5000 euro mahr? too much?

[Thugnificent]

Are you a guy? You’re only 19 no one expects you to have that. If you wanna marry young while still in college I’m sure you’re parents will help you iA. And if you wait longer, iA you will make decent $$. It’s better to wait and get married in your late 20s. That allows you to get your education, travel, experience life and save. We Somalis take marriage lightly but it really isn’t. And most Somali women are understanding, if you truly don’t have the money most will understand.

Wow, so you guys can earn up to $2.5k and still get free healthcare and housing? Like totally free?

You know what’s crazy about America, it’s not the stem workers that earn the most $$, matter of fact unless you’re an Engineer or Med… stem degree earns you not very much on avg. It’s actually the business owners and truck drivers etc that are the highest earners.

Edit: btw why not go to college & get a degree?

Not entirely free housing. The rent is usually like 700 euros a month and the government will pay like half of it.

This isn't even just for people on welfare but also for people who who work full-time but earn little. I'm sadly not entitled to this because I will earn way to much when I'm out of college.

To be honest. Living in Europe is better then living in America. Unless you earn like 150/200k a year.
Edit: to reply to your point about going to college. College isn't for everyone. The majority won't get a uni degree because of multiple reasons. It's just a fact

 

[Cerberus]

The average salary is 2k a month. So 5k is almost 3 months of salary. Besides that the groom has to pay for the wedding that's another 10/15k.

So It will take 3/4 years of working for the average farax to pay for a wedding.

So your best chances for a high meher(20k+) is marrying an older man(almost 30).or someone from back home(his entire fam/clan will chip in). In both cases there is a higher chance that he'll end up getting another wife(because he'll feel that he bought you).

The number one thing stopping faraxs in the west from getting multiple wifes is their financial situation. Marrying a rich man will mean that'll he'll probably exercise all his options.

So thread carefully.

We got money here in the west man. I got $100k saved up and past marriage I barely paid much money.

 

[sagegreen]

5000 euro? A man from the west? This man must be greedy or broke. Stay with your mommy saaxib

 

[Cerberus]

5000 euro? A man from the west? This man must be greedy or broke. Stay with your mommy saaxib

It's not about money it's about love dog damit

 

[sagegreen]

It's not about money it's about love dog damit

It's all about the money. You must be broke

 

[Cerberus]

It's all about the money. You must be broke

I got a lot of savings mane.

 

[Calaf]

Edit: btw why not go to college & get a degree?

Unless you live in Europe, UK Student Loan = 9.25k a Year, a tad expensive on the average Somali Family. x5 or x6, so some resorts to the interest based Student Loan.

Not that its a major problem per se, but it add more financial costs.

 

[Xaruun]

Lol 4K haha. Wow! I wasn’t talking about UK - my understanding is you guys are more gaajo then most diasporas - sorry to burst your bubble but yes most decent and avg American faraxs do fork out around at least $20k minimum for weddings. I didn’t talk even include the mehr money if you noticed in my original post because xalimos ask little to nothing(most think it’s greedy to ask for more) and also that’s not publicly disclosed. Even uneducated farax can hop on a truck here and pull in 80K easily.

Edit: btw in America it’s very common for people to book the Hilton or Hyatt or other decent 4 or 5 star hotels for their weddings. That alone is minimum of 10k.

Reer fenty Somalis are balling. U.S. actually has jobs

 

[Abba Sadacha]

how much are you gona give to girl?

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How much is that in USD? About $5,901?
Not bad. My cousin got married for about that much. The blessed marriage is the one that is less burdensome. A high Mahr isn't forbidden but is disliked.

 

[Caspian]

I wouldn't give more than 1k if she doesn't want you enough to agree to a low mahar then she doesn't rate you like that.

 

[Asha 🌺✨]

That’s a month salary?
15-20k is reasonable espacially in Euro country’s

 

[Abdi sensei]

Well, as it has been narrated, the best of dowries are the easiest.

Its a sad state of affairs that women put such heavy yokes on already struggling brothers.

A surah or dua should be enough imho.

I feel like it’s honorable to the family to pay at least something.

However, the quality of women (virginity/reputation) must be guarnteeed if you are investing money.

 

[Amirah]

Unless you live in Europe, UK Student Loan = 9.25k a Year, a tad expensive on the average Somali Family. x5 or x6, so some resorts to the interest based Student Loan.

Not that its a major problem per se, but it add more financial costs.

wow, thats interesting I didn’t know UK tuition was that expensive. It’s almost American prices. That’s around $14k USD. Ours range from around that to 50k. Average is around 20k per year. Most people do take out loans unfortunately. I know some people with 150K+ in debt plus interest.

 

[Shibbane]

I am sorry, but if I can't cut a check for your mehr a week into our wedding, then you and I are not meant to be together.

 

[Ozworld]

how much are you gona give to girl?

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