What is love?

[Merchant of Mogadishu]

love is the opiate of the great. Just succumb to drug addiction if you desire it.

That's love for your desires and whims which shall never be true love. That's hedonistic love, an illusion, emotions brought about by the notorious blue pill.

True love is loving someone for the sake of Allah.

 

[Gambar]

love is when you come home from a hard workout and you find your mom have made you hilib and baris

Typical Aabo answer.

 

[Reign]

Love comes in all forms, but most of all love is truly wanting happiness for someone and loving them flaws and all without wanting anything in return.

 

[CrazedOpal]

Love is a very broad & deep thing. The greeks have something called the 8 types of love as a way to properly categorize it:

1. “EROS” OR EROTIC LOVE
The first kind of love is Eros, which is named after the Greek god of love and fertility. Eros represents the idea of sexual passion and desire.

The ancient Greeks considered Eros to be dangerous and frightening as it involves a “loss of control” through the primal impulse to procreate. Eros is a passionate and intense form of love that arouses romantic and sexual feelings.

Eros is an exulted and beautifully idealistic love that in the hearts of the spiritually mature can be used to “recall knowledge of beauty” (as Socrates put it) through Tantra and spiritual sex. But when misguided, eros can be misused, abused and indulged in, leading to impulsive acts and broken hearts.

Eros is a primal and powerful fire that burns out quickly. It needs its flame to be fanned through one of the deeper forms of love below as it is centered around the selfish aspects of love, that is, personal infatuation and physical pleasure.

Love Catalyst: The physical body

2. “PHILIA” OR AFFECTIONATE LOVE
The second type of love is philia, or friendship. The ancient Greeks valued philia far above eros because it was considered a love between equals.

Plato felt that physical attraction was not a necessary part of love, hence the use of the word platonic to mean, “without physical attraction.” Philia is a type of love that is felt among friends who’ve endured hard times together.


As Aristotle put it, philia is a “dispassionate virtuous love” that is free from the intensity of sexual attraction. It often involves the feelings of loyalty among friends, camaraderie among team mates, and the sense of sacrifice for your pack.

Examples in Films: Girl with a Pearl Earring, The Girl Next Door

Love Catalyst: The mind

3. “STORGE” OR FAMILIAR LOVE
Although storge closely resembles philia in that it is a love without physical attraction, storge is primarily to do with kinship and familiarity. Storge is a natural form of affection that often flows between parents and their children, and children for their parents.

Storge love can even be found among childhood friends that is later shared as adults. But although storge is a powerful form of love, it can also become an obstacle on our spiritual paths, especially when our family or friends don’t align with or support our journey.

Love Catalyst: Causal (Memories)

4. “LUDUS” OR PLAYFUL LOVE
Although ludus has a bit of the erotic eros in it, it is much more than that. The Greeks thought of ludus as a playful form of love, for example, the affection between young lovers.

Ludus is that feeling we have when we go through the early stages of falling in love with someone, e.g. the fluttering heart, flirting, teasing, and feelings of euphoria.

Playfulness in love is an essential ingredient that is often lost in long-term relationships. Yet playfulness is one of the secrets to keeping the childlike innocence of your love alive, interesting and exciting.

Love Catalyst: Astral (Emotion)

5. “MANIA” OR OBSESSIVE LOVE
Mania love is a type of love that leads a partner into a type of madness and obsessiveness. It occurs when there is an imbalance between eros and ludus.

To those who experience mania, love itself is a means of rescuing themselves; a reinforcement of their own value as the sufferer of poor self-esteem. This person wants to love and be loved to find a sense of self-value. Because of this, they can become possessive and jealous lovers, feeling as though they desperately “need” their partners.

If the other partner fails to reciprocate with the same kind of mania love, many issues prevail. This is why mania can often lead to issues such as codependency.

Love Catalyst: Survival instinct

6. “PRAGMA” OR ENDURING LOVE
Pragma is a love that has aged, matured and developed over time. It is beyond the physical, it has transcended the casual, and it is a unique harmony that has formed over time.

You can find pragma in married couples who’ve been together for a long time, or in friendships that have endured for decades. Unfortunately pragma is a type of love that is not easily found. We spend so much time and energy trying to find love and so little time in learning how to maintain it.

Unlike the other types of love, pragma is the result of effort on both sides. It’s the love between people who’ve learned to make compromises, have demonstrated patience and tolerance to make the relationship work.

Love Catalyst: Etheric (Unconscious)

7. “PHILAUTIA” OR SELF LOVE
The Greeks understood that in order to care for others, we must first learn to care for ourselves. This form of self-love is not the unhealthy vanity and self-obsession that is focused on personal fame, gain and fortune as is the case with Narcissism.

Instead, philautia is self-love in its healthiest form. It shares the Buddhist philosophy of “self-compassion” which is the deep understanding that only once you have the strength to love yourself and feel comfortable in your own skin, will you be able to provide love to others. As Aristotle put it, “All friendly feelings for others are an extension of a man’s feelings for himself.”

You cannot share what you do not have. If you do not love yourself, you cannot love anyone else either. The only way to truly be happy is to find that unconditional love for yourself. Only once you learn to love and understand yourself, will you be ready to search for the spiritual freedom of the Self.

