35 year old woman and 50 year old man.

[Man with a garuun]

Be very very very careful sis.

You could end up with a grumpy old man, who is too tired to do things. You are not in the same stage in life and never will be.

35-50
40-55
45- 60
50-65

Research what tends to happen to men in those age-ranges. Unless he is the exception and is extremely fit, healthy, energetic and so forth. And there are also fertility issues with old man sperm.

If you look at the food that married Middle Eastern men consume daily, onion tops it. That is because people believe that the sperm count and its health are increased by consuming as much onion as one can consume.

Another food they consume is goat testicles. There is a belief that once an old or middle-aged man consumes goat testicles, he could be deploying huge and healthy sperm.

To others, niggaz don't come after me; I am just sharing stories that I heard and read.

Unless he is rich, what is there to gain? He is nice? Ok. He has to be nice, he is an old man trying to attract a much younger woman.

He brings "wisdom", experience, stability, and treating you like a queen.

You can meet a younger man that is decent, trust Allah SWT.

He is an oday, you are in the prime of your life. Pray istikharah to make your decision. Good luck.

What? You're sending her to the wilderness? She better go for the stability and the pension that are going to come in a decade and a half. She needs to be strategic when it comes to making life choices.

Beautiful, young woman and a stable middle-aged man are heavenly intended for one another. There is a Somali proverb: "Ninku dhali kara baa ku dhiqi kara".

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

If you look at the food that married Middle Eastern men consume daily, onion tops it. That is because people believe that the sperm count and its health are increased by consuming as much onion as one can consume.

Another food they consume is goat testicles. There is a belief that once an old or middle-aged man consumes goat testicles, he could be deploying huge and healthy sperm.

To others, niggaz don't come after me; I am just sharing stories that I heard and read.





He brings "wisdom", experience, and stability, and treating you like a queen.



What? You're sending her to the wilderness? She better go for the stability and the pension that are going to come in a decade and a half. She needs to be strategic when it comes to making life choices.

Beautiful, young woman and a stable middle-aged man are heavenly intended for one another. There is a Somali proverb: "Ninku dhali kara baa ku dhiqi kara".

Somali odays are known to be polygamous, so what's the purpose of this 'wisdom', when it's not tempered? Their track-record is awful. If they treated their first wives badly, or left them, why should a younger woman trust him? Maybe because his libido decreased? If so, that doesn't benefit a woman either, not in her prime.

Truthfully, when most women consider men they look for stability, and even more so, when the man is much older. There needs to be some form of compensation, to trade youth for an old man.

 

[Man with a garuun]

Somali odays are known to be polygamous, so what's the purpose of this 'wisdom', when it's not tempered? Their track-record is awful. If they treated their first wives badly, or left them, why should a younger woman trust him? Maybe because his libido decreased? If so, that doesn't benefit a woman either, not in her prime.

Polygamy is not being discussed in this thread. I think OP was asking for an opinion on a middle-aged man. The OP is already in the West. So I seriously doubt she would be entertaining a guy who is already married.

Truthfully, when most women consider men they look for stability, and even more so, when the man is much older. There needs to be some form of compensation, to trade youth for an old man.

Now, you're getting your head in the right direction You go for stability, wisdom, experience, and someone who understands the world. The OP is also on the right track and needs to concentrate on that.

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

Polygamy is not being discussed in this thread. I think OP was asking for an opinion on a middle-aged man. The OP is already in the West. So I seriously doubt she would be entertaining a guy who is already married.



No, you're getting your head in the right direction You go for stability, wisdom, experience, and someone who understands the world. The OP is also on the right track and needs to concentrate on that.

I mentioned polygamy, because it's a very popular mentality among odayaal. They like to collect wives, and children like trophies to be displayed. Younger Somali men are less inclined to be polygamous by comparison.

As for stability, that means $$, and not many SINGLE odays make good money, and when they are rich, they ruin it by spreading that money among too many families (polygamy or extended relatives).

But yes, if an oday combines certain things, he has a higher chance of being considered by most.

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

Same goes for older women, there is always something, beyond their character, that makes them desirable to most people.


Khadijah AS, was an older woman, married TWICE before the prophet and she had children, but she was considered an eligible bachelorette by the men around her, precisely because of her looks, money, and social status. And this was in ancient Arabia where sexism reigned supreme. She also gave birth to 6 children past the age of 40.


This is how the world works, nothing changes, no matter what year we are in.

