I Want To Get "Married", But IDK If I Will

[JudgeJoeGorilla]

I'm career oriented, 28, and focusing on going back to community college next year. If I get married; I'd want my wife to either be Jewish, Ethiopian, Latina or Filipina/Asian. I look at my life and I'm getting older. Though I have the job, car, and some money in my pocket I just feel like something is missing. I want a life partner, but I don't if I would make a good husband to my wife or even a good father. Yes, I know that I could provide financially, but could I be emotionally there for my wife and children.

Need some advice, thanks.

I would love to meet my future wife in Israel on a pilgrimage trip.

 

[Keep it a boqol]

Building a family and getting married is a big step towards building wealth bro

 

[Waa dhamatay]

No point in worrying about being a good husband or father, as long as you try that’s enough.

 

[JudgeJoeGorilla]

Building a family and getting married is a big step towards building wealth bro

I have so many how's. Like how about if she leaves, becomes lazy, or etc?

 

[Keep it a boqol]

I have so many how's. Like how about if she leaves, becomes lazy, or etc?

Marry a women who you are attracted to but also a women who would be the best mother of your kids. Someone emotionally intelligent and healthy but is also disaplined enough and has self control.

Islamically the priority for a spouse is their religiousness as these characteristics spill into the traits I wrote about above. Someone who shares the same religious and ethical beliefs for you should be priority.

 

[Internet Nomad]

Before you get married you need to put these things in order

1. You charather
2. Your wealth
3. Your career

A child or a selfish/easy to anger man shouldn't be getting married.

You need money if your planning to be the bread maker in the home

You are going to need a career which would level you up as your family expands. however you cannot be at work all the time as you are still needed as a managerial role in the home.

 

[Jirjiroole]

I'm career oriented, 28, and focusing on going back to community college next year. If I get married; I'd want my wife to either be Jewish, Ethiopian, Latina or Filipina/Asian. I look at my life and I'm getting older. Though I have the job, car, and some money in my pocket I just feel like something is missing. I want a life partner, but I don't if I would make a good husband to my wife or even a good father. Yes, I know that I could provide financially, but could I be emotionally there for my wife and children.

Need some advice, thanks.

I would love to meet my future wife in Israel on a pilgrimage trip.

Are you somali?

 

[Bundasliga]

@JudgeJoeGorilla why not a beautiful black American woman

 

[Waa dhamatay]

Before you get married you need to put these things in order

1. You charather
2. Your wealth
3. Your career

A child or a selfish/easy to anger man shouldn't be getting married.

You need money if your planning to be the bread maker in the home

You are going to need a career which would level you up as your family expands. however you cannot be at work all the time as you are still needed as a managerial role in the home.

Not good to add too many barriers, just makes zina and haram relationships more enticing. Having a wife might help/encourage you to level up.

 

[Sophisticate]

@JudgeJoeGorilla why not a beautiful black American woman

Exactly. Generally speaking there are enough African American women who are successful, child-free and God fearing enough to choose from.

Also, I highly doubt OP is AA probably a Somali in disguise. I mean who calls themselves Judge Joe Gorilla.

 

[__08]

I'm career oriented, 28, and focusing on going back to community college next year. If I get married; I'd want my wife to either be Jewish, Ethiopian, Latina or Filipina/Asian. I look at my life and I'm getting older. Though I have the job, car, and some money in my pocket I just feel like something is missing. I want a life partner, but I don't if I would make a good husband to my wife or even a good father. Yes, I know that I could provide financially, but could I be emotionally there for my wife and children.

Need some advice, thanks.

I would love to meet my future wife in Israel on a pilgrimage trip.

Try therapy sounds like some self doubt issues.

 

[JudgeJoeGorilla]

Exactly. Generally speaking there are enough African American women who are successful, child-free and God fearing enough to choose from.
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Also, I highly doubt OP is AA probably a Somali in disguise. I mean who calls themselves Judge Joe Gorilla.

Once again, I used to post on thecoli. I am not Somali.

 

[JudgeJoeGorilla]

Are you somali?

No. AA

 

[Keep it a boqol]

Once again, I used to post on thecoli. I am not Somali.

Do you know any in real life? Whats your interactions with us?

 

[JudgeJoeGorilla]

Do you know any in real life? Whats your interactions with us?

I don't know any in real life since I don't live in a Somali area. Only know about you all from the Internet.

 

[Internet Nomad]

I don't know any in real life since I don't live in a Somali area. Only know about you all from the Internet.

What are your opinions on somalis now that you have gotten to know us without filters.

 

[Keep it a boqol]

What are your opinions on somalis now that you have gotten to know us without filters.

Lmao this is an anonymous forum there’s a lot of lunatics. We don’t represent the majority who are humble hardworking ppl

 

[JudgeJoeGorilla]

What are your opinions on somalis now that you have gotten to know us without filters.

I have respect for you all. Even though we may differ on some issues we still have a common goal

 

[Jirjiroole]

No. AA

What do you think about Somalis? And don't hold back I want to hear your real opinions.

 

[JudgeJoeGorilla]

What do you think about Somalis? And don't hold back I want to hear your real opinions.

I have no issues with them. My real opinion. Like I said, I'm not the type that gets involved in culture wars.