Is Your Wife Texting and FaceTiming Men Valid Grounds for Divorce?

[Shimbiris]

That was just the straw that broke the camel's back. Her first strike was making slick comments just because I bought her and my mother the exact same gift.

I saw a way out and I ran with it.

How did she react to this? Just curious.

 

[Revolutionary]

Do you even love her? Like truly love her? I know her talking 2 guys is heartbreaking but is it so severe you wanna throw everything away? Talking to someone is bad behavior but it’s not really cheating. Why not marriage counselor or just talking to her that this behavior can’t continue if you want our marriage to work. Why rush to divorce, it’s not the answer for everything. She’s not your GF or whatever she’s your wife now.

You're right, this is not dating this is marriage, its no playing around, and she should know better. If she had a problem the solution isnt to go and flirt with other men its for her to talk with her husband on her problems and if they need some sort of counseling then so be it. Of course no matter what to you people the women can never be at fault

 

[Juke]

Do you even love her? Like truly love her? I know her talking 2 guys is heartbreaking but is it so severe you wanna throw everything away? Talking to someone is bad behavior but it’s not really cheating. Why not marriage counselor or just talking to her that this behavior can’t continue if you want our marriage to work. Why rush to divorce, it’s not the answer for everything. She’s not your GF or whatever she’s your wife now.

He already took the L, it's not something he can forget unless he's a dayuus

 

[Caaro]

No, don’t divorce her. You’re being insecure. She’s probably just a friendly person that wants to make friends. Don’t misunderstand her. If it bothers you, ask her to slow down the amount of calls and FTs. Trust is necessary for a healthy relationship. Trust your partner.

huh, you're still around.

 

[Xaruun]

Do you even love her? Like truly love her? I know her talking 2 guys is heartbreaking but is it so severe you wanna throw everything away? Talking to someone is bad behavior but it’s not really cheating. Why not marriage counselor or just talking to her that this behavior can’t continue if you want our marriage to work. Why rush to divorce, it’s not the answer for everything. She’s not your GF or whatever she’s your wife now.

Does she love him? Really? She clearly doesn’t. Hence why she’s flirting with random men just 2 days after their honeymoon. She doesn’t love him neither does she respect him/the marriage. Counselling (in this situation) is for cadaans/dayuus, it won’t work. I’d understand counselling if it was something else, but infidelity can’t be tolerated and he should quickly divorce and start afresh.

 

[Amirah]

You're right, this is not dating this is marriage, its no playing around, and she should know better. If she had a problem the solution isnt to go and flirt with other men its for her to talk with her husband on her problems and if they need some sort of counseling then so be it. Of course no matter what to you people the women can never be at fault

You dunno the whole story, you weren’t there so who are you to advice someone to divorce their spouse based on so little info!? Do you really wanna be responsible for this in akhairo? Your duty is try to mend problems between Muslims not escalate them. Also btw when someone is in a “situation” themselves it’s so easy for them to get lost in the details and lose sight of the bigger picture; a simple reminder helps them put everything into perspective.

 

[Caaro]

This is also a month within our marriage, the lack of respect is painful, this happened two days after our honeymoon

put your foot down bruh. If she still doesn't stop after you made it clear that you're not ok with it then she doesn't care about the relationship.

 

[Basra]

Does she love him? Really? She clearly doesn’t. Hence why she’s flirting with random men just 2 days after their honeymoon. She doesn’t love him neither does she respect him/the marriage. Counselling (in this situation) is for cadaans/dayuus, it won’t work. I’d understand counselling if it was something else, but infidelity can’t be tolerated and he should quickly divorce and start afresh.

Maybe after the two days in honeymoon she was not impressed, therefore she hunger for he who impressed her?

 

[Xaruun]

You dunno the whole story, you weren’t there so who are you to advice someone to divorce their spouse based on so little info!? Do you really wanna be responsible for this in akhairo? Your duty is try to mend problems between Muslims not escalate them. Also btw when someone is in a “situation” themselves it’s so easy for them to get lost in the details and lose sight of the bigger picture; a simple reminder helps them put everything into perspective.

She’s a cheater, end of. This isn’t Cucktholicism, it’s fine to divorce in Islam in these kinds of situations. This whole idea of the cuckold forgiving his wife and ‘reconciling the marriage’ is a western Catholic cuck concept and haram.

 

[Xaruun]

Maybe after the two days in honeymoon she was not impressed, therefore she hunger for he who impressed her?

People who think like that shouldn’t be allowed to marry.

 

[Basra]

People who think like that shouldn’t be allowed to marry.

