What is your opinion on cadaans?

[Spongebob]

Libaan stop trying to be racist lil nigga

Just because you have been accepted as a refugee, doesn't mean you aren't allowed to speak up about injustices, or be unable to speak about being treated unfair.

If life had dealt a different hand, and Europeans or any other groups were the refugees in Somalia, we should be accepting and helping them

They’re humans . There’s good & theres bad people in every group lol

Cadaans aren’t a monolith either

Someone raised in Alabama is going to be a completely different person versus someone raised in New York City

Yep, we need to stop generalising groups

 

[lovelypeaches]

Most of my friends are caadan, and I honestly love them they are super caring, supportive, and have genuinely helped me level up in life, especially when it comes to jobs. Wllhi they’ve got so many connections in the corporate world, and they opened new doors for me. With Somali friends, there was always so much buuq and balayo and it felt like jealousy was a constant thing. I haven’t experienced any of that with caadan people.

 

[idc]

i better not see any of you shit talking somalis and other groups when you're out here preaching about how whites shouldn't be generalised and aren't a monolith. yet all you do is generalise your own people and hate on other groups

 

[Unicorn]

You should be grateful that they let you into their country ma’am

U sound like a slave

 

[Unicorn]

Cadaans are very tricky people cuz they have learned to not be in ur face. Always watch them and give them as little info as u can. Also "caadanka iska ilali" was one of the realest sayings any1 came up with. The ones who fall for the fake nice act always get f'd up. Also not suprising tht the anti madow anti asians are simping for cadans

 

[kiinjaamacluvrr]

What is your opinions on cadaan folks? What do you think about them?

I went to a predominantly white high school in London, and the experience was deeply uncomfortable. Many of the individuals there were drug addicts, obsessed with sex, and engaged in bizarre behavior, sleeping with anyone and everyone in the most inappropriate places. On top of that, they carried this strange superiority complex, acting as if people of color needed their validation or as if they needed to “rescue” us to feel good about themselves. It was toxic and unsettling.

 

[LilBang]

U sound like a slave

I was trolling naagyahow just chill

 

[LilBang]

Just because you have been accepted as a refugee, doesn't mean you aren't allowed to speak up about injustices, or be unable to speak about being treated unfair.

If life had dealt a different hand, and Europeans or any other groups were the refugees in Somalia, we should be accepting and helping them

Yep, we need to stop generalising groups

I was trolling my guy I wasnt even being serious lol

 

[Rayaale]

Neutral they are not different from other people

 

[Rayaale]

i better not see any of you shit talking somalis and other groups when you're out here preaching about how whites shouldn't be generalised and aren't a monolith. yet all you do is generalise your own people and hate on other groups

Hypocrisy much

 

[Farahslayer]

Most of my friends are caadan, and I honestly love them they are super caring, supportive, and have genuinely helped me level up in life, especially when it comes to jobs. Wllhi they’ve got so many connections in the corporate world, and they opened new doors for me. With Somali friends, there was always so much buuq and balayo and it felt like jealousy was a constant thing. I haven’t experienced any of that with caadan people.

It’s way easier to have good cadaan friends versus Somali or any other immigrant group.

If you grew up with cadaans and understand the duplicitous culture it’s easy to sort through the fake and the genuine. When you have a genuine cadaan friend they will ride for you until you both die, they will treat you like family and have your back no matter what. I would give my best cadaan friend a kidney that’s how much I love them.

Thing is with Somalis, a lot are raised to only value their siblings/cousins and think everyone else is jealous or a hater. So the friendship never has any deep connection and there’s always backstabbing and drama. They never learnt how to develop pro social skills. It’s ugly but it’s true. Goes for girls and boys.

My thing is you think friends are fake and you only trust your family then why make friends? Why hurt people like that? The sibling relationships are also toxic as well because there’s a lack of boundaries too. I also lowkey think this why so many marriages fail too. Somalis only value blood bonds and take it too extremes.

 

[AbdiFreedom]

 

[Abu Hesi]

Ani nin, walaale

 

[empressjamila]

It’s way easier to have good cadaan friends versus Somali or any other immigrant group.

