Inquisitive_
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As usual the other side of the problem is never discussed and it's just bashing the Fathers.
Single motherhood is at epidemic levels in the WEST not the EAST or the SOUTH
The part of the story that is ignored is that in many cases these are toxic women who destroyed their own homes over nothing then used the children as weapons against the Father, especially in the critical early years were bonding is crucial.
Even that poor social worker sent to HELP THEM was not SAFE from the VITRIOL OF THESE SINGLE MOTHERS, asking that poor GIRL SHAMELESS Questions about her qabiil and refusing to cooperate with her and get help.
When a trained social worker who is paid, has state resources and genuinely wants to help can't get through to these homewreckers, what chance does a Father have ?
I have been in meetings were Fathers on the verge of going crazy over it, got saved by the tribe pooling money together and sending that poor sod back to third world Somalia to set up a new family to sooth his pain, but decades later when the inevitable happens he is blamed for it.
Just the other day Xaalimo was begging the husband she kicked out decade ago and humiliated by calling the cops on him even getting a restraining order against him, to save their son who was looking at getting 10 years which he did.
That same women is now advising countless other dumb younger Xaalimo who want to thread that same shameless path warning them about cutting the Father of the children, especially in the early years which is critical for bonding.
That Xaalimo is doing a rare thing unusual with Xaalimos, helping other xaalimos from making the same homewrecking mistakes she did.
But people don't see this, what they see is an absent Father DECADES later after the crime took place and the Xaalimo paying a heavy price for it, caasi son, loose daughter, and devastating workload, and without historical context the masses blame the Father.
But the reality is that these are punishments for their crimes in dunya, Allah does not wrong his slaves, this is a fundamental principle repeated many times in Quran THAT HE DOES NOT WRONG HIS SLAVES, but these people wrong themselves and cry when they pay the price for it.
The few Xaalimos that didn't do those shenanigans after divorce don't suffer from the same issues, what goes around comes back around.
The tough pill people refuse to swallow is that we as a community have the worst WOMEN in the DIASPORA, even the reverts from white to black who married our Xaalimos in big numbers suffer the fate we do and have the same complaints, it's a common theme now.
For me the most humiliating stories were Arabs and Algerians in masjids seeing how shameless our women are, the famous black bin bag was placed at a masjids for the Somali Imam shocking everyone.
They regard our women so lowly, they pimp them out to any revert that embraces Islam, why because these Xaalimos have destroyed their own communities and emasculated their men.
Sheikh Khalid Yasin has a famous clip that went viral years ago about Xaalimos which the Xaalimos saw as praise but in reality it was deep humiliation they are unable to understand due to their shamelessness and lack of discernment.
Remember a good wife can easily transform a bad husband and make him better, but vice versa ITS IMPOSSIBLE especially in the WEST.
The Hadith is very explicit about one of the greatest joys and rizq a man can have in this world is a Righteous GOOD WIFE, the opposite holds true also, and we have an abundance of bad, loud, shameless women who are predisposed to emasculating their husbands.
Single motherhood is at epidemic levels in the WEST not the EAST or the SOUTH
The part of the story that is ignored is that in many cases these are toxic women who destroyed their own homes over nothing then used the children as weapons against the Father, especially in the critical early years were bonding is crucial.
Even that poor social worker sent to HELP THEM was not SAFE from the VITRIOL OF THESE SINGLE MOTHERS, asking that poor GIRL SHAMELESS Questions about her qabiil and refusing to cooperate with her and get help.
When a trained social worker who is paid, has state resources and genuinely wants to help can't get through to these homewreckers, what chance does a Father have ?
I have been in meetings were Fathers on the verge of going crazy over it, got saved by the tribe pooling money together and sending that poor sod back to third world Somalia to set up a new family to sooth his pain, but decades later when the inevitable happens he is blamed for it.
Just the other day Xaalimo was begging the husband she kicked out decade ago and humiliated by calling the cops on him even getting a restraining order against him, to save their son who was looking at getting 10 years which he did.
That same women is now advising countless other dumb younger Xaalimo who want to thread that same shameless path warning them about cutting the Father of the children, especially in the early years which is critical for bonding.
That Xaalimo is doing a rare thing unusual with Xaalimos, helping other xaalimos from making the same homewrecking mistakes she did.
But people don't see this, what they see is an absent Father DECADES later after the crime took place and the Xaalimo paying a heavy price for it, caasi son, loose daughter, and devastating workload, and without historical context the masses blame the Father.
But the reality is that these are punishments for their crimes in dunya, Allah does not wrong his slaves, this is a fundamental principle repeated many times in Quran THAT HE DOES NOT WRONG HIS SLAVES, but these people wrong themselves and cry when they pay the price for it.
The few Xaalimos that didn't do those shenanigans after divorce don't suffer from the same issues, what goes around comes back around.
The tough pill people refuse to swallow is that we as a community have the worst WOMEN in the DIASPORA, even the reverts from white to black who married our Xaalimos in big numbers suffer the fate we do and have the same complaints, it's a common theme now.
For me the most humiliating stories were Arabs and Algerians in masjids seeing how shameless our women are, the famous black bin bag was placed at a masjids for the Somali Imam shocking everyone.
They regard our women so lowly, they pimp them out to any revert that embraces Islam, why because these Xaalimos have destroyed their own communities and emasculated their men.
Sheikh Khalid Yasin has a famous clip that went viral years ago about Xaalimos which the Xaalimos saw as praise but in reality it was deep humiliation they are unable to understand due to their shamelessness and lack of discernment.
Remember a good wife can easily transform a bad husband and make him better, but vice versa ITS IMPOSSIBLE especially in the WEST.
The Hadith is very explicit about one of the greatest joys and rizq a man can have in this world is a Righteous GOOD WIFE, the opposite holds true also, and we have an abundance of bad, loud, shameless women who are predisposed to emasculating their husbands.
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