Yaab! 30 year old Farax wants advice from xalimos on how to tell wife #1 he wants a second wife.

[Magan95]

 

[Magan95]

In the words of the great Kariis Baraawn, “These Faraxs ain’t loyal.”

Even after wifey gave him 2 children and they had a happy marriage… he gets married when on vacation.

 

[Shimbiris]

Saqajaan.

 

[El Nino]

Obvious troll post, dadkeena shaqala’aan saacid aa na heesto

 

[Magan95]

Obvious troll post, dadkeena shaqala’aan saacid aa na heesto

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[AbrahamFreedom]

Creation of more dysfunctional families.

 

[Strawberry]

 

[Magan95]

Creation of more dysfunctional families.

Honestly… I know this doesn’t happen often in our community in the younger generation. I usually see Somali men with just 1 wife but did he think this would make his family stronger?

I really hope this is a troll post because wow. The disregard for his wife and children’s family structure is something else.

 

[Shimbiris]

Her beauty... caught my eye... this was all lust. Not even about spreading his seeds or helping a woman in need or, not that we live in the day and age for it, any political or economic benefit. Lust. Saqajaan.

 

[Abu Hesi]

His wife is 27 and he loves her yet qoftoo qalanja ah ayaa ka dhaxbaxday.

He needs to regroup, wey dhacdaa.

markaas oo kale xaaskaada ayaa loo tagaa, 3 rounds ayaa lagalaa. Markuu jilbaahada dhacaanka kadhamaado if you still thinking about that other chick, then I'm sorry you are not in love with your wife.

 

[Strawberry]

Wife current mood + child support

Another day of this cheater taking L

 

[Lebron James]

Stop falling for the baits

 

[Angelina]

His wife is 27 and he loves her yet qoftoo qalanja ah ayaa ka dhaxbaxday.

He needs to regroup, wey dhacdaa.

markaas oo kale xaaskaada ayaa loo tagaa, 3 rounds ayaa lagalaa. Markuu jilbaahada dhacaanka kadhamaado if you still thinking about that other chick, then I'm sorry you are not in love with your wife.

I’m beginning to think a lot of men aren’t really in love with their wives or that men can simply love a woman and desire other women. But ultimately, a man that truly loves his wife, will put her and the kids first and anyone with half a brain can see that having a wife on a completely different continent is just going to tear down the relationship. It’s just dumb. Look at our kids? Prison, LGTB, delinquency and the list goes on whilst dad is back home living it up. Forget loving the wife, the real question is, do they even love their kids?

 

[Yaraye]

Men cause too much problems . I swear I would remain single and childless forever, If I weren't worried about who would take care of me if I was old. You can't have children without marriage. So marriage it is. How else is my retirement plan (my children) gonna come into existence?

P.S. of course, I'll love and care for my children.

 

[AbrahamFreedom]

Honestly… I know this doesn’t happen often in our community in the younger generation. I usually see Somali men with just 1 wife but did he think this would make his family stronger?

I really hope this is a troll post because wow. The disregard for his wife and children’s family structure is something else.

What definently happens often are requests to marry a second wife (or first wife) if you're vacationing in Somalia and even in the west (rarely) once you hit your late 20s or early 30s. Second wives come into the conversation at that age. They will decline the second wife offers though. Aunts and uncles provide the biggest (or only pressure) when it comes to second wives, never your parents or siblings. You should not visit Somalia without your wife or kids.

This guy is incredibly stupid though. Her father just wants to use him. How does he not see that?

 

[Kalsoon]

Seems like he might have already had a wandering eye. Looking for the next best thing. He needs to be honest with himself. He wasn’t completely content in his established home life.

 

[empressjamila]

This is why marrying a farax is scary. Let him out of your sight for too long and he’ll go find a second wife like it’s nothing. I feel bad for his wife. I don’t think he ever truly loved her, she was just “good for now” and he was always waiting for the next best thing

 

[AbrahamFreedom]

This is why marrying a farax is scary. Let him out of your sight for too long and he’ll go find a second wife like it’s nothing. I feel bad for his wife. I don’t think he ever truly loved her she was just “good for now”

Not all faraxs. Barely practicing western integrated Somali guys would never consider this or even find it appealing. It's obvious many religious/cultured Somali guys don't love their wives and see marriage as a transaction.

 

[Yaraye]

I’m beginning to think a lot of men aren’t really in love with their wives or that men can simply love a woman and desire other women. But ultimately, a man that truly loves his wife, will put her and the kids first and anyone with half a brain can see that having a wife on a completely different continent is just going to tear down the relationship. It’s just dumb. Look at our kids? Prison, LGTB, delinquency and the list goes on whilst dad is back home living it up. Forget loving the wife, the real question is, do they even love their kids?

Nah. Many men out here don't really love their kids like that. They know that raising, rearing, and guiding the child will be placed on the mother. In fact, a lot of them count on a mother's love for their child. They count on the fact that a mother is willing to go to hell and back for their child So they feel like they don't need to put in the work. They will purposely slack off or even disappear into the sunset knowing that their child will be just fine. And finally when the mother has gone through hell raising the child and the child is in collage/ starting a job and she start to reap the benefits of the child's success (usually money wise/ filial piety) these slacking/ absentee fathers have the audacity to pop back up demanding filial piety (usually they demand money). If they don't demand it, they try to slickly ask for it.

That's the best case senerio tho. A lot of child tend to be lost without their fathers. they'll turn to (like you said) drugs, go to prison, LGBTQ..etc illahi ha hanunio.

 

[Kalsoon]

What definently happens often are requests to marry a second wife (or first wife) if you're vacationing in Somalia and even in the west (rarely) once you hit your late 20s or early 30s. Second wives come into the conversation at that age. They will decline the second wife offers though. Aunts and uncles provide the biggest (or only pressure) when it comes to second wives, never your parents or siblings. You should not visit Somalia without your wife or kids.

This guy is incredibly stupid though. Her father just wants to use him. How does he not see that?

Some people lack emotional intelligence.