An Open Letter To My Somali Diaspora Sister

[Veteran]

men have been with many women

If you consider that being a man-, then I can't take you serious.
Somalis are not 68 IQ but you for sure are.
kkkkkkk

 

[Daacad90]

The problem with Somali guys on the whole is, they have no respect or appreciation, sometimes I don’t think even for themselves, bc they’re not ambitious in what they themselves deserve either. Maybe your observation on it being a mere toleration is right.

I need the ground I walk on to be worshipped, not to be tolerated or reduced to a broodmare, or a trial they give up at the drop of a hat along with any child unfortunate enough to be born as a dropped experiment.

How can you waste your youth, beauty and mind on someone who doesn’t value it when you see how others do. Another thing I noticed is the attempt to change you, despite being attracted to how they found you in an effort to please others. I realized many of them even plan to fail in their marriages.

Just be very careful and astute in your choice of one. There are good ones out there, they’re just not plenty. If they aren’t a victim to the streets, or aren’t control-freak religious zealot types, you have too few to choose from that choose a path beyond that and had the benefit of two parents who nurtured him, and a mind of his own that isn’t weakened by the whisperings of the other two groups, or a community waiting for his downfall. If you find that, you’ve found something. If you don’t, consider looking outside the community, but do not lower your standards for others.

Naaya ya ku guursanaya waxa tahay shimbir kafirad murtad ba tahay ninmankeena no dhaaf qumayo

 

[Hodan from HR]

So you copied the book and edited it with Somali?

What's so misogynistic about traditional marriages? If anything it benefits women more. In non-traditional marriages, you have to work and contribute to paying the rent and bills. You get 0 mehr and you have to pay half of the wedding and honeymoon cost. It's basically 50/50 for everything.

That's why women don't mind being housewives.

I also disagree with most Somali fathers being away. They are actually there but some are useless. Every community has good and bad apples and same applies to Somali men and Somali women. This gender bickering is getting very repetitive and childish.

The book only made me reflect on our somali diaspora community.

As for the traditional marriage, most women don't mind staying at home once they have children. It is the fact that men like you impose it on us.
Marriage is suppose to be a union of love and compassion. The men here have turned it into a power play.

"Don't let her work or be independent, she'll become rebellious blah blah.. "

 

[Helios]

Oh this is going to be bigger than Macy's 4th of July. Thread is about to explode

 

[B-is-the-code]

Self-admitted demonic manwhore? Do you plan to marry a somali woman with that foul past? Woe to us Somali women!

Nayaa sharaaaaaab adiga, balaayo been badan.
Im not only planning to marry a somali women but planning to marry 4 somali women. You dont understand the dating market, there is MENS market now, more women are looking for men,(there is not enaught men for all these women out there)

 

[Hodan from HR]

It saddens me whenever I see what some of our beautiful and articulate sisters have to say about Somali men. We need an Avengerseque organization to fight stereotypes and win the hearts and minds of Xalimos about to give up on Faraxkind

Walal, I said most somali men. My intention is not to slander the 1% good somali men.
You know you are a G

 

[Factz]

The book only made me reflect on our somali diaspora community.

As for the traditional marriage, most women don't mind staying at home once they have children. It is the fact that men like you impose it on us.
Marriage is suppose to be a union of love and compassion. The men here have turned it into a power game.

"Don't let her work or be independent, she'll become rebellious blah blah.. "

Now you're being rude and lying about me.

Men like me? I don't impose it on anyone. I don't care what others do with their life's. The book demonized traditional marriages and I simply disagreed with it. I have my right to defend traditional marriages doesn't mean I am imposing it on anyone. You just sound like the majority of qashin Somali women that only knows how to slander people. Always victimizing and over-exaggerating themselves and demonizing their men when 90% of what is coming from their mouth is actually out of their ass. It's like you want to win the victim olympics and copy what foreign women do.

Men have their preferences and it's their right. Doesn't mean they're imposing anything.

 

[Wiilyam Ina Sheekh Zubeer]

Bruh... You just summoned the avengers

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[VixR]

Naaya ya ku guursanaya waxa tahay shimbir kafirad murtad ba tahay ninmankeena no dhaaf qumayo

I’m going to guess translate failed me. Best of luck.

 

[Faahiye]

Sharaaf gang soo gala

@P4$t0

@ZakWantsToPlay

@The Good

@Wiilyam Ina Sheekh Zubeer

@A man

@Faahiye

Someone prove our lovely sister here wrong

There is much baraka in weddings before Ramadan - act quickly

@astorecalledkmart,

I don't really pay attention to gender bashing threads as it gets us no where


Best,

Faahiye

 

[HanadR6]

Dearest Sister,

You have heard it all; the constant misogynistic remarks from our men. You have been ridiculed for your desire for a legitimate monogamous marriage. You have been called materialistic for wanting a man who will not withhold his wealth from you.
The best amongst our men will offer you a "traditional" marriage where you will be cut off from your social life and your existence be diminished into serving his needs.

