Underage Marriage

[Wabari]

Game is game

 

[Wabari]

I did a poll on here once, and most women overwhelmingly prefer men in their age-range. I even saw men voting to throw the poll of, but thankfully I made it so that I could see who voted.

And when the few women who said they would marry much older, gave their opinion, it was related to financial stability.

So, when these older men, with no lacag or anything else worth discussing, talk about younger girls, they are truly clueless about inaa la rabo.

I’m going to try to talk him out of it let’s see how that goes. Also, his mom and family aren’t even freaked out about it; they actually support him. I think only his sisters aren’t okay with the idea.

 

[Wabari]

Somali girls back home, have a crush on that cute guy in their class/neighbourhood etc. A girl is a girl, no matter where she is. Those miskeen girls probably close their eyes and think of lacag when these creeps come lurking.

Funny you say that he sends the girl $500 every two weeks, and when he’s at my house and she calls him, they talk for like an hour. It’s confusing, wallahi.

 

[Wabari]

I don’t see a problem with it tbh 17 and 25 isn’t the end of the world people grow up quicker in Somalia plus if she was one year older it would be completely legal and no one would bat an eye even in the west hell some countries in the west have their age of consent at 16. 19 and 55 is kinda nuts but she’s an adult end of the day as long as it’s not being forced on her I don’t see a problem with that either.

We hear stories about 18yr olds marrying 60 even 70yr old billionaires but no one gives shit even other girls cheer her on telling her go get dat money sis. There is bigger things to worry about like 10-15yr olds being auctioned for marriage to grown ass dudes

I mean you are right, wasn't there an actor who was like 80 something and got married and had a kid with a very young woman

 

[Gacmeey]

There is nothing morally wrong with this for liberal cadaans laakin westernised Somalis will always try to out liberal the liberals.

 

[Kisame]

I’m going to try to talk him out of it let’s see how that goes. Also, his mom and family aren’t even freaked out about it; they actually support him. I think only his sisters aren’t okay with the idea.

Similar discussions about this scenario have been had on here for awhile.

Some 23 year old creepy teacher on here in hargeisa planned on marrying a 17 student he was plotting on for awhile

https://www.somalispot.com/threads/i-will-get-married-soon.163714/#post-3963894


A large chunk of folks on Somalispot really don't give AF about grown men marrying teenagers. This place is filled with a bunch of super conservative dudes. Most of them are willing to accept any marriage that's considered halal.

The only members on here that have spoken against these marriages have been the women, any dude that's even slightly progressive, and the gaals.


Since our country is completely fucked right now pedos have been able to roam free back home without any repercussions. Poor families are willing to marry off their teenage daughters just for lacag. Only way we can end this practice is by getting our shit together and educating everyone.

Not everyone back home accepts this bullshit either. Every once in awhile I see a random wedding ceremony on TikTok between an old Somali man and a teenager girl on TikTok. Somalis back home literally don't give a f*ck about hiding this practice. The comments are filled with young somalis back home dropping sad emojis and talking about how the girl was from a poor family.

Also I'm not surprised with your mom and your older family members not giving a f*ck about this. A lot of old Somali women see nothing wrong with this.

 

[Kun_Ciil]

Funny you say that he sends the girl $500 every two weeks, and when he’s at my house and she calls him, they talk for like an hour. It’s confusing, wallahi.

What a troll.

In what world is a guy sending a girl in Somalia who he hasn't married yet, and doesn't have children with $1000 a month.

War ninkan been badana. Men from the West who have 5 kids with a wife back home and own a house send around $500 a month. And here you're telling us he is sending ONE person 1k? Haha peace out I ain't got time for BS.

 

[Wabari]

What a troll.

In what world is a guy sending a girl in Somalia who he hasn't married yet, and doesn't have children with $1000 a month.

War ninkan been badana. Men from the West who have 5 kids with a wife back home and own a house send around $500 a month. And here you're telling us he is sending ONE person 1k? Haha peace out I ain't got time for BS.

Saxib not everyone is a broke just say you broke

 

[Kun_Ciil]

Saxib not everyone is a broke just say you broke

Fortunately for you there aren't many guys on here who have got married back home or know the expenses/norms required. If you're being serious, then your friend is a fool and setting himself up for a horrible relationship. If you care about your friend then you should tell him to consult with his parents who know how things work back home.

Naa man you're a troll. What is a single 17 year old girl in Somalia with no kids going to do with 1k a month?

People in the west are sending 300-500 monthly to their parents and close relatives, and you want us to believe that a guy would send 1k to a girl who he isn't even married to? For perspective I know diaspora families who have come from the West and they spend around 1k a month living as upper class citizens.

If my friend was in the same position. I would tell him to send her max 100 a month if he really likes her that much- was going to say 150-200 but then remembered shes 17 and still living with her parents and is under their supervision so doesnt go out much...she doesn't have big expenses, different story when she has her own house and kids...

 

[Wabari]

Fortunately for you there aren't many guys on here who have got married back home or know the expenses/norms required. If you're being serious, then your friend is a fool and setting himself up for a horrible relationship. If you care about your friend then you should tell him to consult with his parents who know how things work back home.

Naa man you're a troll. What is a single 17 year old girl in Somalia with no kids going to do with 1k a month?

People in the west are sending 300-500 monthly to their parents and close relatives, and you want us to believe that a guy would send 1k to a girl who he isn't even married to? For perspective I know diaspora families who have come from the West and they spend around 1k a month living as upper class citizens.

If my friend was in the same position. I would tell him to send her max 100 a month if he really likes her that much- was going to say 150-200 but then remembered shes 17 and still living with her parents and is under their supervision so doesnt go out much...she doesn't have big expenses, different story when she has her own house and kids...

