What would you do in this scenario?

[Prettymuslim94]

After 2 months I'm cutting the financial support, so she better be working hard!!

 

[Jaydaan]

5 is not early, have you ever seen 5 years with their dads? that's most likely the point the kid bonds with you the most. I don't believe you could do that. remember you only found out they weren't yours, bonds can't shift that quickly

I know myself. I wouldn’t be able to raise a child that’s not mine and after finding out the betrayal. I would leave him with his mum and they can seek his real dad. Bonds are not forever. They are conditionally. Once I know we ain’t family trust me I’m gone

 

[Prettymuslim94]

I know myself. I wouldn’t be able to raise a child that’s not mine and after finding out the betrayal. I would leave him with his mum and they can seek his real dad. Bonds are not forever. They are conditionally. Once I know we ain’t family trust me I’m gone

You're a alpha

 

[Somali Napolean]

This is why you test childrens DNA and match it against yours when they are first born.

 

[bluebird]

I find it interesting people say women are run by emotion, when men seem to think based on their emotions/primal instincts. A women would think about the child and their future. A man thinks about how others will perceive him and the anger he feels for his wife...hmmm


no wonder mothers have a higher place. some men even divorce their own biological kids if they divorce the wife let alone one with no blood relation, but i guess that's why mothers come x3 before dads.

 

[bluebird]

I know myself. I wouldn’t be able to raise a child that’s not mine and after finding out the betrayal. I would leave him with his mum and they can seek his real dad. Bonds are not forever. They are conditionally. Once I know we ain’t family trust me I’m gone

fair enough. but what if the kid says "aabo, why don't you visit me anymore, don't you love me" with tears in their eyes, how do you react

 

[Prettymuslim94]

I find it interesting people say women are run by emotion, when men seem to think based on their emotions/primal instincts. A women would think about the child and their future. A man thinks about how others will perceive him and the anger he feels for his wife...hmmm

No we just don't want a bastard to claim our lineage or raise a bastard that's not our job it's the mother's and the deadbeat guy. If we were emotional we'd hunt down the deadbeat guy and hurt him.

 

[Shmurda]

 

[bluebird]

No we just don't want a bastard to claim our lineage or raise a bastard that's not our job it's the mother's and the deadbeat guy. If we were emotional we'd hunt down the deadbeat guy and hurt him.

what if that kid was you? and your dad called you a "bastard" and abandoned you kids don't understand all that biology. all they know is the people who raised them are their mom and dad. f you can leave a child you knew as yours since birth I think you have no morals. that would psychologically damage them for years.

 

[Sophisticate]

I used to be possessive in a past life but I'm reformed. If he had a child from anyone else I would only add low doses of an undetectable poison to his coffee.

 

[Prettymuslim94]

what if that kid was you? and your dad called you a "bastard" and abandoned you kids don't understand all that biology. all they know is the people who raised them are their mom and dad. f you can leave a child you knew as yours since birth I think you have no morals. that would psychologically damage them for years.

I would blame my mom when i get older. People who raise bastards have no morals not me.

 

[BobSmoke]

The younger me would say f*ck them both but as I got older and matured I understood that shit is too complex for the kid to understand. I'd just divorce the woman. Not the yute, shit like this would cause mental chaos.
That is if the kid is older than 7 years old.
I'd take the yute away from her, leave to an another city and raise that kid as my own. I wont even speak ill of the mother, I'll just say that she died.
The kid do as you do, not as you say. The kid will understand the value of a real man and good father and will not follow the mother's foolish ways.
I would pray God to dambi-daaf and make my life easier in the meantime.

I'd just punish her mother by taking away her kid so that she feels the pain I was feeling when finding out.

However if the kid is younger than 3, I'd leave them both

I'm not what you call a simp or a "real nigga". I'm just a man who do honorable shit. No traces of h-oenigga in my DNA.

 

[NotreDame]

I find it interesting people say women are run by emotion, when men seem to think based on their emotions/primal instincts. A women would think about the child and their future. A man thinks about how others will perceive him and the anger he feels for his wife...hmmm


no wonder mothers have a higher place. some men even divorce their own biological kids if they divorce the wife let alone one with no blood relation, but i guess that's why mothers come x3 before dads.

That's a pretty simple thought process, but you need to understand that the mother's emotions are not limited to empathy and compassion. They also feel emotions like anger, regret, sadness etc. If I found out my child wasn't mine, I'd first settle the score with the mother, then I'd give up the kid too. Seeing their face would only remind me of the man that my (ex-)wife cheated with.

Raising him would be a fool's choice. He doesn't deserve hatred but neither does he deserve my love.

 

[Abdisamad]

I would probably divorce the mother and bounce out of their life.

 

[Fadedaf]

Divorce the wife but ask for 50/50 custody for my kids only. f*ck her kid, she can go find his dad

 

[Jiron]

Let's say you found out one of your kids is not yours. would you still claim them? the child is 5 years old and only knows you as their dad....

will you be "macho" and break the heart of the child who loves you or will you raise another man's child?

I intentionally left out the poll so no one gets off easy with a single click of a vote.

I would never abandon a child that I raised from birth, I will always be her dad no matter what. Anyone can be a father but not everyone can be a dad

 

[NotreDame]

I would never abandon a child that I raised from birth, I will always be her dad no matter what. Anyone can be a father but not everyone can be a dad

casual sexism I see.

 

[Jiron]

casual sexism I see.

I like to personalize and appeal to the basic human emotion in scenarios like this. By using they/them pronounce, it takes so much away. People already assumed the child was a son in their head, I purposely said she.

 

[Abdisamad]

I would never abandon a child that I raised from birth, I will always be her dad no matter what. Anyone can be a father but not everyone can be a dad

Jiron sometimes it's OK to be angry and selfish and have a negative/critical view.. If your wife cheats on you and even give birth to a bastard child in your house that's beyond disrespectful and you should kick her and the kid out.. Everything that happens to the kid is on the mother she should suffer for what she has done to you.

 

[NotreDame]

I like to personalize and appeal to the basic human emotion in scenarios like this. By using they/them pronounce, it takes so much away. People already assumed the child was a son in their head, I purposely said she.

People use he as it is another form of a singular gender neutral pronoun. The only true singular gender neutral pronoun we have is "it" which may sound disrespectful. So people tend to use both "they" and "he" as alternatives. So you are most likely the only person to over complicate a pronoun by associating it heavily with a gender, to the point you use the opposite pronoun which is exclusively used for females.