KobeBryant
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LOL you guys are figuring it out. We gotta get more sophisticated with our excuses now.
Women; don't get played. Have you heard of 'Strategic or Weaponised Incompetence'?
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weaponised incompetence can be a good tool to have especially in the real world e.g work. However using it as psrt of the wife and husband dynamic is a big no no.
This is self-explanatory, if you're getting played like this then you have bigger things to worry about
Depends if you want to be stay at home. If so and you refuse to cook, clean and do laundry then the use of you is likely redundant.I urge all women to read up on this disgusting 'strategic incompetence'/ 'weaponised incompetence' trick men try to pull on women.
It basically means that men pretend to be incompetent when it comes to tasks they don't want to do- it's strategy they use to pretend not to know how to clean, how to cook or even how to do simple parenting tasks. It's a trick to get more time to lounge around.
They are just pretending to be useless at simple household tasks, but when it comes to setting up complicated electronic devices or mechanical devices, suddenly they have a very high IQ and resolve.
Don't get played, read up on it here:
This Husband Admits to 'Strategic Incompetence' to Avoid Housework, and It's Infuriatingly Familiar
It's time to stop giving men a free pass when it comes to household dutiesβeven if they swear they wouldn't do a good job.www.workingmother.com
https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/...DMIT-messing-housework-never-asked-again.html
Men Claiming To Be Useless At Chores Is An Act of Misogyny β We Need To Stop Enabling It
There is no question that women do more unpaid domestic labour than men. In...graziadaily.co.uk
If not and you want to work then doing my own laundry, cooking and cleaning is fine but you probably still remain redundant unless for some reason i will need your salary.
LOL
It's clear you have some need to compete with women. Talking about women being 'redundant', is that what you call a woman risking her life to bear your babies, feeding your children from her own body and so forth? If you are a Muslim, you should read up on the rights of women, how the prophet SAW behaved and get a grip. If you are a non-Muslim, good luck with your issues.
A lot of marriages are destroyed because of this. Eventually the woman gets tired of being overburdened and babying her husband. She loses respect and attraction for him and eventually the marriage fails.
A lot of men think they are getting away with being lazy, but they are actually slowly destroying their marriage with each chore they avoid. They are also shooting themselves in the foot because instead of saving time by sharing chores, they are making sure their wife has no time or energy to pay attention to them.
So even if you are a selfish male, at least don't be short-sighted and either get your wife a maid, or act like a real man and do chores/raise your babies.
If the husband work and the wife is home stay wife then she should do cooking chores and cleaning so on and on not expect help from the husband since she wont help him with financial money rent buying foods and others
If she want help she should helo her husband eoth rent money and others if not it is double stander hypacrit
If she want help she should helo her husband eoth rent money and others if not it is double stander hypacrit
It is not fair to help the wife around the house if she doeqnt help her hisbamd with financial money rent buying foods and others this is the men doing 150% work and the wife doing only 50%
How are you using religion but complaining about its commands. "A woman is required by her religion (and not by law) to run the affairs of her house in matters related to cooking, cleaning, organizing, washing⦠etc "
Fatawa - What are a wifeβs responsibilities in the family?
Dar al-Ifta al Misriyyah is considered among the pioneering foundations for fatwa in the Islamic world.It has been the premier institute to represent Islam and the international flagship for Islamic legal research. It fulfills its historic and civil role by keeping contemporary Muslim in touch...
If you willfuly wont do the above to please god are you not indeed redundant?
To your point about babies all life belongs to god. You are not having them for me but your own purpose that you may please god by doing so and that your deeds towards them and their dua may save you from a wicked day. They have rights over me (for their provision, upbringing ect) they do not belong to me.
How are you using religion but complaining about its commands. "A woman is required by her religion (and not by law) to run the affairs of her house in matters related to cooking, cleaning, organizing, washing⦠etc "
Fatawa - What are a wifeβs responsibilities in the family?
Dar al-Ifta al Misriyyah is considered among the pioneering foundations for fatwa in the Islamic world.It has been the premier institute to represent Islam and the international flagship for Islamic legal research. It fulfills its historic and civil role by keeping contemporary Muslim in touch...www.dar-alifta.org
If you willfuly wont do the above to please god are you not indeed redundant?
To your point about babies all life belongs to god. You are not having them for me but your own purpose that you may please god by doing so and that your deeds towards them and their dua may save you from a wicked day. They have rights over me (for their provision, upbringing ect) they do not belong to me.
False.
A woman is not obligated to cook or clean. In fact, a woman has the right to ask for a salary to breastfeed her own children.
What she does have to do, is safeguard her husband's property and not allow anyone in his house that he doesn't want to visit (mentioned in Bukhari, Muslim, and Tirmidhi)
Instead of quoting sexist diatribe, come up with Sahih hadith or Quranic verses.
Nothing is by force or as you call it 'command', but a woman can choose (which is mostly done), to support her husband. If he provides, then it makes sense that she cooks mostly or manages the household staff.
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NordicSomali
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Between sigblings it should be divided, but if the husband is working then the housewife should do housework
codewebsduh
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I don't clean nor cook, the only time i clean up my place is when i bring a girl over.
Naturally, the person who does not work or works less, will do more of the housework.
However, there is a difference between housework and having to pick up or clean up after another adult. If the partner who works, cleans their own plate, washes their own clothes and cleans up after themselves, then there wouldn't be any resentment.
When it comes to parenting, again, the person who is at home would do most of the work, but the father should be a parent when he returns from work and has had a chance to eat/shower etc, and not sit around all day long and expect to be catered to.
Most issues arise from people who don't clean up after themselves and are also demanding of the person who has to do everything.
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NordicSomali
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I absolutely think the father should parent more, most kids rarely see their father.
Even Breadwinning Wives Donβt Get Equality at Home
When Americans think about fixing gender equality, they tend to focus on the workplace. But gender equality for women still lags in another realm: their own houses.
No problem. There you go:
Men are in charge of women by [right of] what Allah has given one over the other and what they spend [for maintenance] from their wealth (Surah An-Nisa [4:34])
Uhuh, and what part of this says that women are commanded to cook and clean?
Surah Nisa is about the rights women have.
Baayo, stop the qarxis.
A good counter is to do the chores at a very slow pace to the point she says itβs faster if I do it myself.
Hes lying women are NOT required or waajib to cook or clean but if she does she has the right to compensation for her husband even in BREASTFEEDING. Yes I was shocked to read that from Imaam Shaafici books. All this stuff is just culture added.
If Somali men understood this fact and helped out just a bit in the household it would do wonders for our divorce rates.
If you know what your wife is doing is a gift or extra instead of something expected you will appreciate her more.
Unfortunately majority of Somali men are ignorant of these facts, why we need mandatory marriage courses for the ahttps://youtu.be/fLwJ05weJ8Yverage couple before getting married so everyone know what is there RIGHT vs PRIVILAGE.
