To those against physical discipline and dhaqan celis
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Gacmeey
Madaxweynaha Qurbo Joogta 🇸🇴
If it is they need to be nominated for an oscar
I highly doubt theres a father in that household
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This is an accurate representation of a child raised without a father and an exhausted hooyo. Gaalada encourage your kids to behave like this and will consistently tell them that they’re “always here to help” and to report to them if hooyo ever karbaashes them,
I also found it hilarious the amount of fobs in the comment section oblivious to how kids are raised in the west. These losers don’t care about the kid’s behavior, it’s the fact they’d kill to be in that child’s position living in the west and all. They titled it “ilmaha qurbaha lagu dhalo” as if we can’t tell she’s american
they love to hate on dadka qurbaha ku nool as a coping method.
What that child needs is not dhaqan celis and to be beaten by a hose, but to learn to appreciate her hooyo and that acting like a brat will not make her life easier and the ones around her any happier.
I also found it hilarious the amount of fobs in the comment section oblivious to how kids are raised in the west. These losers don’t care about the kid’s behavior, it’s the fact they’d kill to be in that child’s position living in the west and all. They titled it “ilmaha qurbaha lagu dhalo” as if we can’t tell she’s american
they love to hate on dadka qurbaha ku nool as a coping method.What that child needs is not dhaqan celis and to be beaten by a hose, but to learn to appreciate her hooyo and that acting like a brat will not make her life easier and the ones around her any happier.
Gacmeey
Madaxweynaha Qurbo Joogta 🇸🇴
How do you do that? Especially when the child is belligerent as this one.
I just find it difficult to believe that verbal communication will help unless the child is open to understanding the parent’s perspective. Then again I grew up in africa so I haven’t experienced anything else
yasmeen
summer break 7/1-?
This is a strange thing to record and post online. Keep your family’s private business offline.
The fact the mother is comfortable recording and embarrassing this child tells me everything I need to know.
And what is wrong with a child setting boundaries? Boundaries are something Somali parents never heard of. This kind of entitled attitude towards the children only breeds resentment and rebellion from the children. Leave them alone when they set boundaries, speak to them with respect, and maybe just maybe the child will trust and respect you in return and follow your requests. You don’t gain trust and obedience through violence and fear. Read a book on child development. Or take a f*cking class.
Of course the first thing some of you jumped to was child abuse and dhaqan celis. It’s like you don’t want to break the cycle of toxicity from your parents. A concerning percentage of Somali parents are narcissistic and think their children are an extension of themselves with no agency for themselves. This is a clear example of that.
I don’t care how little of a big deal this argument over breakfast was. That child shouldn’t have been recorded to be humiliated online like this. She was completely aware of what was going on. Poor girl.
The fact the mother is comfortable recording and embarrassing this child tells me everything I need to know.
And what is wrong with a child setting boundaries? Boundaries are something Somali parents never heard of. This kind of entitled attitude towards the children only breeds resentment and rebellion from the children. Leave them alone when they set boundaries, speak to them with respect, and maybe just maybe the child will trust and respect you in return and follow your requests. You don’t gain trust and obedience through violence and fear. Read a book on child development. Or take a f*cking class.
Of course the first thing some of you jumped to was child abuse and dhaqan celis. It’s like you don’t want to break the cycle of toxicity from your parents. A concerning percentage of Somali parents are narcissistic and think their children are an extension of themselves with no agency for themselves. This is a clear example of that.
I don’t care how little of a big deal this argument over breakfast was. That child shouldn’t have been recorded to be humiliated online like this. She was completely aware of what was going on. Poor girl.
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My parents never beat me growing up. My mother was religiously against it and would rant about how a child is innocent and defenseless and it is a cowardly and cruel thing to wail on them. She once even nearly threw hands with her own sister when she caught her beating her son in our house. Despite this I still respected my parents and hooyo simply threatening to tell aabo about my shenanigans would fill me with a cold terror.
There are loads of clever psychological ways to project strength and command at your children without even having to raise your voice or strike them. My father's favorite go to was to threaten to ship me off to the baadiyo.
"Oh? You don't want to go to school? No problem, wallahi. -Mother's name-, lets cut him a ticket for Mudug or Bari. He can go live with the nomads in tents out in the desert and fight off snakes and live on sparse helpings of milk. Wallahi, I'm all for it. Toughen you up. City life making you soft. Pack your bags. No school for you, as you said."
