NordicSomali
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Yes, no or I don’t know.
Poll: Do you think childless people regret not having children later in life?
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NordicSomali
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I think on average it’s a definite yes.
The truth seeker
Get Rich or Die Tryin'
100% hedonistic lifestyle is for the young once you hit 35-40 you'll be what they say “old man at the club ” you fall into depression and self reflect on life choices considering by that age your parents and grand parents are dead you next on the list what’s the legacy that you leave behind ?
Midlife crisis is even worse is my opinion
Midlife crisis is even worse is my opinion
Having Children is from the Qadar of Allah
NordicSomali
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Isn’t everything a test? Even poverty?
Being childless is in part only feasible because of the modern world. Without social safety nets, pensions, savings or a building up a decent passive income you're low-key screwed if you reach retirement age or a physical point where you simply must retire and have no young people to rely on. A lot of old folks also just generally get lonely, even at these old people homes. There's a whole volunteering industry around giving old people company, taking care of them and checking in on them even though they financially don't need you to do so.
We are not designed to be complete recluses. Those who babble on about "loving" their own company all the time are mentally unwell, in my humble opinion. Not enough DHA, EPA, Vitamin D, saturated fats and other micronutrients getting to the brain alongside coping via internet addiction or book reading as surrogates for socializing. I know because I was once basically like these people and thought I was an "introvert", lol.
We are not designed to be complete recluses. Those who babble on about "loving" their own company all the time are mentally unwell, in my humble opinion. Not enough DHA, EPA, Vitamin D, saturated fats and other micronutrients getting to the brain alongside coping via internet addiction or book reading as surrogates for socializing. I know because I was once basically like these people and thought I was an "introvert", lol.
"Your wealth and children are only a test, but Allah ˹alone˺ has a great reward." 64:15
Yes! But sometimes people who live in poverty live happier and more satisfied lives than wealthy people because they have faith. My original point still stands.
For people who don't have children and wealth especially Somalis/Muslims that I've encountered they typically are in community with others and have very large social networks. It's about understanding your Qadr and what was meant for you.
Taintedlove
Shaqo la'an ba kuu heysaata
No, it's mostly a made up narrative to scare women into having lots of children. There is no study that suggests childless women are less happy than mothers. Having children is not a guarantee that they will stay with you as we've seen a rise in people cutting of their parents. I think having children for the sake of being happy is selfish. You should only have kids if you want kids.
Taintedlove
Shaqo la'an ba kuu heysaata
Is there some sort of guarantee that your children will have children? Or that you're children will still care about you?
Lahaine
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There's no guarantee that your children might have children's of their own. I agree with you on that it was just a scenario
If you raise them with love and care, then most likely, yes. Caring doesn’t mean they will always be there for their parents 24/7 it just means that someone loves and respects them.
You got to make your kid WANT to take care of you. You gotta love your child, Instill values of compassion and always doing the right thing. Make sure they have islam as that core. Build a better man, he will care for you no doubt.
NordicSomali
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Lots of millennials are choosing a childless life right now. I think they will regret later. Its a bad trend.It’s life experience, the majority of times they will come to regret it. Thinking of what could have been. I’ll have a battalion watching over me Inshallah
"We are not designed to be complete recluses. Those who babble on about "loving" their own company all the time are mentally unwell, in my humble opinion. Not enough DHA, EPA, Vitamin D, saturated fats and other micronutrients getting to the brain alongside coping via internet addiction or book reading as surrogates for socializing. I know because I was once basically like these people and thought I was an "introvert", lol."
Women are better than men than this but a lot of childless women are pretty happy since they tend to prioritize creating an active social life. Especially the educated and career minded ones. A lot of these women are childfree and don't regret their decision either.
In college one of my mentors was a 35 year old childree madow nigga. During that time period his life seemed pretty dope. he maintained an active social life by making friends with a lot of other childfree/childless folk(living in a big city makes this easier). He would go out every week and would spend his time after work doing whatever he wanted.
He got married 2 years ago to another childfree woman and he looks even more happier. His wife makes good money too. They definitely have a combined household income that's close to 300k. He makes around 150k a year and his wife is an PA.
@NordicSomali @Lahaine none of the 40+ year old childree men and women I meet seem to regret their decision. They all seem pretty happy and financially stable to me.
Better to regret not having a kid over regretting having a kid. I think people need to not have kids if they aren’t loving, kind, patient, etc. Have y’all ever experience men/women who have kids and resent them so much. So they treat their kids or the kids in their vicinity so bad. I’ve had a few Somali cases but most is non-Somali. Such vile people. I wish they never had a kid and just isolated themselves from any kid.
Barni
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Nope, I have a few childfree older friends and they don’t regret it. Obviously, not wanting to have kids doesn’t negate the fact that they are a blessing. However, I know myself and I know I wouldn’t be a good mother. As someone who was born to a deadbeat father and a mother, who clearly regretted having me and my brother, it’s a horrible feeling that no child should go through.
Yes.
Idk why but I’ve seen that as well. A lot of unmarried millennials with no kids. Or they have a kid and divorce a year later.
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