women are expected to present ourselves. I don't like feeling like I have to present myself a certain way to fit in. I'd rather stand out and not be liked by the majority. But, being this way is a very lonely journey as there are not many people who will agree with you. Most are afraid of stepping out of the box and would rather assimilate to still be a part of a "community".

I will be honest, making the decision to be a non-hijabi at a very young age made it difficult for me to form friendships with other muslim girls. Most of the girls around me were close-minded, judgmental, ultra-religious hijabis who just saw me as the odd one out. Nowadays, I usually attract liberal somali friends but there still seems to be a disconnect which is upsetting as I do want genuine friendships with somali women.

It's interesting that you pointed this out because I have also noticed a rise in many muslim girls taking off their hijabs these days. I seriously think it's a phase for some. I think some of them just want to experiment with their personal style and have fun as a young woman. From my experience, most of these women don't seem to be anti-religion. Some of them will probably become more religious as they age. It happens with gaalo women as well. They all become more conservative as they age out of the party girl lifestyle and become wives.