The ultimate test

[Hodan from HR]

Update. He said no He used the honeymoon excuse on me, I had a feeling he would use that against me and he did. Anyways I tried

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For what it is worth, it's all good. I mean he is a generous person, right? That's all that should matters. I'm sure he won't have said no if he could afford.

 

[Helios]

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[Hodan from HR]

You think him saying no to paying for you and your friends is a bad thing? I would be turned off if he said yes to that the only people he should be spending on is me and his mom

Wait pay for friends aaa???!!!
@Nice naa mawalatey, you wanna ruin your marriage before it starts?
He should pay only for you. Your friends should pay for themselves.
Y'all get to have a fun girls trip.
Win-Win

 

[Nice]

Genuine question, but why can't you fund yourself? Dependence on one man for everything

You're gonna be a dentist and you're financially depending on your man?

I’m a student right now, and I have classes almost every single day, don’t have time for part time job and he volunteered on giving me money.

 

[NotMyL]

Wait pay for friends aaa???!!!
@Nice naa mawalatey, you wanna ruin your marriage before it starts?
He should pay only for you. Your friends should pay for themselves.
Y'all get to have a fun girls trip.
Win-Win

Maybe I misunderstood her post, and she asked for him to pay for her portion only which is reasonable if you guys are getting married. I have seen girls make their man pay for their friends dinner or Uber’s, like get out of here I’m not letting him pay for anyone but me lol

 

[Nice]

Wait pay for friends aaa???!!!
@Nice naa mawalatey, you wanna ruin your marriage before it starts?
He should pay only for you. Your friends should pay for themselves.
Y'all get to have a fun girls trip.
Win-Win

no walaalo he was supposed to pay only for me. I’m the jealous type, can’t be spending my husbands money on some other girls.

 

[Molotoff]

I’m about to ask my man to pay for my all girl trip this summer. I have never asked for something this extreme before, ii soo duceeya

Well, you can forget about that. No Somali kang with self respect would do such a thing.

 

[Nice]

Well, you can forget about that. No Somali kang with self respect would do such a thing.

I know he told me no.

 

[Helios]

Maybe I misunderstood her post, and she asked for him to pay for her portion only which is reasonable if you guys are getting married. I have seen girls make their man pay for their friends dinner or Uber’s, like get out of here I’m not letting him pay for anyone but me lol

Last thing a dude wants is to have a girl spend more time with her friends instead of you. If you're enabling her friends or letting them enjoy at your expense then you have failed Male 101 miserably

 

[Molotoff]

I know he told me no.

As I used to tell my own wife while we still were dating and she wanted to go on these endeavours; "I trust you but I don’t trust them".

 

[Nice]

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For what it is worth, it's all good. I mean he is a generous person, right? That's all that should matters. I'm sure he won't have said no if he could afford.

He can afford it but he thought it will be a waste of money since I’m gonna go on a vacation with him in late October.

 

[NotMyL]

Last thing a dude wants is to have a girl spend more time with her friends instead of you. If you're enabling her friends or letting them enjoy at your expense then you have failed Male 101 miserably

You have to find the balance, too much of either is not healthy. I don’t like when some girls/guys get in relationship and they spend 24/7 with that person.

 

[Lostbox]

I know he told me no.

Build your own funds in the future

 

[Desert Flower]

You think him saying no to paying for you and your friends is a bad thing? I would be turned off if he said yes to that the only people he should be spending on is me and his mom

He’s not paying for friends, just her. I’d be turned off because we’re gonna be married anyways, so spend it on me boy.

 

[Lostbox]

What was the test all about?

 

[Hodan from HR]

He can afford it but he thought it will be a waste of money since I’m gonna go on a vacation with him in late October.

At least, it is not because he doesn't trust you like some men are saying here

 

[Helios]

You have to find the balance, too much of either is not healthy. I don’t like when some girls/guys get in relationship and they spend 24/7 with that person.

That's true it comes off as clingy

 

[Desert Flower]

Maybe I misunderstood her post, and she asked for him to pay for her portion only which is reasonable if you guys are getting married. I have seen girls make their man pay for their friends dinner or Uber’s, like get out of here I’m not letting him pay for anyone but me lol

Which is why you don’t tell anyone who you’re dating until you’re engaged. And I wouldn’t ask him to pay for anyone except me. Too many leeches and free loaders in this world.

 

[NotMyL]

He’s not paying for friends, just her. I’d be turned off because we’re gonna be married anyways, so spend it on me boy.

Yeah I misunderstood her post, I thought she was saying her and her friends. She should ask him money for books and book it with the trip It seems like he just doesn’t like the idea of not being on trip he is paying for lol

 

[Desert Flower]

Yeah I misunderstood her post, I thought she was saying her and her friends. She should ask him money for books and book it with the trip It seems like he just doesn’t like the idea of not being on trip he is paying for lol

Smart! I was thinking that too but didn’t wanna corrupt the poor girl.