The rise of Hijabis becoming non hijabis

[starry]

I know some girls genuinely struggle with it, they think they look ugly with the Hijab or smth but may Allah make it easier for them. Sometimes I go to weddings without my hijab and feel naked lol, I don’t think I could ever take it off even tho sometimes I do think I look better without

 

[wonyluvr]

I’m astonished by the number of xalimos wearing fake timo

I hate wigs

 

[bluebird]

Yes, I've seen so much girls either take off their hijab or change it up to be less covered (showing hair in front, wearing khimar to expose neck, switching to pants or tighter clothes)

And just being female, young and beautiful there is a pressure to "flaunt it while you got it" I actually see more women dressing less modestly as they get closer to their mid/late 30s cause I guess that is waswas from shaitan telling them they will only be hot for a few years longer. There is a hadith about how there is a time following the deen will be like holding a hot coal, May Allah keep us steadfast and our eyes on the real prize

 

[soulmates]

I’ve been wearing hijab and abaya since I’ve been 3. Never had a choice. I once asked to wear *loose* pants and got beat by my dad. It makes me not want to wear it at all. Every hijabi at my uni wears pants but me and my sister. I’m Muslim in appearance but I don’t pray or even make dua. I try to become religious but the trauma is there. When I get the first opportunity I’m taking it off

 

[Taintedlove]

I’ve been wearing hijab and abaya since I’ve been 3. Never had a choice. I once asked to wear *loose* pants and got beat by my dad. It makes me not want to wear it at all. Every hijabi at my uni wears pants but me and my sister. I’m Muslim in appearance but I don’t pray or even make dua. I try to become religious but the trauma is there. When I get the first opportunity I’m taking it off

Same walahi. hooyothey acts like jeans are the work of the devil walahi

 

[Sigmundd]

Somali parents shouldn't let their children wear hijab until they go to secondary school, and even then shouldn't force upon them but rather highly encourage their daughters to wear the hijab and warn them highly about disobeying Allah etc. Although they should make them wear hijab 1 to 2 years before they go to secondary school like when they go to the mosque, or just sometimes in public spaces so they can get used to it once they're in year 7 and above. This is the best method In your daughters not regretting to wear the hijab and instead appreciate it. Teach them the meaning of the hijab and don't be ignorant about it.

 

[Unicorn]

I’m astonished by the number of xalimos wearing fake timo

Omg yes....it used to be if their hair wasnt tht soft they would just put relaxer on and just flat iron but now its just wigs and weave.

 

[AbwaanDameer]

I’m astonished by the number of xalimos wearing fake timo

lol

 

[DubatDiaries]

It is both normal and expected to have parents raise their children with their own ideals and have them dress and believe a certain way. The thing is, it does not always translate into adulthood, people grow up and may or may not follow the exact traditions/belief system of their family.
Of course they wore a hijab at 13 when it was expected of them and raised in that environment, its different when you are older.

 

[rin]

i have been wearing a hijab since i was 9 i never liked it and I knew from day 1 I was going to take it off. I'm taking it off when my hair is thicker again from getting enough iron. i waited it out until I was 18 because I'm def not going to dhaqan celis.

 

[Ashhh]

وَلاَ تَشْتَرُواْ بِآيَاتِي ثَمَنًا قَلِيلاً​

And do not exchange my signs for a small price

 

[Barni]

Hot take: Hijab isn’t something most girls choose for themselves hence why you see alot of them take it off. Obviously I get it’s fardh but it’s human nature to not want to be confined to rules.

 

[Kun_Ciil]

A lot of you guys blaming parents forcing you, or feeling free and more beautiful without it....its not the truth.Many years ago I would be surprised/disappointed seeing a lot of Muslim sisters without hijaab in the west. However, living in muslim lands has made me realise the real dilemma. Everything consciously and unconsciously has to to do with societal pressure and conforming to your environment.

Somalis they have a saying
Ratiga weyn sanqaadkiisa waxa leh ratiga yar. (The younger camel follows the older camels footsteps)

And Dadkaa badan iyo biyo kaa badan wii ku hafiyaan(People that are more than you(an environment were you're the minority) and water that is greater than you will drown you.)

Most of these issues western Muslims feel about hijaab has to to do with the environment. If you grew up in Somalia or a Muslim country which hijaab was the norm, you would feel comfortable and not have any conflicting thoughts. However, living in the west as a Muslim woman the hijaab is a big sign of Islam and a barrier to the freedom many young people seek. Subconsciously you want to fit in, dress like how everyone else is dressing and not stand out straight away as an other(muslim). It's easier fitting in the workplace, university, socially as a nonhijaabi than a hijaabi....its all really about assimilation.

Anyways, as a guy ive never posted in this section but wanted to offer my two cents. The same issues plague muslim men also, not just in the west but even in the muslim lands. For example, the beard is a sunnah...and in actuality most of the Islamic schools of thoughts/madhabs hold that growing the beard is compulsory, whereas some say its not forbidden but disliked to shave the beard. But yet you see more clean shaven muslim men then bearded? Why? Because of colonialism in the Muslim lands. Being clean shaven is associated with being reer magaal/ilbax since that's how the colonisers looked and having a beard is reer baadiyo/unkempt and uncivilised. Most muslim men subconsciously hold this belief despite knowing that Prophet Muhammad SAW had a beard,and ordered for the Muslims to be different from the non-Muslims by growing their beard and trimming their moustache.

Last thing, as Muslims our goal is to seek the pleasure of Allah, follow his commands and seek reward from Him in the Hereafter. Hijaab is a Commandment to the Muslim woman in the Quran, an order from God. The muslim woman who leaves her house without proper hijaab is commiting a sin everytime she leaves her house, like it or not because she is disobeying Allah. If we truely believe we shouldn't look at conforming but instead take comfort and happiness by knowing that we are obeying our Lord despite all the hardships we might face in this worldly life whilst hoping for His reward and mercy in the Hereafter.

Allah says in the Quran

36. It is not for a believer, man or woman, when Allah and His Messenger have decreed a matter that they should have any option in their decision. And whoever disobeys Allah and His Messenger, he has indeed strayed in a plain error.(Surah Ahzaab)

24. O you who believe! Answer Allah (by obeying Him) and (His) Messenger when he () calls you to that which will give you life, and know that Allah comes in between a person and his heart (i.e. He prevents an evil person to decide anything). And verily to Him you shall (all) be gathered.(Surah AlAnfal)


It all just comes down to a matter of faith and emaan. And believing deep down that Allah knows what best for us and is the most wise...a Muslim should be proud of his/her religion, and not feel ashamed or awkward about it.