SonOfMaverick
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“I’m Married to da money, f*** the world, that's adultery”
- Lil Wayne
Should Somalis adopt the concept of arranged marriage?
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“I’m Married to da money, f*** the world, that's adultery”
- Lil Wayne
Who?
Indeed. That's the other half of the problem. Finding a Somali girl receptive to an arranged marriage with a father proactively interested in helping is extremely unlikely.
I do believe it would solve a lot of problems, but arranged marriages don't fit Somalis. I have noticed Somalis mature way slower in thinking about marriage and kids than our Asian and Arab counterparts.
Nah, the issue is that many arranged marriages that happens in the Somali community is based on qabil and usually the other potential spouse is from back home and has nothing in common with the girl. Honestly, think back to most situations of arranged marriages in our community and unfortunately, you'll find those are the most common. So of course, the girls would hate that idea. Even our guys are anti arranged marriages, so the decent ones who are catches, will try to avoid it and meet a girl in a different way.
Most girls will at least give it a go if parents actually looked for partners for their child that actually have attractive qualities like similar age, from the diaspora, Educated and has a good/decent job. Also, the trick is for the fam to be laid back and not too pushy.
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For a guy, his family shouldn't be involved too much and he should bring his own woman to the family if he can. There are opportunities for college age guys. They should start to think settling down IN their senior year and swipe phone numbers from potential wives. I would advise that to my young male relatives. Real men bring their wives home. LOL.
This 100% I missed out so much, the height of covid faraxs won. Money in the bank after marriage ? Whaaat ?
2020 was the year of Faraxs.
Weddings shouldn’t be expensive in the first place, covid or no covid.This 100% I missed out so much, the height of covid faraxs won. Money in the bank after marriage ? Whaaat ?
2020 was the year of Faraxs.
If all the guys should find their own wives, then arranged marriages wouldn't exist? Nothing wrong with maybe getting to know a girl your sister, aunt or hooyo recommend.
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True. Opportunity and personality play a role in how people meet their significant other. For those individuals who for some reason can not get an opportunity on their own, arranged opportunities or marriages are options. I am not opposed to people doing something beneficial and legit. With that said, I would nurture a young male to get his own wife and bring one home.
Here is how it goes:
- Raise him well and turn him into smart elegant young man.
- Get him a driver's license at 16 or 17 years Old.
- Hook him up with summer jobs as soon as he can legally work
- Buy him latest Iphone
- Sign him up at the gym and tell him no gal wants floppy dude
- 4GPA average or close at high school graduation
- Tell him to talk to me if he falls in love with a high school Somali classmate
- Tell him a real man does not sleep around but dignifies the girl who is willing to go with him all the way by proposing they marry
- I will talk to the girl's dad and tell him my son likes his daughter and we should do something about it.
- Get them a one bedroom during college so they start their journey together.
I will definitely hook up any son of mine and be there for him.
On the other hand, it is hard to hook up a daughter as it would be a catch 22. Mothers should do that instead of the father. No father wants to feel his daughter is up for sale. I would encourage the same as I would do for my son with the extra protection that she should not trust any guy who wants to sleep with her and she should consider that to be a deal breaker. If a guy is not willing to come to her house and introduce himself to the family, then he is no good for her.
Arranged marriages in the Somali community doesn't work. These hooyos will try to match their gangbanger ciyaal suuq sons with educated good hearted xalimos
Nalaaye floxks
Life is like a sandwich, the bread comes first💰💯
If prophet mohamed (S.A.W) allows it then im cool with it, as long as you don’t force on her/him, it’ll become haram
Nalaaye floxks
Life is like a sandwich, the bread comes first💰💯
Idgaf about arranged marriage tbh, if she listens to eli fross, freaky and darkskinned (different qabil) then I’m down
Nalaaye floxks
Life is like a sandwich, the bread comes first💰💯
What if she’s ajnabi and muslim?
What if she’s ajnabi and muslim?
That would be second choice. But first, he needs to bring that big fore-headed Haliimo. It is important to teach kids important first choices.
Nalaaye floxks
Life is like a sandwich, the bread comes first💰💯
You’d be a great dad
