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Ragna qowl baa xira, dumarna meher baa xira.
That is the norm for a lot of Eastern cultures and what is crazy is how these incels and so called 'brothers' influenced by them are trying to bring that into the deen. That is why Muslim women need to be extra vigilant. From looking at the UK dawah scene which is mostly spearheaded by mere Islamic speakers who don't have any more Islamic knowledge than the women they critique and the constant twisting and distortion, is concering.
BTW, i have no issues with critism and constructive feedback. But its important for someone to listen to it themselves and verify. If you had criticism against them which you felt was valid and voiced in a respectful manner, I don't think most will have an issue as it is clearly coming from a place of honesty. Constantly calling women Fasiq, Kufr and wh0res for doing and having opinions they personally disagree with creates the narrative that men are the owners of the deen and that women are simply on the fringe which is why it’s so easy for them to quickly make takfir on us for any tiny perceived wrong doing. Hence why they have recently started targeting Practicing sisters now as a way to mock and question their commitment to Islam . These men can talk about their roadman and playboy Jahiliya days with no pushback and suspiciousness because in their eyes they’re the ‘owners’ of Islam whilst women need to be constantly watched.
Even though i agree that a significant proportion of hatred & injustices towards women is a result of men and cultural norms. This however isn't the major reason why men adopt a negative outlook on women as in the west power & authority of the average man has been relegated to a subservient position by secular liberal ideologies. Furthermore adoption of secular framework under the guise of feminism by muslim women has only led to worsening of relationship between the genders and also cohesion within the muslim community.
It is against this backdrop that we the rise of men influenced by incel rhetoric, if muslim women can cherry pick what suits them from feminist ideology why can't men ? why is the hatred of men not a problem but that of women is ? Feminism has had a deeper impact and devasting consequences for the muslim community than the incel movement as the former is propagated through law, education, culture etc while the latter isn't. Yet despite this it's hardly addressed by muslim women as a source of problem that we face in the west.
The main culprit of women's injustice is either blamed on men or culture, rarely is adoption of secular worldview ever brought up. This lack of accountability on women's part further reinforces the view that men have of women which is in the eyes of women men are nothing more than enemies to be fought. The end result of it is that men simply reciprocate the actions & views launched against them.
If muslim women are against incel, redpill movements etc because it's goes against islam then they should be equally against feminism. Equally muslim men should be against redpill ideology for the exact same reason they're against feminism. Laakin reality on the ground is that each gender cherry picks whatever suits their nafs and fight under this basis.
At the heart of this gender hostility is a battle of ideology and until both genders take a step back and reflect on the views they've internalised which are alien to diinteena there's never going to be any step forward.
You're not going to agree with me but gender has always been at the forefront and sexism is/has always been a massive issue. There is a reason why the Prophet s.a.w in his last sermon emphasized on treating women well for he knew that his Ummah struggles with that due to most people's previous jahiiya cultures that some time seeps in. I'm not saying women are angels, they can be just as terrible or worse but obviously we live in a male dominate society and in Islam and most cultures men are the leaders, hence as the leaders we expect protection and understanding rather than what we're seeing in the overall Muslim community as a lack of this from one’s leaders can have devastating consequences as obviously those that are being led are in a more vulnerable position.
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The reason why i don't agree is simply because the problems that we see today is a result of this gender centric problematisation of issues affecting women. It's a worldview adopted from secular feminism which reinforces us to talk about muslim women on feminism's terms rather than Islam's term ordained by Allah.
Sexism comes no where near the kufr & shirk embodied in what secular feminism advocates for. As a muslim living in a gaalo land why is sexism prioritised more so than the ideologies of kufr ?
The Prophet ﷺ didn’t simply emphasise about treating women only but He also talked about the rights of men and obligations women have towards men & vice - versa. This is more encompassing than just a gender centric discourse where one only talks about rights without obligations and accountability. Think of men who only talk about women obeying them without giving any thought of their responsibilities and the rights that women have over them, will women entertain them ?
O People, it is true that you have certain rights with regard to your women, but they also have rights over you. Remember that you have taken them as your wives only under Allah’s trust and with His permission. If they abide by your right then to them belongs the right to be fed and clothed in kindness. Do treat your women well and be kind to them for they are your partners and committed helpers. And it is your right that they do not make friends with any one of whom you do not approve, as well as never to be unchaste.
Our rights, freedoms, obligations etc all of it is based on the submission to Allah SWT. Deviation from this reference point to other paradigms only leads to more problems, just look at gaalada who championed for this. Sexualisation & objectification of women has reached astronomical levels, rape has increased, so if it didn't work for them why would it work for muslim women ?
Men are the major victims of male violence, yet this is hardly ever mentioned in such discourses regarding injustices that are prevalent in muslim countries. Portraying societal issues as if women are the only victims and worthy of our support is very problematic. A somali male is expected to live, fight and die for his qabil for the benefit of a few odayaal, does his life not matter ?
Why should somali men fight for the rights of somali women at the expense of their own rights ? If somali women don't give a damn about them why should somali men care ? This is the end result of gender centric prioritization of societal issues. It only leads to polarization and divisiveness between the genders.