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[wonyluvr]

How tall is he?

 

[wonyluvr]

Lemme plan your wedding

 

[Cambar]

5'11 to 6'0 but i feel like he has a background

 

[rayxn3]

5'11 to 6'0 but i feel like he has a background

What kind of a background?

 

[Cambar]

What kind of a background?

like a haram background but i feel like it's still there

 

[Hodan from HR]

Personally, I prefer to judge the person they are in the present. The past is in the past. If he is vulnerable and tells you his past, give him a chance but if he hides and is not open about it, I won't trust him.

 

[Kalsoon]

Does he want to get your family involved? Or are you the one wanting that? If he has a background, do you think he has fully moved on from that lifestyle?

 

[Sophisticate]

A discordant lifestyle indicates a possible misalignment of values, and the continuity of past behaviours may loom overhead. You might even use it against him to score points in an argument. If you decide to take him on, you’d better accept him, warts and all; if you have issues with his past, it’s best to reconsider. That said, it doesn’t mean people are incapable of change or growth; it just gives you a moment to pause. If there is evidence of addictive behaviour or struggles with self-control, that’s a major red flag.

 

[Cambar]

Does he want to get your family involved? Or are you the one wanting that? If he has a background, do you think he has fully moved on from that lifestyle?

i don't think so, i remember this time we went on a small little coffee date during a work break and the hospitals was in a busy city and he kept on looking behind me and I was obviously confused so I asked him why he was looking around, and he looked at me right in the eye, dead serious and said "just making sure nobody wants me d@ad" and then started laughing and that low key creeped me out and just told him i was getting a call from family and left. Mind you, this was before I moved so I'm reconsidering reaching out to him again

 

[Kalsoon]

i don't think so, i remember this time we went on a small little coffee date during a work break and the hospitals was in a busy city and he kept on looking behind me and I was obviously confused so I asked him why he was looking around, and he looked at me right in the eye, dead serious and said "just making sure nobody wants me d@ad" and then started laughing and that low key creeped me out and just told him i was getting a call from family and left. Mind you, this was before I moved so I'm reconsidering reaching out to him again

Consider your safety and health first. All that good you mentioned about him is negated by this one weird occurrence imo. Also, you work with him so if he turns out to be weirder than this he will know where you work.

 

[Cambar]

Consider your safety and health first. All that good you mentioned about him is negated by this one weird occurrence imo. Also, you work with him so if he turns out to be weirder than this he will know where you work.

I don't live there anymore and have moved very far from there, i'm definitely considering dropping him, cuz that's not the only weird thing he has said and it makes super uncomfortable

 

[IstarZ]

I don't live there anymore and have moved very far from there, i'm definitely considering dropping him, cuz that's not the only weird thing he has said and it makes super uncomfortable

Go with your gut. He sounds like trouble. In sha Allah you’ll find someone more suited to you.

 

[Moon-]

i don't think so, i remember this time we went on a small little coffee date during a work break and the hospitals was in a busy city and he kept on looking behind me and I was obviously confused so I asked him why he was looking around, and he looked at me right in the eye, dead serious and said "just making sure nobody wants me d@ad" and then started laughing and that low key creeped me out and just told him i was getting a call from family and left. Mind you, this was before I moved so I'm reconsidering reaching out to him again

thats a bit mad i cant lie is there anything else he said