Whats more shameful a man to find out his wife his cheating or vice versa? For men it is much much worst as it is an affront to their manhood, peegnancy possibilities etc. Hes the one providing etc. We have alot more to loseYh, but men have more of an urge to cheat and cheat more than women. Statistics even backs this up and society is more accepting of men cheating to the extent that it is normalised. Still, you don't see us walking around thinking that all men are hoe-bags. Life is too short to be worried about the actions of others.