The paradigm of thinking on the continent is zero-sum. You can't be for someone else, as it would be against oneself. Nor can you be idealistic in a land of wolves
I didn't say be for them, I just said let's co-operate and do favours for each other.
The start of any good relationship starts with a giving spirit. Today I do a favour for you, I cover your lunch or cover your ride home.
Maybe in a week, you will reach back and give me a gift or invite me somewhere. Form there, it's a snowball effect.
Why is that so difficult?