You’re right. They’re not the same which is why I believe it is a form of silly innovation. But it’s clear as day asking for help doesn’t mean worship, ultimately they’re asking the dead person to make dua to Allah, they know that only Allah can answer Duasagain- are you saying that asking someone in the same room as me to translate for me or help carry some groceries into the house... are you saying that is the same thing as praying to a dead person?? if so, that is completely silly.
even a person who has never heard of Islam would naturally know that these are not at all the same. it would not be some "dilemma" to recognize these are way different things.