 

[Man with a garuun]

I mentioned polygamy, because it's a very popular mentality among odayaal. They like to collect wives, and children like trophies to be displayed. Younger Somali men are less inclined to be polygamous by comparison.

As for stability, that means $$, and not many SINGLE odays make good money, and when they are rich, they ruin it by spreading that money among too many families (polygamy or extended relatives).

Again, polygamy in the West is not easy and doable unless one is extremely rich. So that should not be a concern for the OP. She just needs to concentrate on her man and take the age doubts out of her mind.

But yes, if an oday combines certain things, he has a higher chance of being considered by most.

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

Again, polygamy in the West is not easy and doable unless one is extremely rich. So that should not be a concern for the OP. She just needs to concentrate on her man and take the age doubts out of her mind.

Age related issues are very real, I'm not referring to OP, she can obviously do what she wants. But there are a myriad of age-related issues, unless someone is exceptionally healthy and fit.

Even related to things such as ;

Erectile dysfunction is a very common condition, particularly in older men. It is estimated that half of all men between the ages of 40 and 70 will have it to some degree.

According to landmark studies by University of Chicago researchers, among men age 50 to 64, about one-third suffer ED. From age 65 to 85, the figure is approximately 44 percent. While ED becomes increasingly common in older men, more than half never develops it.

Which is why I highly recommend financial compensation for such a guur.

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

Anyway, ultimately, @Man with a garuun qofwalba wuxu rabo ha sameeyo.

I just like to dole out unsolicited advice, in the hopes that it helps someone make an informed decision. And, thankfully, for older men AND women, there are age-related issues that can be reversed or mitigated with good diets, fitness and so forth. So, may all mutually consensual relationships flourish.

 

[Mudug_gyal]

A younger woman wouldn’t choose an older man over a guy whos in his prime like her unless its for money and stability, lets stop being delusional for a sec

 

[Man with a garuun]

Age related issues are very real, I'm not referring to OP, she can obviously do what she wants. But there are a myriad of age-related issues, unless someone is exceptionally healthy and fit.

Even related to things such as ;






Which is why I highly recommend financial compensation for such a guur.

Is the OP's man a Somali or dhagax-looking nigga or saan-cadaale xiribo cad cadow?

If ED is an issue, she can jump ship after the marriage. But she would not know that unless the nigga gets down to business after marriage.

Atend of the day, the people who get married won't take our advice. It is all about how much they know and love one another.

 

[Angelina]

If you look at the food that married Middle Eastern men consume daily, onion tops it. That is because people believe that the sperm count and its health are increased by consuming as much onion as one can consume.

Another food they consume is goat testicles. There is a belief that once an old or middle-aged man consumes goat testicles, he could be deploying huge and healthy sperm.

LOL your post made me chuckle with the onion and goat nonsense. Made me think of a middle Eastern with smelly onion breath

To others, niggaz don't come after me; I am just sharing stories that I heard and read.








He brings "wisdom", experience, stability, and treating you like a queen.



What? You're sending her to the wilderness? She better go for the stability and the pension that are going to come in a decade and a half. She needs to be strategic when it comes to making life choices.

True. Pension yes, but also take into consideration the arrays of health issues Somali odeys have? Many women end up a free carer whilst they’re young and their kids are young and need their full attention.

Many of our Somali dads married young and around 60-Something and even late 50s, they tend to have health problems like diabetes which is the most common, cholesterol and even issues with strokes and such. Our diets and lifestyles is very toxic and tbh around 50 the human body becomes weaker and men are simply more susceptible to illnesses around that age compared to women.

It’s easier for our mothers to deal with since they’re older as well and they have older children that can help them with burden of looking after dads.

My dad wasn’t even that young per say when he married but early 30s is still an age were people are still in their youth and tend to be fit and healthy. He was around 32, but I was lucky to have a parent that could run in the park with me and have fun with. I’ll always cherish was memories.

My younger sibling the baby of the family on the other hand, didn’t get that. The youngest was born when my dad was around 49, my mum isn’t significantly younger since she was in her early 40s, but since they had us older lot, we were able to help. But imagine how it would feel being a young woman with an old man as a husband and no older children as a support system and you don’t have someone who has the energy you do? At least my parents had the same energy vibe and my mum once had a young husband who was energetic as her.

Beautiful, young woman and a stable middle-aged man are heavenly intended for one another. There is a Somali proverb: "Ninku dhali kara baa ku dhiqi kara".