Not necessarily. U just have to be good in bed.

 

[Xaruun]

Not necessarily. U just have to be good in bed.

No because then they’ll try to go for someone who’s even better or someone who’s worse but more gentle. Loads of people try doing this to keep their woman but they still get cucked in the end

 

[Amirah]

Does she love him? Really? She clearly doesn’t. Hence why she’s flirting with random men just 2 days after their honeymoon. She doesn’t love him neither does she respect him/the marriage. Counselling (in this situation) is for cadaans/dayuus, it won’t work. I’d understand counselling if it was something else, but infidelity can’t be tolerated and he should quickly divorce and start afresh.

She’s a cheater, end of. This isn’t Cucktholicism, it’s fine to divorce in Islam in these kinds of situations. This whole idea of the cuckold forgiving his wh*re wife and ‘reconciling the marriage’ is a western Catholic cuck concept and haram.

Aren’t you like 15 or something? What do you know about marriage? Also to say she’s “cheating” so definitively is haram. Word of advise kiddo don’t take such hard stance on anyone’s affairs, just try to advise them what you’d wish someone else would advise you or your SO if you were in their shoes.

 

[gbrlax3]

bruh why not forgive and move on bruh.. if you gonna marry next girl she could do the same

 

[Revolutionary]

You dunno the whole story, you weren’t there so who are you to advice someone to divorce their spouse based on so little info!? Do you really wanna be responsible for this in akhairo? Your duty is try to mend problems between Muslims not escalate them. Also btw when someone is in a “situation” themselves it’s so easy for them to get lost in the details and lose sight of the bigger picture; a simple reminder helps them put everything into perspective.

He's given us enough info to understand the situation and we told him what we thought of it and most people here are of agreement, what you were doing was assuming things, if you truly wanted more info you wouldn't be insinuating things to fit a narratige that he's at fault but instead simply ask for more info

Aren’t you like 15 or something? What do you know about marriage? Also to say she’s “cheating” so definitively is haram. Word of advise kiddo don’t take such hard stance on anyone’s affairs, just try to advise them what you’d wish someone else would advise you or your SO if you were in their shoes.

Face timing and flirting with other men while having a husband, what do you wanna call it?

 

[Yoobudy]

Lol you don't have to remind a grown muslim woman not to FaceTime with non mahram men without a valid reason. She clearly doesn't respect you sxb.

 

[Xaruun]

Aren’t you like 15 or something? What do you know about marriage? Also to say she’s “cheating” so definitively is haram. Word of advise kiddo don’t take such hard stance on anyone’s affairs, just try to advise them what you’d wish someone else would advise you or your SO if you were in their shoes.

Are you married?

She’s straight up emotionally cheating. Did you even read the thread? See here:

she was flirting with 2 guys in one night, I’ve told her to stop being friendly and to protect my trust but she deceived me

She’s literally flirting with other men AKA commiting zina of the tongue. She didn’t just have a friendly conversation (which she isn’t halal). This is cheating and will lead to full on zina. If my SO did the same then I’d divorce her instantly.

 

[Mercury]

she was flirting with 2 guys in one night, I’ve told her to stop being friendly and to protect my trust but she deceived me


I really want to forgive her and reconcile but in the long term I know I can’t mend her she’s too loose. A Muslim doesn’t get bitten from the same snake hole twice

Is your wife an extrovert that finds it easy to talk with other people? Some girls are friendly and people confuse it with flirting

Or did you catch her saying lovey dovey stuff over the phone to guys context is key

 

[Amirah]

He's given us enough info to understand the situation and we told him what we thought of it and most people here are of agreement, what you were doing was assuming things, if you truly wanted more info you wouldn't be insinuating things to fit a narratige that he's at fault but instead simply ask for more info


Face timing and flirting with other men while having a husband, what do you wanna call it?

The definition of “flirting” in and of itself can change depending on who you’re talking to. For example, a guy that I use to talk to would get upset and accuse me of flirting if I was on the phone with him and another guy greeted me and I dare greet him back or if he ever heard me laughing with another guy present. None of it was flirting ofc, I was just friendly and knew a lot of people since we’re in a program together. So my point is people have different definitions based on their past experiences or trauma leading them to become way too guarded for their own good sometimes, you just never know is my point.

 

[NotMyL]

If this is not trolling, you have a huge trust and boundary issues in your marriage. The fact that you don’t know the men your wife is FaceTiming is a red flag, I personally know my husband’s friends and vice versa. I have no problem with people being friends with the opposite sex but they are boundaries and rules need to be set in place. You need to discuss these type of things before you get married because people’s views are different.