Is The Idea Of Marriage Terrifying To You?

[iskufilann]

Do y’all feel the same way?

Yeah I actually do. Men are just terrifying ig

 

[Internet Nomad]

The only it terrifies me is if we do not have compatible personalities. I like to monologue so if she cant listen or even hold a conversation then i would feel trapped in a box.

 

[JohnCena]

Yes absolutely. It's not really marriage itself, it's more the contract itself.

I'm a strong supporter of prenups

Also most people I talked to in marriages have told me they regretted it and their life is meh

 

[Barni]

Yeah, the idea of being with someone for the rest of your life sounds like hell. I love being on alone & having space.

 

[CALMONE20###]

Yep what I end up with an abusive husband? I already come from an abusive family so that would be scary

 

[Waa dhamatay]

Having a one-foot-in-one-foot-out perspective on marriage means you will forever be fearful, half-hearted and self-protective. Once you are in one why not give it your best and resign the rest to God. At least, you knew you had capacity to love, were brave enough to and diligent enough to work systematically on your marriage. Despite what happens. There is nothing wrong with preparation. What is sort of sad is the perspective that it is doomed to failure. So don't put in too much effort.

The only thing I would advise is doing your due diligence prior to marriage. Some rush into the unknown without asking critical questions. I have seen people delude themselves into thinking someone would change and they never did. Or had major incompatibility. On things such as geography (with zero desire to relocate), whether to have children, child rearing or divergent future goals/plans.

I would rather stay incel tbh. Your idea of a good marriage sounds like hell

 

[Sophisticate]

I would rather stay incel tbh

At least you keep it . Though I seriously think you are trolling.

 

[Sophisticate]

I would rather stay incel tbh. Your idea of a good marriage sounds like hell

How is it hellish?

 

[Waa dhamatay]

How is it hellish?

Too much effort