We both know that proverb is one utilized by older Somali men. I don’t deny the benefits of an age gap in places like Somalia in which resources are scarce. But it doesn’t benefit women in the West in which they have the luxury to secure their own. Women too care about looks, health, compatibility ect.

In saying that, OP is a grown ass woman which I’ve mentioned countless of times. She can make her own decisions and if she loves him and he treats her well then it’s her business.

 

[Angelina]

Is the OP's man a Somali or dhagax-looking nigga or saan-cadaale xiribo cad cadow?

If ED is an issue, she can jump ship after the marriage. But she would not know that unless the nigga gets down to business after marriage.

Atend of the day, the people who get married won't take our advice. It is all about how much they know and love one another.

True, that’s right. A 35 yr old know she wants and she shouldn’t listen to us.

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

you dont see them because they dont operate in the same circles or the man is already in a relationship and is satisfied

all I know is younger women is way more open to the idea of large age gap than vice versa. whether its money or charm, the odds are on mens favor

Haye, here is the the poll so far,

15 NO
5 Yes- with conditions.

Ladies only poll: Would you ever marry a much older man?

To my suprise i have seen many young women who marry and divorce quickly. I use to be Team 19-23 but those girls are extremely unstable and in my opinion not fit for marriage yet, atleast the western ones. I believe a woman who has seen some adversity in her life is better prepared for marriage...

www.somalispot.com

I told you, women are not into older men for the most part and when they are, it's a very calculated decision based on securing financial freedom. So, the average older man does not have a large pool of bachelorettes to choose from, which is why a lot of them like to hunt for poor girls in developing countries.

 

[Angelina]

Haye, here is the the poll so far,

15 NO
5 Yes- with conditions.

Ladies only poll: Would you ever marry a much older man?

To my suprise i have seen many young women who marry and divorce quickly. I use to be Team 19-23 but those girls are extremely unstable and in my opinion not fit for marriage yet, atleast the western ones. I believe a woman who has seen some adversity in her life is better prepared for marriage...

www.somalispot.com

I told you, women are not into older men for the most part and when they are, it's a very calculated decision based on securing financial freedom. So, the average older man does not have a large pool of bachelorettes to choose from, which is why a lot of them like to hunt for poor girls in developing countries.

Don’t forget to include to add insult to Injury, some of the girls who are okay with an age gap also said they wouldn’t go for an older Somali guy since they feel they age badly

 

[EyiPunter]

Don’t forget to include to add insult to Injury, some of the girls who are okay with an age gap also said they wouldn’t go for an older Somali guy since they feel they age badly

There's a counter view point after the age of 35 guys gotta bring water to the sahara

 

[Farahslayer]

I didn’t see that coming. AT all.

To each their own. Like I said a 35 yr old know their own mind.

Wasn’t there a really famous case of a Somali woman back home getting pressured to marry an oday and have kids because she was in her 30s only to get HIV? I swear it was trending like 2 weeks ago.

somalia/somaliland/ethiopia/djibouti need the 4B movement like 10 years ago. This is super pathetic.

 

[Yaraye]

I won’t be doing all that. Nor will I ask him for any tests. As for money I work. I can make my own. He already impressed with his character. Peace.

 

[KaiMarvin]

Haye, here is the the poll so far,

15 NO
5 Yes- with conditions.

Ladies only poll: Would you ever marry a much older man?

To my suprise i have seen many young women who marry and divorce quickly. I use to be Team 19-23 but those girls are extremely unstable and in my opinion not fit for marriage yet, atleast the western ones. I believe a woman who has seen some adversity in her life is better prepared for marriage...

www.somalispot.com

I told you, women are not into older men for the most part and when they are, it's a very calculated decision based on securing financial freedom. So, the average older man does not have a large pool of bachelorettes to choose from, which is why a lot of them like to hunt for poor girls in developing countries.

Fair enough. Better have money to have a chance then

 

[Ladylike]

A younger woman wouldn’t choose an older man over a guy whos in his prime like her unless its for money and stability, lets stop being delusional for a sec

I wish i never wasted a minute of my life with guys my age or close to it. they gave me a headache lol they are just as insecure as women and they're very indecisive. Alhamdulilah anyways at least i never married them or had babies by them.

 

[Mudug_gyal]

I wish i never wasted a minute of my life with guys my age or close to it. they gave me a headache lol they are just as insecure as women and they're very indecisive. Alhamdulilah anyways at least i never married them or had babies by them.

If you’re more into maturity and stability you should go for someone older. But if youre into looks a guy your age. If you want both then early 30’s is the sweet spot