As Muslims, a girl’s mahram is supposed to help her find a suitable match. You all were saying xalimos are “easy” compare to Asian or Arab women, and I was pointing out that their mahrams are often very involved whereas xalimos are left to their own devices. Women are more vulnerable and easily manipulated - so without any mahram involved, there’s higher chance they’ll end up with losers. A girl has to get a permission from her father to get married for a reason, but most Somali fathers nvm finding a suitable match but don’t even take enough care to seriously investigate who their daughter brings before allowing the marriage to go forward. I have seen so many lopsided marriages, where you wonder why the hell didn’t the girl’s father object.
I agree with you, xalimos wouldn’t be marrying these ex-convicts if they had an active father in their life. It all boils down to that. I know my father wouldn’t let that shit happen and my sisters wouldn’t even dare to think about it. Is the fathers duty to inspect the man marrying his father.
I guarantee all the women who married the ex-convicts came from broken homes with no father figure or were batshit crazy.