He works as a journeyman pipefitter at a camp, earning around $3,500 every two weeks. The reason he sends her so much money is that she lives in a small town in Somalia and uses most of it to take care of her family.

 

[Kun_Ciil]

He works as a journeyman pipefitter at a camp, earning around $3,500 every two weeks. The reason he sends her so much money is that she lives in a small town in Somalia and uses most of it to take care of her family.

Mashallah. Makes more sense now that you tell me he is supporting a whole family lol. Where did he find this girl? Is she qaraabo?

That family has hit the jackpot. 1k your eating good in the major cities, but for a small town? Lool her dad will be qabiil elder in no time.

Even if your friend has the finances, he should be more wise and keep his cards to his chest for example he should just give them 500. Because 1k for someone in Somalia will just make them more greedy and their demands of him will get bigger and bigger. Today its only 1k, tomorrow its 2k since his father-in-law got himself a second wife, the next day it will be build me a house for 30k and the next help front 50k to start a business venture.

The people in Somalia are no joke bro, ive seen a lot of guys who end up getting too pressured and then finally crack and get a divorce. Your friend has a big heart, I hope he got married to reer fiican oo xishood iyo imaan leh.

 

[The truth seeker]

There is nothing morally wrong with this for liberal cadaans laakin westernised Somalis will always try to out liberal the liberals.

The people on here talk like white liberals wallahi they should work for CNN experts at spreading propaganda and BS

 

[Gacmeey]

Most of them are willing to accept any marriage that's considered halal.

The only members on here that have spoken against these marriages have been the women, any dude that's even slightly progressive, and the gaals.

We accept halal marriages because we are Muslim?????!?!!?! HELLEOW DUDE. If we said otherwise our muslimnimo would be in serious question.

It’s one thing to criticise marriages between an oday and some child but a 16 yr old marrying their peers is halal and morally okay and anyone saying otherwise is legit crazy.

 

[The truth seeker]

We accept halal marriages because we are Muslim?????!?!!?! HELLEOW DUDE. If we said otherwise our muslimnimo would be in serious question.

It’s one thing to criticise marriages between an oday and some child but a 16 yr old marrying their peers is halal and morally okay and anyone saying otherwise is legit crazy.

This guy is a Gaal male feminist his opinion on “halal marriage ”is of no value

 

[Gacmeey]

This guy is a Gaal male feminist his opinion on “halal marriage ”is of no value

It’s the whole dismissive attitude that gets me. He says that we will accept marriages as long as they are halal as if we don’t have moral arguments for why they are halal in the first place.

Then he turns the whole thing on its head when the whole thing was 17 and 25 yr old he turns into and old man and child when no one was even arguing for the latter in this thread except that yusuf kid.

It’s all an attempt to paint us as “super conservative dudes” who want to marry some reer miyi child for 5 bucks and a glass of goat milk. War yaa illaahi yaqaano. Haduu daacad yahay wakaa car ha sheego guurka ka dhaxeeya 17 jir iyo 25 jir wixii ka qaldan asagoo hal qabsaneynin dood oo aan loo joogin

 

[Gacmeey]

Just so yall know. Some people have an agenda when they try to stoke these debates. Don’t be naive sarbeeb qarsoon baa baraha bulshada ka wada socda. It’s all a attack on you

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[Wabari]

Mashallah. Makes more sense now that you tell me he is supporting a whole family lol. Where did he find this girl? Is she qaraabo?

That family has hit the jackpot. 1k your eating good in the major cities, but for a small town? Lool her dad will be qabiil elder in no time.

Even if your friend has the finances, he should be more wise and keep his cards to his chest for example he should just give them 500. Because 1k for someone in Somalia will just make them more greedy and their demands of him will get bigger and bigger. Today its only 1k, tomorrow its 2k since his father-in-law got himself a second wife, the next day it will be build me a house for 30k and the next help front 50k to start a business venture.

The people in Somalia are no joke bro, ive seen a lot of guys who end up getting too pressured and then finally crack and get a divorce. Your friend has a big heart, I hope he got married to reer fiican oo xishood iyo imaan leh.

That’s some nice advice saxib I will let him know inshallah

 

[mudugnapalm]

The game is the game. A sane, healthy woman is happiest when she's married and raising children. The problem is a lot of younger guys have little to no value in terms of marriage due to lack of experience, wealth, and stability otherwise they'd marry them. Marriage has always been transactional and this is nothing new. Also the age gap in this is normal and anyone saying otherwise is just bitter, you even see relationships with age gaps like this in the west.

 

[Kisame]

We accept halal marriages because we are Muslim?????!?!!?! HELLEOW DUDE. If we said otherwise our muslimnimo would be in serious question.

It’s one thing to criticise marriages between an oday and some child but a 16 yr old marrying their peers is halal and morally okay and anyone saying otherwise is legit crazy.

"16 yr old marrying their peers is halal and morally okay and anyone saying otherwise is legit crazy"

Nigga 16 year olds aren't peers with anyone above the age of 18 . Especially peers of the opposite sex. They got no business dating anyone that's graduated high school. Only 20 year old losers spend time plotting on teenagers

 

[Gacmeey]

"16 yr old marrying their peers is halal and morally okay and anyone saying otherwise is legit crazy"

Nigga 16 year olds aren't peers with anyone above the age of 18 . Especially peers of the opposite sex. They got no business dating anyone that's graduated high school. Only 20 year old losers spend time plotting on teenagers

That’s a statement can you please provide reasoning behind your batshit insane statement