What do you do when the xalimo does not enjoy iyartha habenka?

[Basra]

Somali language is too dirty. Going to delete this message soon, delete yours

Actually Somali language is the most tactful, Euphemism using language in existent. In English 17th century, it would have been called a Gentleman or Gentlewoman language.

They never say bad things directly. They use detour.

 

[Azania]

Your "buddy" is not a "real" man. An Alpha man should not care if his wife does not enjoy it. Usually alphas are all about their needs. As long as she is obliging, mission position, get with it idiot and go about your business. If u want star, flipping all positions, go watch or get that arab star.

Besides sex for women is different. Its about chore. The mechanics of getting pregnant. And the farah job is to provide the seed, that means he needs to be a creative farmer. So, go digging and plant the seeds creatively for a good harvest, Doqoon! Its sad to speak in an agricultural analogy way, but with an I.Q of 68 that's as basic as I can go.

I read this post thinking this is some virgin kid who doesn’t know how life works. And then next posts mentioned basra, and I went back to check the name and MY GOD. I didn’t expect basra to be talking like this. I honestly expect you to be last Person to write this

 

[Azania]

Actually Somali language is the most tactful, Euphemism using language in existent. In English 17th century, it would have been called a Gentleman or Gentlewoman language.

They never say bad things directly. They use detour.

Coming from a person who likes to be spanked. You can’t just qashin my post because I said something that you don’t like. I demand a like on this post.

 

[Mercury]

You’re friend is weird why would he share about his sex life with others?

He could go to a gynecologist or a doctor with this issue but his first thought was his friends??

 

[Basra]

@Lex Luther is your name based on the famous 90s wrestler? is he still alive?

 

[Halimo-2018]

True. Should not even be mentioning such stuff. But the geezer does not know what to do. I don't either. Had no choice but to ask folks for their opinion

You need to inform your friend that he is disrespectful towards his wife. Don't entertain his marriage problems unless your therapist. Next time tell him Maybe his wife is turned off by his bad manners.

 

[Halimo-2018]

Keep her as a back up. What in the actual f*ck? You do know that she's a human being right, wives are not only for sex.

I'm sick of Somali men!!! Seriously.

Exactly. Men think we're only good for sex and makin babies and our culture is on their side.something needs to change.

 

[Zahra]

Because the kintir has been cut?

My buddy has married this lovely xalimo. Everything is good between them. But there is an issue with her not enjoying physical intimacy. The brother was not told before hand that she went through fgm. So when it comes to sex she is not into it. She just sees it as a husband chore. And it is killing the man. Obviously man don’t want to leave his new wife. But he is not enjoying the act of love now. What should I advice him with? I have absolutely no idea

Maybe sex is painful for her, maybe she feels insecure. He should ask her. Im sure theres more to it.

 

[NAAFO]

Because the kintir has been cut?

My buddy has married this lovely xalimo. Everything is good between them. But there is an issue with her not enjoying physical intimacy. The brother was not told before hand that she went through fgm. So when it comes to sex she is not into it. She just sees it as a husband chore. And it is killing the man. Obviously man don’t want to leave his new wife. But he is not enjoying the act of love now. What should I advice him with? I have absolutely no idea

@Dino my friend why must you embarrass our sisters who are victims of fgm through your friend being so insensitive wallahi as it seems is all he cares about is the fulfilment of his desire's,

its not her fault she is unable to satisfy him for the moment him behaving like she's unwilling which isn't the case its not that she doesn't want to, its that she can't most likely due to pain which is or can be made worse if he is blessed and hung which can unfortunately exacerbate the pain for the maskiin sister.

So tell your friend to not do her a disservice by complaining about something she can't help how would he feel if she complained about him not maintaining his bed room duties he probably wouldn't like it then he must understand that women don't like to be hung out to dry for not maintaining their bed room duties to.

Tell him to be more sensitive and receptive to her regarding this problem.

And have sabre for the sake of Allah

 

[Degmada waaberi]

Exactly. Some Men think we're only good for sex and makin babies and our culture is on their side.something needs to change.

@Halimo-2018

Fixed

 

[World]

Are all women in Somalia without kintir? I thought they ended that shit in the big cities like xamar, hargeisa etc whilst the only did that in baadiye.

 

[Emily]

Poor woman
Maybe she should explore her other erogenous zones, sex is more than penetration

 

[Halimo-2018]

@Halimo-2018

Fixed

By the time i realized i couldn't edit. Stay alert on how women are treated in this world just incase you have daughters in the future lol

 

[Degmada waaberi]

By the time i realized i couldn't edit. Stay alert on how women are treated in this world just incase you have daughters in the future lol

I took the Qashin back sorry

May Allah (swt) make us those who who appreciate their women and treat them with respect, dignity and kindness

 

[AliUK]

Who talks about sex with their wife to a friend?