My sister, you are not asking for too much. Look around. Married women of other ethnicities generally enjoy these rights that our men haggle us with. The truth is, while other men celebrate their women, most somali men tolerate us.

My sister, you have also heard of our other sisters who sufferred in the hands of ajinabi men. As much as I want to blame somali men for all our plights, it's time for us to reflect deeper.
No other group of diaspora muslim community has the highest number of single mothers. You know that the overwhelming majority of our children are raised without a father.

My sister, be like a steel magnolia. Flowery and feminine on the outside and strong on the inside. You cannot blind yourself to the reality that surrounds us anymore. No man is doing you a favor by marrying you.
However, you also don't have to pretend you can raise a family all by yourself. You need a good man by your side. Your children deserve a good father just like other women's children have.

My sister, choose wisely. You owe your loyalty only to yourself and the children you bring into this world.



From the depths of my heart,
T.Q

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This is only fobs sxb

 

[Veteran]

I’m going to guess translate failed me. Best of luck.

What do you mean translate failed you?

 

[Tukraq]

i can see you’ve been affected by your misandrist readings @beenleey ive been doing some reading of my own also

And seeing things in perspective

 

[Wiilyam Ina Sheekh Zubeer]

@Tameable Qumayo

Is that what's going on in the streets?
Writing incendiary pamphlets?

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[beenleey]

Nayaa sharaaaaaab adiga, balaayo been badan.
Im not only planning to marry a somali women but planning to marry 4 somali women. You dont understand the dating market, there is MENS market now, more women are looking for men,(there is not enaught men for all these women out there)

Woe to us Somali women!

 

[Daacad90]

i can see you’ve been affected by your misandrist readings @beenleey ive been doing some reading of my own also View attachment 88342
And seeing things in perspective

Follow the quran walaal, No good religion will tell you to call a woman 'of the streets'

 

[B-is-the-code]

I’m going to guess translate failed me. Best of luck.

You cant even read and write somali language, and you expecting a good somali man?
The good somali man wants a good somali women not some one like you.
#YouGetWhatYouAre

 

[Hodan from HR]

Men like me? I don't impose it on anyone. I don't care what others do with their life's. The book demonized traditional marriages and I simply disagreed with it. I have my right to defend traditional marriages doesn't mean I am imposing it on anyone. You just sound like the majority of qashin Somali women that only knows how to slander people.

Men have their preferences and it's their right. Doesn't mean they're imposing anything.

Your preference is not in somali women's best interest.
We even have to worry y'all will wake up one day and decide to marry another woman because it is your preference.

What about our preference??
If showing you and other somali men what is wrong with our community, makes me a qashin so be it.
My criticism is out of concern walal

 

[Waarka_police]

Dearest Sister,

You have heard it all; the constant misogynistic remarks from our men. You have been ridiculed for your desire for a legitimate monogamous marriage. You have been called materialistic for wanting a man who will not withhold his wealth from you.
The best amongst our men will offer you a "traditional" marriage where you will be cut off from your social life and your existence be diminished into serving his needs.

My sister, you are not asking for too much. Look around. Married women of other ethnicities generally enjoy these rights that our men haggle us with. The truth is, while other men celebrate their women, most somali men tolerate us.

My sister, you have also heard of our other sisters who sufferred in the hands of ajinabi men. As much as I want to blame somali men for all our plights, it's time for us to reflect deeper.
No other group of diaspora muslim community has the highest number of single mothers. You know that the overwhelming majority of our children are raised without a father.

My sister, be like a steel magnolia. Flowery and feminine on the outside and strong on the inside. You cannot blind yourself to the reality that surrounds us anymore. No man is doing you a favor by marrying you.
However, you also don't have to pretend you can raise a family all by yourself. You need a good man by your side. Your children deserve a good father just like other women's children have.

My sister, choose wisely. You owe your loyalty only to yourself and the children you bring into this world.



From the depths of my heart,
T.Q

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Liberate Somalia for us den? Prove urself naag nool

 

[B-is-the-code]

Your preference is not in somali women's best interest.
We even have to worry y'all will wake up one day and decide to marry another woman because it is your preference.

What about our preference??
If showing you and other somali men what is wrong with our community, makes me a qashin so be it.
My criticism is out of concern walal

Sorry, i had to qashin this post. Im not against you but this post is soooooo qashin i need