Why are so many men now afraid of talking to women?

[PrincessBBG<3]

It seems to be a pandemic now? Most people are terrified of talking to someone new. When it comes to approaching women, this terror is multiplied by 100. In America it seems men have become women and women are becoming men. This scary part is that since so many fathers leave their family, men will adapt feminine traits unconsciously. They can only prevent this by taking conscious actions e.g. being in control of their emotions (stoic), not crying in front of people, being a provider if they want a family etc.

This is so true. I know so many women who have initiated their marriage/talking stages and let’s just say it’s not going well for them. They’re stuck with bare minimum men who suck at communicating with women

 

[Odious Delirium]

Boys might be afraid of girls, have more than a reason to be, but men have no qualms in approaching women. By men, I mean gentleman, who know how to treat, and charm the ladies, and by women, I mean truly genuine articles, and not any in a skirt.

Well said couldn't have said it better myself brother

 

[onthecloud]

This is so true. I know so many women who have initiated their marriage/talking stages and let’s just say it’s not going well for them. They’re stuck with bare minimum men who suck at communicating with women

How old are they? Women who aren't wanted do this

 

[PrincessBBG<3]

How old are they? Women who aren't wanted do this

This could be the case. They’re around 22-25

 

[Odious Delirium]

This could be the case. They’re around 22-25

I'm sure you know them well enough to know if they are agreeable, amicable women or not right?

 

[onthecloud]

This could be the case. They’re around 22-25

I feel bad for them. I can tell they are good women. But they are doing the right thing. Women who aren't approached have to do the approaching. 22-25 women should have had a few men already approach them.

 

[Ikranay]

Marriage is a huge scam for decent guys, but especially decent Somali guys. They should look into indhoyar or other more agreeable women. Unless you see her mother treating her husband like a king and her dad treating her mom like a queen, don't marry her.

Uhm there’s plenty of normal kind Somali women this isn’t non existent in the Somali community. Lol they are usually homebodies or semi religious (picture you’re average hijabi somali girl that wears loose skirts)

 

[PrincessBBG<3]

Uhm there’s plenty of normal kind Somali women this isn’t non existent in the Somali community. Lol they are usually homebodies.

I find that the most kind and well mannered Somali women are just usually at the gym or at the coffee shops or libraries. They have simple lives and choose not to be bothered

 

[Ikranay]

I find that the most kind and well mannered Somali women are just usually at the gym or at the coffee shops or libraries. They have simple lives and choose not to be bothered

This is me lol. I’m always shocked when I hear Somali guys say we’re mean and closed off. More often then not I look very happy when I’m outside. This goes for most Somali women I know was well. We just keep to ourselves a bit.

 

[PrincessBBG<3]

This is me lol. I’m always shocked when I hear Somali guys say we’re mean and closed off. More often then not I look very happy when I’m outside. This goes for most Somali women I know was well. We just keep to ourselves a bit.

Lolll sis their loss.

 

[Khaem]

Who even approaches anyway. Don’t people just meet during social events (warm approach), online or through family/friends

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[yasmeen]

Iykyk.

Men are not afraid of approaching the women they want.

There’s so many different types of men. The ones who can’t approach women are the ones who can’t handle social banalities like a simple smile or eye contact. They weren’t cut out for organic approaches irl.

 

[onthecloud]

Uhm there’s plenty of normal kind Somali women this isn’t non existent in the Somali community. Lol they are usually homebodies or semi religious (picture you’re average hijabi somali girl that wears loose skirts)

Normal, kind women get married quick even if they are always at home. Mothers and fathers that visit their house will notice them. Someone will notice their smiles on the train or at the shop. This is just a cope.

 

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[Ikranay]

Normal, kind women get married quick even if they are always at home. Mothers and fathers that visit their house will notice them. Someone will notice their smiles on the train or at the shop. This is just a cope.

Agree to disagree. InshaAllah you find what you are looking for

 

[onthecloud]

Agree to disagree. Insha’Allah you find what you are looking for

I think I may have. Inshallah you find what you are looking for

 

[sunnews27]

It seems to be a pandemic now? Most people are terrified of talking to someone new. When it comes to approaching women, this terror is multiplied by 100. In America it seems men have become women and women are becoming men. This scary part is that since so many fathers leave their family, men will adapt feminine traits unconsciously. They can only prevent this by taking conscious actions e.g. being in control of their emotions (stoic), not crying in front of people, being a provider if they want a family etc.

i dont know how to approach people in that way

 

[𐒋𐒖𐒆𐒔𐒖𐒕𐒈]

In all fairness, ladies, who scare off the effeminate boys are the likes of:
i) @canab, who mercilessly fleeces her paramours on sight, whilst recounting her recapping arrests in their face (sorry walaal, you made no bones about it admitting to as much),

ii) @yasmeen , who growls at boys from a mile even before they could so much as say hello (sorry walaal, I am deducing this much from one of your previous posts),

iii) @Angelina , who at best physically threats boys, and at worse manufactures outrage out of thin air (sorry walaal, you are eerily scary), and

iv) Now, I will not even venture into @Barni 's realm.

Other than, all it is 'caana xoor leh' at our pickings. Lovely all round.

 

[Dualke]

I find that the most kind and well mannered Somali women are just usually at the gym or at the coffee shops or libraries. They have simple lives and choose not to be bothered

I always thought initiating conversations at places like coffee shops where you'd most likely never see them again is perceived as desperate
Wouldn't places where you'd see someone semi-regularly (school, masjid, etc.) be more efficient

 

[yasmeen]

Marriage is a huge scam for decent guys, but especially decent Somali guys. They should look into indhoyar or other more agreeable women. Unless you see her mother treating her husband like a king and her dad treating her mom like a queen, don't marry her.

Annnnnd then you woke up.

They date white men.