Damn... I could feel this, my mom does this too me, and treats my sister like trash. 
Why do Somali mothers baby their sons
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Somali parenting is gendered, its the father job to raise the son and the mother primarily raises the daughter. Yes, they both will be present on all their children lives but have different roles.
My dad pays all the bills in the house and the expenses of his daughters ( phone, travel, etc). Me and my brothers pay for ourselves and pay off atleast 50% of all expenses nowadays we pay more than our father. Soon we will takeover.
My dad expects us to work and take all the responsibilities of our lives and especially livelihoods.
Our parents operate based on gender roles. Like women cook and clean and men work.
Problem is a lot of fathers let their sons just be in the house rent free. Not contributing anything. My dad hates to see the boys idle kkk.
Aint gone lie, I clean and cook somewhat. Not perfect but I fill myself. Us boys clean our room and the toilet we use and the kitchen.
I find it weird some moms clean their sons room or bring food to them, my mom would rather eat the carpet kkk.
My dad pays all the bills in the house and the expenses of his daughters ( phone, travel, etc). Me and my brothers pay for ourselves and pay off atleast 50% of all expenses nowadays we pay more than our father. Soon we will takeover.
My dad expects us to work and take all the responsibilities of our lives and especially livelihoods.
Our parents operate based on gender roles. Like women cook and clean and men work.
Problem is a lot of fathers let their sons just be in the house rent free. Not contributing anything. My dad hates to see the boys idle kkk.
Aint gone lie, I clean and cook somewhat. Not perfect but I fill myself. Us boys clean our room and the toilet we use and the kitchen.
I find it weird some moms clean their sons room or bring food to them, my mom would rather eat the carpet kkk.
Baarisiyomoos
buuq iyo balaayo 🫧
Stand up for your sister man, take charge and do more tasks around the houseDamn... I could feel this, my mom does this too me, and treats my sister like trash.
Baarisiyomoos
buuq iyo balaayo 🫧
Honestly I see no issue with this if it works. But my dad doesn’t make my brother do anything either lol
They should be the main duty is upon the girls unless you want to end up alone and depressed well into your 30s.
I don't make the rules i just follow them
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Let’s be HONEST. Xalimos are just as lazy as faraxs. It’s just that when their hooyo asks them to wash one dish they start complaining that they’re being treated like a housemaid and their hooyo is forcing them to do everything around the house. Faraxs usually do outside chores like shopping and mowing the lawn
They should be the main duty is upon the girls unless you want to end up alone and depressed well into your 30s.
I don't make the rules i just follow them
Considering how many Somali guys are alone in their 30s,40s and 50s I do not understand how y’all survive.
I hear some Somali men (grown in their 40s) ask their married sisters to come and wash clothes and make them food. Honestly I’m disgusted…
Don't know them but you should tell your relatives to fix up
Have you ever watched the show, I love a Mama's boy. If you get treated like a mama boy, you always turn up as a mama boy. Which then interferes with the marriage * which then causes another issue for another day*. The point is, if the guy gets married, mother is usually active within the marriage. Never will it be the case that the mother gets dropped. Heck, (from own perspective and seeing's over the years), the wife gets divorced due to pressure from the higher ups if they clash. And, the son, would 90% chance would act.
You see, after the mehr issue, the father is usually non-interfering in the marriage. Assumes the role of Father in Law and Grandfather. Lives the high good life. The mother, well, (of course not all), are more hands on deck.
Alright now you’re just exaggerating it, no one is that much of a bum to be asking their grown sisters how to wash their clothes, come on at least make it believable.
Your brother is most likely going to grow up as a major nuisance lol I’ve had friends that had roommates that were exactly the same as him. Do you have any other siblings or is it just you two?This is so common. My mom cleans my brothers room for him and brings his food to the table for him and it’s all caadi. Meanwhile i clean the whole house, scrub the toilets and plate my own food lol. I don’t mind doing chores obviously since I live in this house rent free I need to contribute too. But why do the boys usually don’t do much? My brother doesn’t know how to use a broom or even clean a window(we are twins)
I’ve noticed this is common amongst my other somali friends too. We need to break this cycle. Every Somali guy and girl should learn how to cook, clean and maintain a house. It’s for your own benefit too. We need to stop babying somali guys.
Just because you wanna get freaky with your mum, don't mean the rest of us do.
Baarisiyomoos
buuq iyo balaayo 🫧
Yes we have an older sister and a younger brother. But I’ve been teaching him and my brother the basics, how to sweep, cook simple things , laundry etc etc.
Baarisiyomoos
buuq iyo balaayo 🫧
Sorry you have to go through that sis
it’s one of my least favourite parts of our culture.Alright now you’re just exaggerating it, no one is that much of a bum to be asking their grown sisters how to wash their clothes, come on at least make it believable.
Wallahi bro. This has happened. Not with diaspora boys but freshies. They really feel proud of not having basic hygiene skills.
My mum was and still is equally strict. My dad is worse, I can spend the whole day doing chores but my man will come back from work and tell me to take out the bins before he has sat down. That man loves giving me chores.
I am grateful tho. I learnt how to cook, clean and do other basic chores. I have seen some ajnabi people that are unable to make 2 minute noodles.
I am grateful tho. I learnt how to cook, clean and do other basic chores. I have seen some ajnabi people that are unable to make 2 minute noodles.
Babying your son is gonna make him weak irresponsible,lazy and cripple him from being a functioning adult to relying on others to do basic needs for him
It's embarrasing to see grown guys waiting on their wife to cook them a meal or wash their dirty clothes
It's embarrasing to see grown guys waiting on their wife to cook them a meal or wash their dirty clothes
Hybrid()
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I don't know about diaspora somalis but back home, it's a taboo for men to cook or do laundry. Single men live in their parents home or with 1 of their married brothers/cousins. My 65+ year old childless uncle lives with his brother's family. I have another middle aged cousin who also lives with my other uncles family. Basically, whether Somali men have a wife or not, they are taken care of by their female in-laws or related women.Alright now you’re just exaggerating it, no one is that much of a bum to be asking their grown sisters how to wash their clothes, come on at least make it believable.