Love Catalyst: Soul

8. “AGAPE” OR SELFLESS LOVE
The highest and most radical type of love according to the Greeks is agape, or selfless unconditional love.

This type of love is not the sentimental outpouring that often passes as love in our society. It has nothing to do with the condition-based type of love that our sex-obsessed culture tries to pass as love.

Agape is what some call spiritual love. It is an unconditional love, bigger than ourselves, a boundless compassion, an infinite empathy. It is what the Buddhists describe as “mettā” or “universal loving kindness.” It is the purest form of love that is free from desires and expectations, and loves regardless of the flaws and shortcomings of others.

Agape is the love that is felt for that which we intuitively know as the divine truth: the love that accepts, forgives and believes for our greater good.

Love Catalyst: Spirit

https://lonerwolf.com/different-types-of-love/

Common for all this is a strong emotion towards something and someone. It's about CARING for someone/something/yourself, doesn't matter if its positive or negative; You wouldn't consider Mania and it's possessiveness to be caring (and claiming such behavior to be caring is very risky) You have to look at the person with mania, they want to love and be loved, yet their insecurities are tainting that love they desire. The care, even expressed in a negative way, is still there. Mania can be selfish, alot of these categories can be selfish. Is it fair to define love as only something selfless? According to some people Agape would be the ideal love, which can easily turn only since conditions are needed, boundaries should be made or else the people we care for won't be held accountable for anything.



So love = Care.

 

[El padrone]

love is the burning desire you have to defile the person you love emiotionally and physically.
the feeling is, i get raging hard boner.

yes unrequited love sucks, i fall in love everyday. stick something in thr malab and its gone. nuff said

 

[ManlikeYJ]

love is the burning desire you have to defile the person you love emiotionally and physically.
the feeling is, i get raging hard boner.

yes unrequited love sucks, i fall in love everyday. stick something in thr malab and its gone. nuff said

Wax walaan bad tahay. Seek help

 

[CrazedOpal]

love is the burning desire you have to defile the person you love emiotionally and physically.
the feeling is, i get raging hard boner.

yes unrequited love sucks, i fall in love everyday. stick something in thr malab and its gone. nuff said

 

[El padrone]

Wax walaan bad tahay. Seek help

why? isnt everyone like that?

 

[KULTA]

Personally i believe only women and gays fall in love (romantic crap). Real men only lust thats it.

 

[offensive bias]

love is insanity and madness..
it also feels hella good..

love is your subconsciousness reacting to the connection your soul has made.

in sufi terms its the connection your ruux makes, and the nafs reacting to it...
caql/mind is not involved in this and is overwhelmed hence the madness.

dont know why it feels good though???
its fucked up..

ive been in this condition 4 times..

 

[El padrone]

love is insanity and madness..
it also feels hella good..

love is your subconsciousness reacting to the connection your soul has made.

in sufi terms its the connection your ruux makes, and the nafs reacting to it...
caql/mind is not involved in this and is overwhelmed hence the madness

fellow sufi.

 

[offensive bias]

to be a sufi you need a guide, a muriid
i havent acquired one yet, even though ive recieved offers
i lean more towards shadiili than naqshibandi or qadiri.

but im a coward im still lingering at the edge and begining of the journey..

i will need a guide sooner or later.

 

[El padrone]

to be a sufi you need a guide, a muriid
i havent acquired one yet, even though ive recieved offers
i lean more towards shadiili than naqshibandi or qadiri.

but im a coward im still lingering at the edge and begining of the journey..

i will need a guide sooner or later.

qaadiri is fine tho. i think ur better off with out guides. theres some guides in sland if you are up to it they can help u

 

[offensive bias]

qaadiri is fine tho. i think ur better off with out guides. theres some guides in sland if you are up to it they can help u

i need a guide who can accommodate someone western,
maybe somali and arab but to be honest i am equally western in outlook and culture..

infact my journey towards religiousness was unusual, i went through an athiest phase that lasted a few months, towards an agnostic phase that lasted longer.
then it was an exploration of buddhism , even Christianity , then it was philosophy
somewhere alongside heideggar i was pulled towards the debate between ibn sina and alghalzali
and my mind was blown.

i believe the world has not met an equal to alghazli, just like it hasnt for Einstein.
my 9 month kufr phase ended and for the last 10 years ive been a ferverant muslim..

 

[Mercury]

I believe you can fall in love with someone but the true love comes after you marry that person and you love every imperfection about them wether they complain they're fat/skinny yet to you they're beautiful

 

[Hawaa]

When he laughs and you are...

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[Merca]

love is the burning desire you have to defile the person you love emiotionally and physically.
the feeling is, i get raging hard boner.

yes unrequited love sucks, i fall in love everyday. stick something in thr malab and its gone. nuff said

You disgust me

 

[agnes]

True love is when my dad kisses my forhead every morning before I leave.

When my mom makes dua for me.

First time I held my nephew and I knew I could give my life to protect him.

 

[star]

True love is when my dad kisses my forhead every morning before I leave.

That's so cute

 

[Zumar]

Hearing your mother laugh