Marriage sucks

[Varriris]

I think alot of men and women who attack the institution of marriage do so because they’re incapable of finding a suitable partner. But is there anyone on here that don’t want to get married because you find marriage unappealing. like there’s the obvious perks: love, intimacy, money but the downsides are labour, childbirth/rearing etc. Having to dedicate so much of ur time and energy to others feels so

 

[Sophisticate]

Marriage is a significant life decision, but its success depends chiefly on who you marry and that is often tantamount to shooting in the dark. Even with due diligence, people can hide their true nature, making it difficult to know if someone is emotionally mature, free of addictions, a strong communicator, and emotionally healthy. When those qualities are lacking, the relationship is bound to suffer.

It’s also important to recognize that marriage doesn’t guarantee happiness or fulfillment. You can be married yet feel lonely. You can end up with someone who has narcissistic tendencies that don’t reveal themselves immediately. If you’ve experienced gaslighting, double standards, and double binds, you’ll understand how damaging that dynamic can be. Marriage to a partner with those traits is problematic, and it’s crucial to remember that you can’t change them; only yourself.

Coercive control, another hidden danger, can take many forms: financial, emotional, or psychological abuse. Not just physical. But it could become physical and in some instances deadly. These forms of manipulation are often subtle and can escalate over time. People who end up in such relationships are often blamed for being deceived, but I don’t buy that excuse. Deception can happen to anyone, especially when the perpetrator is skilled at masking their true intentions.

On another note, reproductive health often gets overlooked in conversations about marriage and parenthood. A man’s preconception health matters just as much as a woman’s. Low-quality sperm can lead to genetic disorders, complications such as preeclampsia, miscarriages, and other pregnancy-related issues. Yet, most men don’t take this seriously. They rarely monitor their health or lifestyle choices, even though their contribution is critical to a healthy pregnancy and offspring quality.

 

[Lahaine]

Having to dedicate so much of ur time and energy to others feels so

It depends on who your partner is. If he or she is a helpful and responsible person, then marriage will be bliss if not, you'll be a slave until either you divorce or drop dead.

 

[EyiPunter]

I think alot of men and women who attack the institution of marriage do so because they’re incapable of finding a suitable partner. But is there anyone on here that don’t want to get married because you find marriage unappealing. like there’s the obvious perks: love, intimacy, money but the downsides are labour, childbirth/rearing etc. Having to dedicate so much of ur time and energy to others feels so

I just got to find my abayo

 

[Varriris]

It depends on who your partner is. If he or she is a helpful and responsible person, then marriage will be bliss if not, you'll be a slave until either you divorce or drop dead.

sure, but even if you share everything equally there’s still alot of shaqo involved. Even for women who have great partners unless they outsource everything to maids/nannies, their entire life revolves around their marriage & kids. I think thats what puts me off marriage

loss of freedom (cant do whatever/whenever since u have obligations and duties), less time for oneself etc., genuinely feels like prison. maybe love makes it more bearable idk

 

[Kisame]

I just want a lifelong partner tbh. If the chick I fall I love with doesn't care about marriage than I won't get married.

 

[Kisame]

I'm not with that mgtow, life long bachelor BS.

Not trying to end up like this at 60 because I'm lonely

 

[Basra]

I think alot of men and women who attack the institution of marriage do so because they’re incapable of finding a suitable partner. But is there anyone on here that don’t want to get married because you find marriage unappealing. like there’s the obvious perks: love, intimacy, money but the downsides are labour, childbirth/rearing etc. Having to dedicate so much of ur time and energy to others feels so

Well u just answered your silly question. You want the glittering part of the marriage. Not the grit and greasy side effects. Not everything is your latest Iphone u know