I mean its possible to marry someone without harbouring any sort of chip on the shoulder toward your in-group. You don't owe anyone anything. Though I'm the kind of person that feels like marrying someone that matches me in ethnic heritage, religion, values, status, education, life goals/ambition. I like consistency and want them to be aligned. It's a value of mine and not everyone has to agree on. I never impose.
Also, as we're Somali, we often choose people within our ethnicity. I suppose that's the case for most groups though. For us going outside that is essentially marrying out. As the stigma is just as great if not greater if marrying a Non-Horn of African Black person. Even then Somali is emphasized heavily.
I think it's different for African Americans whereby in-group status for them is very broad and colour-based. I say they should go for whatever they like. Most of them are Judaeo-Christian and unless they are orthodox in their faith are generally more liberal leaning so I presume they probably marry out more than us and it's not like they have constraints in that sense.
African Americans might want their child to have some colour in them and look identifiable as SSA in some way. They maybe endeared to the notion of 'Black Love' and wishing to preserve that ideal. Whereas, Somalis don't harbour such sentiments most of the time. For them preservation of their ethnic roots is more valuable to them and they may have the desire to have children that aesthetically look Northeast African more precisely Somali-like. It's like comparing apples to origins really. And I'm only speaking for those with the desire to marry within. Such a preoccupation wouldn't be the case for those who are open to out-marriage (inter-ethnically or inter-racially).
Also, as we're Somali, we often choose people within our ethnicity. I suppose that's the case for most groups though. For us going outside that is essentially marrying out. As the stigma is just as great if not greater if marrying a Non-Horn of African Black person. Even then Somali is emphasized heavily.
I think it's different for African Americans whereby in-group status for them is very broad and colour-based. I say they should go for whatever they like. Most of them are Judaeo-Christian and unless they are orthodox in their faith are generally more liberal leaning so I presume they probably marry out more than us and it's not like they have constraints in that sense.
African Americans might want their child to have some colour in them and look identifiable as SSA in some way. They maybe endeared to the notion of 'Black Love' and wishing to preserve that ideal. Whereas, Somalis don't harbour such sentiments most of the time. For them preservation of their ethnic roots is more valuable to them and they may have the desire to have children that aesthetically look Northeast African more precisely Somali-like. It's like comparing apples to origins really. And I'm only speaking for those with the desire to marry within. Such a preoccupation wouldn't be the case for those who are open to out-marriage (inter-ethnically or inter-racially).
