My friend came out and is texting me

[Geelraac]

Tell him to raise his testosterone levels

 

[SOULSEARCHING]

What did you see on his phone?

 

[heavyrealm]

What did you see on his phone?

he had grindr

 

[Medellin]

Cut him off. You're a muslim geeljire not a LGBT therapist.

 

[No tomorrow]

Damn bro its tight you put yourself in a bad spot why the f*ck were u looking through his phone unless he wanted you to see something

 

[Villainess]

What the hell? Help him out. It’s not like he’s asking you for a blowjob. and I don’t even like homos

 

[Amirah]

i know this one farah whos gay but is in the closet. I found out after using his phone to call someone and i ended up seeing some stuff on his phone. He came clean to me and told me he was gay and not to expose him. Ive been thinking about it for the past week and i havent come to a conclusion on what to do. Hes always texting me and saying he never told anyone about his sexuality and that i could be a great pillar of support. He cried on the phone cause i didnt pick up his call even though i was at work and he thought i dumped him and that i was mad. He said he wouldve killed himself if i exposed him cause he dosent want to be ostracised by somali community. Im in a dillema right now i only asked this guy for his phone to make a call and now he sees me as a therapist and cries over the phone when he talks to me. This is too much for me right now. idk what to do. Just to let u know this guy is a educated guy with good career and a honest man. I always thought he was a good guy. I never once thought he was gay but he was a bit soft though. All of a sudden he tells me his gay and releases all his pent up emotions on me. I my self might go insane if he continues with his behavior.

Please don’t expose him and also do what you can to be there for him, he’s dealing with a lot I can only imagine. May Allah guide him. He’s probably calling you alot because he’s afraid you’ll expose him and also you’re probably one of the only people in his life that know about his true nature, there’s probably sense of relieve of sorts that comes with that.

 

[heavyrealm]

Damn bro its tight you put yourself in a bad spot why the f*ck were u looking through his phone unless he wanted you to see something

it was a notification and i accidentaly tapped on if somehow

 

[Nafiso Qalanjo]

My advice to you:
- Tell him to go seek a therapist. His emotional baggage is clearly stressing you out.
- Be honest about how you feel about him being gay and if or if not your relationship has changed because of it.
- Tell him to stop being paranoid that you are gonna tell everyone that he's gay, but in a more nicer way.

If these things dont work out at first be more assertive and try again.

 

[Amirah]

it was a notification and i accidentaly tapped on if somehow

Why didn’t you act like you didn’t see it? That’s what most people would do.

 

[486th President]

You’re a disgusting excuse of a person, I hope that person keeps a distance from you.

Tf did he do?

 

[Boogie]

Tf did he do?

Don't bother bro

 

[salma saluuni]

Don't bother bro

Now ur really tryna start something I clearly ignored your last post is that not enough ? Enjoy the ignore button.

 

[Boogie]

Now ur really tryna start something I clearly ignored your last post is that not enough ? Enjoy the ignore button.

Alhamdullah

 

[Wervelwind]

That's tough. How old is he? I can imagine his parents asking him when he's marrying

 

[Regg]

Can I ask why he told you do this all of sudden? Why he didn’t he keep it a secret knowing that you’re against gay people (for obvious reasons)?

There must be a reason, did you say something to make him open about it? Perhaps his parents pressured him to get married and now he is in a mental breakdown and wants advice from his closest friend that he can trust like you?


Somalis have the tendency to have a big mouth so it’s not surpise why he’s begging you not to expose him.

Those saying he should cut him off because he got too comfortable with you is easy but knowing him for 10+ years is not. Good luck OP.

 

[Fratello]

He’s seducing you bro trynna give you that good D. If you don’t want to accept his offer then cut him off

 

[486th President]

He’s seducing you bro trynna give you that good D. If you don’t want to accept his offer then cut him off

 

[Fratello]

You the most sus in this forum warya

 

[486th President]

You the most sus in this forum warya

It’s not sus if you’ve already came out