If you grew up with cadaans and understand the duplicitous culture it’s easy to sort through the fake and the genuine. When you have a genuine cadaan friend they will ride for you until you both die, they will treat you like family and have your back no matter what. I would give my best cadaan friend a kidney that’s how much I love them.

Thing is with Somalis, a lot are raised to only value their siblings/cousins and think everyone else is jealous or a hater. So the friendship never has any deep connection and there’s always backstabbing and drama. They never learnt how to develop pro social skills. It’s ugly but it’s true. Goes for girls and boys.

My thing is you think friends are fake and you only trust your family then why make friends? Why hurt people like that? The sibling relationships are also toxic as well because there’s a lack of boundaries too. I also lowkey think this why so many marriages fail too. Somalis only value blood bonds and take it too extremes.

Interesting take.

My personal experience has been very different. I find with cadaans there is always this distance/wall up. They will be friendly and cordial with you but they don’t actually want to be your friend and have you in their life.

I can understand it tbh and I honestly feel the same because as an African Muslim woman what do I have in common with them? Nothing really. We don’t have the same values, we had very different upbringings, we don’t follow the same customs, and we move through life very differently. You need relatability to be close friends with someone.

The last close cadaan friend I had was in elementary school, ever since then 100% of my friends have been poc. I especially enjoy having Somali friends because there’s so much familiarity/things in common and it’s like hanging out with a family member. If you don’t befriend people that have fob or ignorant mentality, Somali friends will be the best you will ever have.

 

[Unicorn]

Interesting take.

My personal experience has been very different. I find with cadaans there is always this distance/wall up. They will be friendly and cordial with you but they don’t actually want to be your friend and have you in their life.

I can understand it tbh and I honestly feel the same because as an African Muslim woman what do I have in common with them? Nothing really. We don’t have the same values, we had very different upbringings, we don’t follow the same customs, and we move through life very differently. You need relatability to be close friends with someone.

The last close cadaan friend I had was in elementary school, ever since then 100% of my friends have been poc. I especially enjoy having Somali friends because there’s so much familiarity/things in common and it’s like hanging out with a family member. If you don’t befriend people that have fob or ignorant mentality, Somali friends will be the best you will ever have.

Very true. They do have a wall up. Its tht "ima be nice to u cuz its just manners but we cant be friends" energy. However i will say one thing i like about non somali friends is tht wall/distance gives u less drama than somali friends.

 

[Dooyo]

Cadaans make useful friends, not best friends from my personal experience. There’s always going to be a barrier as we come from such drastically different worlds, they simply cannot understand some of my perspectives on a lot of topics. There’s also the religious divide.

Most Cadaans I’ve meet were good, down to earth people.

 

[empressjamila]

Cadaans make useful friends, not best friends from my personal experience. There’s always going to be a barrier as we come from such drastically different worlds, they simply cannot understand some of my perspectives on a lot of topics. There’s also the religious divide.

Most Cadaans I’ve meet were good, down to earth people.

Exactly. Thats what I wonder about the Somali men and women who marry cadaans. How do you build a life with someone who lives in a completely different world? How would you even agree on how to raise your kids?

 

[Farahslayer]

Interesting take.

My personal experience has been very different. I find with cadaans there is always this distance/wall up. They will be friendly and cordial with you but they don’t actually want to be your friend and have you in their life.

I can understand it tbh and I honestly feel the same because as an African Muslim woman what do I have in common with them? Nothing really. We don’t have the same values, we had very different upbringings, we don’t follow the same customs, and we move through life very differently. You need relatability to be close friends with someone.

The last close cadaan friend I had was in elementary school, ever since then 100% of my friends have been poc. I especially enjoy having Somali friends because there’s so much familiarity/things in common and it’s like hanging out with a family member. If you don’t befriend people that have fob or ignorant mentality, Somali friends will be the best you will ever have.

Lowkey I wish I had your experience. I actually distanced myself from my cadaan friends when I was able to make Somali friends. I love Somali people and being able to relate and I enjoy not being the funniest one in the friend group. Honestly Somalis are just quick witted and know how to have a good time. But I’ve never been as burnt by friendship as I have with Somalis. It’s just not worth it. I’ll take kindness and loyalty over a good time.

You are really lucky though. MashAllah.