Would you ask your future spouse for an std test before marrying?

[empressjamila]

Ngl I would. So many people out here (even Muslims) got a past and who knows what they may be carrying. I don’t wanna play with my health like that. If he wanted me to take one too I would be willing ofc, I know I’m clean lol.

How about you?

 

[Rationale]

100% also ask for proper health diagnosis. Bank balance, muscle mass, monthly income, monthly expenditure also most important criminal record extract.

Us good and productive Faarax's gotta be put on pedestal. I'm so fucking tired of attending ex-convict aroos.

 

[Basra]

 

[hinters]

Why would I marry a ho?

 

[Yankee]

No sometimes I’m a hopeless romantic, I shall fall in love and nut in peace. No tests will be run, I don’t have high expectations for women here especially women coming from my background. Can’t avoid what’s meant to be, fingers crossed she’s healthy and STD free. A lot of you guys will end up single, in arranged marriages or eventually when you give up you’ll marry the neighborhood slug

 

[SPMLegend]

If she marries you with an STD she is criminalizing herself. It’s common degeneracy if it’s a 1 night stand where the person with the STD escapes from justice, but if you legally marry her while she carries the Disease than I advice that you take her to court and empty out her pockets. If you do not trust me enough to tell me you have an STD than I will make sure to shame you in front of the entire community. You shouldn’t say yes to a halal marriage if you are trying to destroy a persons life with a sexually transmitted disease. Simple!

 

[Odious Delirium]

If I know she's been around as a Muslim I wouldn't even ask for her hand in marriage. I wouldn't marry someone with a past unless there a convert, victim of rape or something like that. In that case I guess I would ask for a test but I don't see myself marrying someone like that in the first place.

 

[XawoTako]

Ngl I would. So many people out here (even Muslims) got a past and who knows what they may be carrying. I don’t wanna play with my health like that. If he wanted me to take one too I would be willing ofc, I know I’m clean lol.

How about you?

I would ask for std test and also check if he has a criminal record before marrying him

 

[Geedi Ladane]

I wouldn’t. Just do a good background check and find a spouse through family and InshaAllah all be good.

Do you know ceeb it would be to ask your potential wife who’s a virgin to do a STD test? That’s enough to burn bridges and as for you to be safe then, you yourself stay away from Haram and make dua to Allah and you all should be fine.

 

[aduunka220]

nah i know my future wives finna be clean caus im clean

 

[Periplus]

That’s a really good question….

Tbh if you think your potential partner has an STD, then you may as well assume they have one as that’s where your head is at.

How would that change your opinion of said partner?

On the other hand, you could marry someone that seems extremely miskeen but in actual fact is a modern day carrier for 69 different STDs….

And you would have no idea unless you tested them…

 

[Kane]

In this day and age It should be mandatory, and if the person takes offense, count your blessing for dodging a bullet and keep it moving.

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

Everyone should ask for a check. Why put your health and the health of your future offspring at risk? Even people that are virgins can contract a fatal illness due to medical malpractice.

If someone gets offended and leaves you, say Alhamdulilah.

I really hope Somalis wake up and stop playing russian roulette with their health. Somalis are not immune to STDs or medical mishaps.

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

Even married women should get tested if their husband gets a new wife or takes a "business trip".

Some of these diaspora dudes go to Kenya and exploit vulnerable women. You cannot afford to be naive in this world. It is better to be single and healthy than married and contract diseases because of a reckless and unscrupulous loser.

 

[Geedi Ladane]

Even married women should get tested if their husband gets a new wife or takes a "business trip".

Some of these diaspora dudes go to Kenya and exploit vulnerable women. You cannot afford to be naive in this world. It is better to be single and healthy than married and contract diseases because of a reckless and unscrupulous loser.

No problem if a first wife asks her husband to ask a potential second wife to do an std test but asking your first potential spouse to do an std test is ceeb.

Most Muslims aren’t engaging in zina and Std rates in western countries are generally quite low. I think it’s somewhat excessive, and from evil thoughts to be asking a wife to do an std test that’s only honestly quite mad, might as well think she’s not a virgin.

On of the most important things in a relationship is trust, constantly doubting your spouse isn’t healthy and will lead to resentment over time.

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

No problem if a first wife asks her husband to ask a potential second wife to do an std test but asking your first potential spouse to do an std test is ceeb.

Most Muslims aren’t engaging in zina and Std rates in western countries are generally quite low. I think it’s somewhat excessive, and from evil thoughts to be asking a wife to do an std test that’s only honestly quite mad, might as well think she’s not a virgin.

On of the most important things in a relationship is trust, constantly doubting your spouse isn’t healthy and will lead to resentment over time.

It is not ceeb to ask for an STD test. My own father told me to ask for an STD test! I am glad he did and did not teach me to "trust" people.

Parents need to teach their children about health including sexual health and the dangers of this world. Trust? That needs to be earned.

Muslim countries not only have HIV and STDs but they also pass it on unknowingly to others and to BABIES, because people just "trust" and act like they are immune to diseases.

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

I suggest some of you watch "HIV in Somalia" and see where all this "trust" gets people.

 

[Geedi Ladane]

It is not ceeb to ask for an STD test. My own father told me to ask for an STD test! I am glad he did and did not teach me to "trust" people.

Parents need to teach their children about health including sexual health and the dangers of this world. Trust? That needs to be earned.

Muslim countries not only have HIV and STDs but they also pass it on unknowingly to others and to BABIES, because people just "trust" and act like they are immune to diseases.

I’m talking about Muslims specifically Somalis in the west. Malpractice hardly takes place. Good on you to take your dads advice. Let me make myself clear I don’t have an issue if a sister asks a brother to take and std test, I have an issue with a brother asking a sister taking a std test.

I do still consider it to be ceeb to ask a virgin sister to take a std test.

 

[iphone1]

everyone should get tested

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

I’m talking about Muslims specifically Somalis in the west. Malpractice hardly takes place. Good on you to take your dads advice. Let me make myself clear I don’t have an issue if a sister asks a brother to take and std test, I have an issue with a brother asking a sister taking a std test.

I do still consider it to be ceeb to ask a virgin sister to take a std test.

Girls/Women should also be asked to get tested, it's not offensive to look after your own health. In fact, any girl/woman should see that as a sign of someone being responsible. It does not mean someone is being accused of promiscuity, as STDs are not only passed on through intercourse.