There are loads of clever psychological ways to project strength and command at your children without even having to raise your voice or strike them. My father's favorite go to was to threaten to ship me off to the baadiyo.
"Oh? You don't want to go to school? No problem, wallahi. -Mother's name-, lets cut him a ticket for Mudug or Bari. He can go live with the nomads in tents out in the desert and fight off snakes and live on sparse helpings of milk. Wallahi, I'm all for it. Toughen you up. City life making you soft. Pack your bags. No school for you, as you said."
My parents never beat me growing up. My mother was religiously against it and would rant about how a child is innocent and defenseless and it is a cowardly and cruel thing to wail on them. She once even nearly threw hands with her own sister when she caught her beating her son in our house. Despite this I still respected my parents and hooyo simply threatening to tell aabo about my shenanigans would fill me with a cold terror.
There are loads of clever psychological ways to project strength and command at your children without even having to raise your voice or strike them. My father's favorite go to was to threaten to ship me off to the baadiyo.
"Oh? You don't want to go to school? No problem, wallahi. -Mother's name-, lets cut him a ticket for Mudug or Bari. He can go live with the nomads in tents out in the desert and fight off snakes and live on sparse helpings of milk. Wallahi, I'm all for it. Toughen you up. City life making you soft. Pack your bags. No school for you, as you said."
My parents rarely beat me, but my hooyo used to put hot sauce in my mouth if i didn't act right.
If you ask me, i would pick getting beat over that anyday. That was not fun at all.
Gacmeey
Madaxweynaha Qurbo Joogta 🇸🇴
You are right, should’ve never been recorded. I’d really like to know what she thought this would achieve
What are these “boundaries”? This child refused to come down for diner and when the mother enters the room, the child throws a tantrum about privacy. Should the mother just left the child alone and respect her “privacy” even though the child is clearly not respecting the mother? What is the limit to these boundaries and do they even have limits? What happens when the child’s boundaries infringe on the ability of the mother/father to parent
Physical discipline is not abuse but there is a fine line. I was physically disciplined and so was every other kid I know and we turned out fine
𐒋𐒖𐒆𐒔𐒖𐒕𐒈
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A case of the telly bringing up kids, and parents realising their eventual failure a tad bit late.
In my book, a child has neither privacy, nor boundaries, nor special space in the family home. They should, and must as they turn 15+.
Keeping in mind, we are not some 'cadaan' suburban liberals on a parallel universe.
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You sound like one of my liberal friends after a long bender; how many glasses of that fine wine have you downed this fine Sun. morn (kaftan)?
Yours is an interesting take. The issue of 'boundaries' is a worthy topic of discussion, perhaps as time permits. In the interim, could you elaborate re: boundaries for kids?
In my book, a child has neither privacy, nor boundaries, nor special space in the family home. They should, and must as they turn 15+.
Keeping in mind, we are not some 'cadaan' suburban liberals on a parallel universe.
Postscript:
You sound like one of my liberal friends after a long bender; how many glasses of that fine wine have you downed this fine Sun. morn (kaftan)?
Gacmeey
Madaxweynaha Qurbo Joogta 🇸🇴
One of my earliest dua’a used to be that Allah didn’t turn me into a female because I once heard my aunt threaten my cousin about putting bisbas on her siil. All the memories are just rushing through rn
One of my earliest dua’a used to be that Allah didn’t turn me into a female because I once heard my aunt threaten my cousin about putting bisbas on her siil. All the memories are just rushing through rn
LOOOOL crazy i doubt your aunt would ever do that. They have a way with scaring people into acting straight
Odious Delirium
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many people say there mothers did that to them. it sound crazy and absurd like cant that cause health issues
They definitely are joking. But to me It didn't cause any health problems. It happened only a few, like 2-3 times to me and the spicy hot sensation in my mouth wore off after a few hours.many people say there mothers did that to them. it sound crazy and absurd like cant that cause health issues
But it was enough for me to not mess about anymore. The bisbas was more about creating the threat of it in your head.
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Odious Delirium
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no I'm talking about what @Gacmeey said. All of them that say this threat was carried out on them can't all be lying
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Who knows, I would not be shocked if this was real, this is tame compared what I have seen on somali tiktok.
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What the effing ^ell, Is this a thing? What sort of a family is that?
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