your know how the hadith goes, mother mother mother before anyone, no questions asked but then I put children as also first, they are my blood and flesh and I should care for them before anyone, even a husband.children mother
husband
FactzAs a man, I am responsible for my family, in order of importance, my children until they become adults, wife, mother and father.
It's counterintuitive to not put your children first, but it's actually healthier to put your spouse over your kids, since this improves the children's lives, growing up in an emotionally stable household, everything requires a balance.
Did you marry your hoyo though? Will you bring children, the most precious thing you are responsible for in this life with your hoyo? Will you live with her everyday for the rest of your life???? (ideally, or not )1. Hooyo
2. Kids
3. Wife
As we all know, gateway to Jannah lies beneath our mothers. I expect the same order of importance for my wife.
Prioritising my moms wellbeing will work in my favour. Knowing my mum, she will prioritise the grandkids over her children. I already know I will sadly lose importance once I get a kid. Little me better appreciate this kkkkk.
Its also not out of question my mom will be prioritising my wifes wellbeing over mine. Nothing bad with this, being a good mother in law will help the marriage tremendously.
My mom will have my back ultimately, but as a good person she is, I trust her to do the right always.
First my mother, second my wife and third my kids.Very interested to hear from everyone..and the reasoning behind the hierarchy of answers